'We're pregnant'

[shesgrownhorns]

AIBU to hate this? You're not BOTH pregnant, only one of you is!

It gives me the rage (that and "should of" ). I probably just need to chill though.

"But it needs both parties to get to that position! I don’t see the issue"

The man gets the women pregnant. The woman doesn't get the man pregnant (or it is worrying ) . You need a doctor to practice C-section on you. It doesn't mean the doctor has a c-section. A woman will continue to be pregnant without the man. The man won't remain pregnant without the woman. We are pregnant is just daft.

Lord, I need to Chill

Yeaaaah I agree with @Bumbers. WE have been through years of infertility, tests, drugs, IVF - yes I have had some surgeries and procedures that he hasn't, but he has dealt with many other horrible things (like my horrendous side effects). WE have been through hell to get this child and it absolutely feels like WE are pregnant. Clearly I'm the one with the foetus and the morning sickness but I won't feel guilty for saying we, when this has been an extreme joint effort!

Yes agree absolutely and boobing to sleep ...... grrrh

Yep, it's a bit stupid really.

"We're expecting" and "we're having a baby" , as has been said already, absolutely fine, you're both doing that.

"We're pregnant" only applies in female-female partnerships where both are pregnant at the same time. A man is not pregnant, nor can he be. He does not go through the pregnancy health issues, however small or large they may be and he does not push the baby out (or get cut open) at the end. So no, it's not HIS pregnancy. Ever.

Hate it too, it’s really naff.

Then there’s usually a gazillion FB posts that make it feel like the pregnancy is nine years not nine months

Why do you need to articulate that, OP? Do you have to gain validation for every thought pops up in your head? Can you not just give a little silent internal shudder and put it behind you?

You know you're going to needle myriad posters who do use that term and yet you thought you'd post it anyway? Nasty of you.

I despise this. Now my dd is 3 weeks old I’m still correcting my husband for his cringing use of it.

We did not carry and true a human for 9 months, I did
We did not experience various pregnancy symptoms that made every day a rollercoaster, I did
We did not get ripped from front to back in labour, I did
We did not have to face our needle phobia, I did
We did not experience constipation that required hospital intervention one week postnatal, i did.

Frankly it’s ltb territory if he continues using we much longer!!

Unless “we” both have spots, painful hips, stabby vaginas, bleeding nipples, morning sickness which drains every bit of strength, heartburn, and random feet in bladders then no, “we” most certainly are not pregnant

Don't really give a shit to be honest

Couldnt care less

The meaning is clear. It affects nothing

Thank you @October2020 - glad it isnt just me!

Makes me cringe too.

Well sperm got you pregnant, don’t moan about the phrase and say it’s one person... then get upset of father doesn’t help.. you were the only one expecting..

Unless “we” both have spots, painful hips, stabby vaginas, bleeding nipples, morning sickness which drains every bit of strength, heartburn, and random feet in bladders then no, “we” most certainly are not pregnant

Yep, this. I'm currently 36 weeks and it's most definitely me that's growing the baby, not DP.

Yes, cringeworthy. I did a double-take when I heard one bloke say, "We had a caesarean" - I bet you didn't, mate!

You shared the sex that started off the baby & you can share bringing it up, but the bit in between is the woman's alone.

I can't get emotional about it.

Surprised nobody has come along to say that people shouldn’t be getting pregnant right now / for the next decade “cos coronavirus.”

@Isitweekendyet
Huh???
Nothing wrong with saying “we’ve had a son”

People who say that probably have a joint FB account as well.

I find it annoying too. It's along the lines of when people (normally posh) refer to "mum" and "dad" rather than "my mum" or "my dad". We are not siblings so why would you come out with "oh yes, mum likes that restaurant too".

Really grinds my gears

DH told his brother 'we've had a son' after I'd given birth.

But your DH does now have a son. Do you expect him to care and pay towards the child you both conceived? If yes, you’ve both got a son. Using the word ‘had’ is obviously not your husband referring the the birth.

I am pregnant but both DH and I will have a child at the end.

It makes me cringe too urgh

My DH used to say this and it drove me mental. I was the one who was massive, crying all the time, getting piles, feeling sick, struggling to walk, struggling to sleep, watching my skin stretch, not wanting sex, feeling too hot, needing to pee all the time, peeing myself occasionally, having nearly constant pelvic pain, and getting massive hands and feet. He can fuck off with his "we're."

(I really did not enjoy pregnancy!)

The only time it's acceptable if it's a lesbian couple, both of whom are actually pregnant.

Makes me a little stabby

Careful what you do with that - you could end up getting him pregnant

It does sound ridiculous, however as 'pregnant' technically only means 'expecting', maybe it is just semantics to say that "we are pregnant" and "we are expecting a baby" are necessarily any different.

DH told his brother 'we've had a son' after I'd given birth.

Gave me no end of rage.

Isn't that just a question of tenses, though? If a man says "we are having a baby" or "last year, we had a baby", nobody would question it. Maybe "we've got a son" would be more tactful, but how would you fee if your husband told people "she's had a son"? Doesn't that just sound like he's doubtful of the baby's paternity or didn't especially want him?

One of these days, we're going to have this thread again with people fumming that "ONLY ONE OF YOU IS PREGNANT!!!" and going on to terribly offend a lesbian couple who are both currently gravid....