'We're pregnant'

[shesgrownhorns]

AIBU to hate this? You're not BOTH pregnant, only one of you is!

Yes very cringe!

Mila Kunis had a fantastic bit on Jimmy Kimmel about this

I am pregnant, not my DH. Yes, he was part of the process of creating the pregnancy but doesn’t have to do any of the hard work. WE are having a baby because he will an equal parent to it but I am pregnant.

Still not as bad as those couples who start every observation: 'we think ...'

What, so you only have one mind between the two of you?

Just ask them have they decided which one will be pushing it out yet? Might clarify matters in their tiny minds.

I'm guessing this won't go down well?

100% agree - dreadful phrase!

It doesn't bother me, but I've never been pregnant - perhaps I'd feel differently if I had (or 'we had' )

I can't get worked up about it, would never use it, but it's been used for decades.

I was with my sister when she gave birth in my early 20s, and I had terrible sympathy pains that night. Maybe that's what started it.

It’s more cringe to see people get so annoyed about what others say when there’s no harm in it

As far as I was concerned it was our pregnancy - I hardly did it by myself after all.

Well you did, actually. It took 2 to get pregnant - but only you went through pregnancy.

But it needs both parties to get to that position! I don’t see the issue

It’s cringeworthy, although marginally less cringeworthy than “our labour”/“our birth”.

Can't say it's ever offended me but it is a bit cringe

"I'm Pregnant" but "We're expecting" and "We're having a baby"

I 100% understand the hatred and used to share it. However, I now have a slightly different perspective. We had a loss at 23 weeks, a MMC at 12 weeks and I am now pregnant via IVF after 2 years of infertility. I prefer it being OUR pregnancy. Then it feels less like my fault is / when things go wrong. Yes, he doesn't have to go the misery of morning sickness and exhaustion. Yes, he didnt go through the misery of giving birth to babies that wouldnt survive. But.. he had to watch me go through it and feel helpless. We have both put so much into this, that it really feels like OUR pregnancy. So, as I say, totally understand the hatred, but sometimes there is a good, caring reason to use that phrase.

This gives me an absolute irrational rage whenever I hear/see it.

Hate this phrase. It makes me want to scream. We're expecting a baby is fine but not we're pregnant.

YANBU.

We're having a baby. Yes! We're pregnant. NO!!!!

Yanbu OP

I also hate this overly worrying about the exact wording other people use.

I agree, although I hate it more than the phrases themselves.

DH told his brother 'we've had a son' after I'd given birth.

Gave me no end of rage.

What did you push out? Unless it was a fully formed human YOU haven't had anything!

The folk who say it will be the ones on here who reply to posts with ‘we think...’, ‘husband and I...’. Why not just answer for yourself, as an individual?

I have only ever read this nobody has ever said it to me.

YANBU. Gives me irrational rage. I imagine it to be said by handmaidens and men, who have have no fucking idea.