DH won't stop playing with himself

[vinoelle]

This is semi light hearted, but this habit has been getting on my nerves in these fractious lock down times.

DH ALWAYS has his hands down his trousers, 'fiddling' with his bits when we are sitting on the sofa. It's not sexual, he isn't masturbating, and isn't erect, but basically the whole time we are watching tv or talking he will just be fiddling with himself, I don't know how else to describe it.

He's done it for years and I've mentioned it a couple of times, he just says he finds it comforting and gets a bit annoyed if I mention it or says I'm nagging. Just recently when we are trapped indoors together it's REALLY started to annoy me and I don't know why. I just find it a bit impolite? I have no issue with him masturbating properly in private, or scratching himself if he has an itch, but he'll just do it for ages and doesn't even have the decency to hide it under a blanket! ARGH. So IABU and a prude?

YANBU......And he would be leaving my home

He is masturbating, he's touching his genitals for pleasure (even if just 'comfort' or whatever). He sounds a bit regressed. I don't know what to suggest tbh. What would he do if you did the same?

Make him wear motorcycle gauntlets.

I`d be throwing a bucket of water over him. Threatening to tell all and sundry about his little habit. It is weird and unhygienic.

Have you tried yelling WASH YOUR HANDS like a dementor when he touches something - a cup/remote/ door handle - after EVERY grope?

Because that's where I'd start

I usually tell my DH "that it will fall off" when I see him doing it. Its a bloke thing, its like when we leave the house he pats his back pocket for his wallet, front pocket for keys and yup makes sure his bits are still there...like where else are they going to be in the cupboard under the stairs ffs lol. If anyone has a cure for this would they like to share it with the rest us. Obviously leaving or throwing him out is not option !

Don't they usually grow out of this as teenagers?
Start strumming your flaps as you go about your business and then be sure to touch every surface Infront of him. If my DP or DS so much as scratch their balls they're sent straight to the bathroom to wash their hands.
I'm not about those smeggy door-handles.

Yeah, I would find that gross but also wonder about the psychological reasons.

I hope he's not touching the remote control, door handles, keys, cupboard handles etc with his willy infused hands? Grim.

PP is right, he should be washing his hands after every fiddling session. Couldn't live with that. Yuck.

Revolting. I'd spray him with some zoflora.

He must manage to keep his hands out of his trousers at work. What does he do there?

Maybe a stress ball or fiddle cube?

Well if he washes his hands, what’s the problem? I do this frequently, maybe he’s in a bad habit?

Its a bloke thing well yeah since they're the only ones with penises 😂

Does he do it in public or at work? If not then he can stop himself at home.

Take him to the vet and get them put in a jar that you can keep on the mantelpiece?

😂 finding these replies hilarious!! @smurfie I'm glad my DH isn't the only one - honestly I think most men that I've been with have done it.

I guess it's got worse as we've slid into the 'comfort' zone in our relationship more like hit rock bottom with it as we are the sort of gross couple that use the bathroom when the other is on the toilet. But I never considered the hand washing side of things!

I think I'll probably mention it again but I k ow he won't take it well - it's such an engrained habit but yes he has a very high powered job so clearly keeps his hands out of his pants there! 🤦‍♀️

I'd hate this too! YANBU.

@puss genuinely the reason I haven't mentioned it much before is because I don't want to appear controlling. I can't tell if your post is sarcastic - but I did have a doubt about whether I was entitled to comment on how he touches his body!

It's not 'a bloke thing' - my DH has never done it and neither has DS11. it's really disgusting IMO!

Is really not a bloke thing, my DH and son don't do it.

Does he wash his hands after every fondling session OP?

Mine does this without realising it as it’s the norm. I’ve stopped shouting (good humoured) and now just reach for my phone to record him with the threat of social media. He stops instantly!

Oh dear! My 5 year old does this! Was hoping it would stop at one point

Eurgh. Does he drag his knuckles when he walks as well? Very simian-like behaviour.

I think this a bit of a man thing, although doing it all the time is off putting.

Not sure what to say really, it’s a habit, probably doesn’t realise he’s doing it most of the time.

If I catch my DP doing it I joke and tell him to stop touching himself, but he finds it funny then stops, I think he understands it’s not exactly pleasant for anyone else in the room.

But don’t any of you have habits similar to this that your DH doesn’t like?🤔

Yuck.
Dont we tell young boys its fine but only in private?