'We're pregnant'

[shesgrownhorns]

AIBU to hate this? You're not BOTH pregnant, only one of you is!

I had a work colleague refer to her "pregnancy journey" made me think she was a twat

The Daily Mail said today a couple “gave birth to quads”.

Two each. Seems fair 😉

YABU. It's not like my boyfriend just impregnated me and has fuck all to do with it now. WE chose to start a family, WE made a baby and WE are going to be parents. I don't really care if it's 'technically medically incorrect'. It's not about scoring points about who's having to suffer to have the baby. I knew what I was getting myself into, we agreed it was something we wanted to do together. Why would I try and score points by pointing out its all about me?!

And to those who are saying guys who say we're pregnant are disrespecting their partners...you clearly have very low expectations of men. That's why you choose who you have children with, so you don't have that problem. I really don't care how my boyfriend describes it.

Wait till you're in the delivery room, meggy... Trust me, it's all about you...

If you don’t like it don’t use it. If others want to use it, that’s up to them.

WE chose to start a family, WE made a baby and WE are going to be parents.

These are all great!
WE are pregnant not so great. I don’t think it has anything to do with point scoring - it just sounds so incredibly naff. The man isn’t pregnant - why would anyone want to think of their male partner as ‘being pregnant.’ It’s just so cringeworthy.

meggybug bless

Why would I try and score points by pointing out its all about me?!

well, one of you is gestating a baby and the other one is not. Allocate the points however you wish.

Why does there have to be points at all? And yes, I completely get that in the delivery room I may feel differently for the time im there, I'm not that naive 😂. I just think it's odd that people get so upset by a turn of phrase! Meh, each to their own!

There aren't any points! That's the... er, point. "I'm pregnant he's not" is not about hogging all the points for yourself, it's a basic statement of fact. Like you (I'm guessing?) wouldn't say "we had a vasectomy".

I like the notion that men can be pregnant!

Like you (I'm guessing?) wouldn't say "we had a vasectomy".

Exactly.

It's not about scoring points. Rightly or wrongly I feel like growing and delivering my beautiful son is an achievement. It's my achievement and I'm really proud of myself for it. I had a crappy pregnancy and I got through it all. No not alone but still.

Ugh I hate this and it's usually the worst sort of drops tho spout this rubbish.

My in laws referred to "our" baby with my first

@Areyouhavingapoomum My in laws referred to "our" baby with my first

I think it can be a regional thing. My grandparents were scouse and it is quite common to refer to any family member (child, grandchild, niece, nephew, cousin, siblings) as "our [name]" or "our kid", either talking to the person or about them. My grandparents have passed away now and I deeply miss being referred to this way.

@meggybug it grates not only because pregnancy and birth only affect women, but because having children to care affects women sooooo much more than it ever affects men. They seem to be able to opt out of it, carry on with their career, and get all the damn sleep. Even if they start out with ‘our pregnancy’.

*to care for

Not keen on "we are pregnant" personally, but each to their own. Cant judge too harshly though as I use "we" incorrectly all the time. These days I find myself constantly talking about "we" in reference to my toddler: "guess what grandma, we did 3 poos in the potty today" or "we were a bit naughty on our walk today". Don't realise I do it until after I've said it! 🙈

I'm 35 weeks' pregnant and it's bad enough that OH drinks alcohol in front of me most nights! Lockdown is sooooooooo rough without wine!!! If he dared to say "We're pregnant" I'm honestly not sure my raging hormones could take it!!

I used to say 'we're pregnant' in private conversation with DH. I think it helped me feel less alone and afraid.

I'd never said it in front of someone else though, or allow DH to say this.

I saw a post on here recently saying 'were having a c section' I'm going to go out on a limb and so no WE are most definitely not.