DH won't stop playing with himself

[vinoelle]

This is semi light hearted, but this habit has been getting on my nerves in these fractious lock down times.

DH ALWAYS has his hands down his trousers, 'fiddling' with his bits when we are sitting on the sofa. It's not sexual, he isn't masturbating, and isn't erect, but basically the whole time we are watching tv or talking he will just be fiddling with himself, I don't know how else to describe it.

He's done it for years and I've mentioned it a couple of times, he just says he finds it comforting and gets a bit annoyed if I mention it or says I'm nagging. Just recently when we are trapped indoors together it's REALLY started to annoy me and I don't know why. I just find it a bit impolite? I have no issue with him masturbating properly in private, or scratching himself if he has an itch, but he'll just do it for ages and doesn't even have the decency to hide it under a blanket! ARGH. So IABU and a prude?

Oh jesus that's disgusting.

So he's there twiddling and scritching and making sure those tiny beads of piss and smeg and worked nicely under his fingernails, then off he trots opening doors, touching surfaces etc.

Plus - just such a minging habit to have. Does he do it unthinkingly in public? It would be like having to sit next to someone excavating the contents of their nose constantly and not even realising how utterly awful and mannerless they look.

I couldn't live with someone with such disgusting habits.

My DH does this too although not constantly. I just watch him in his own little world browsing the Internet and playing with his balls and tell him he'll go blind. He normally doesn't even realise he's been doing it. Can't say it particularly bothers me as I think it's a subconscious comfort thing some men do. Might start spraying him with a water bottle though. That might be fun and I am getting a bit bored.

Very spicy 🌶 crisps might make him think twice?

My dp doesn't do this - ewww

Urgh urgh urgh. If someone caught me with my hands down my pants I'd be mortified. Why aren't all the men on this thread dying of shame when their wives catch them fiddling with themselves in full view???

Hope he’s washing his hands and singing ‘Happy Birthday’!

It's not a bloke thing. My DH doesn't do it, my Dad doesn't do it, my uncles and cousins don't do it, my BiLs don't do it.

For all I know they may do when they are on their own but they don't do it in the presence of others.

If he can have such respect for others that he doesn't do it in front of them, then why can't he show you that respect too?

Revolting. I'd spray him with some zoflora.

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Thought it was just hard kids wearing grey trackies who 'swear on me kidz life' who do this?

@MrsSpenserGregson he’s not actually masturbating, he’s just touching it. It could be that it’s itchy. Relax

@ Burplecutter how do you know they don’t do it?

My DP sometimes has his hands down his pants when we are lounging around TV but so do I... so I can't see the problem. It's not around anyone else and is not sexual.

It could be that it’s itchy. Relax

He can probably get cream for that....or you know scratch it in private like any normal human would.

Maybe buy him a stress ball

@howfar I'm sure I do and I think all couples have things that annoy the other. However when those annoyances cross a line with what general society finds acceptable then maybe it's not unreasonable to question it? That's why I ask this thread as I genuinely wasn't sure if it was just a irritating habit, as you say, or actually more unacceptable. It seems most people think this is crossing a line say compared to chewing too loudly.

He does it privately in the house though, it’s not like he’s doing it in public

It absolutely is not a bloke thing. YUCK

If he manages not to do it at work he can refrain from doing it at home.

@howfar and if I wasn't in the room I wouldn't have a problem with it, he can do what he likes with his body. But earlier today I was having a conversation with him - and he was doing it as I was looking at him talking and I just felt annoyed by it.

It's gross
Not something all men do either

Never seen my husband do that ever. And don't want to either.
Major hygiene issue let alone a total turn off.

Does anyone know any women that do it? @erik it wasn't clear what bits you're playing with 😂

Get a water spray... each time you see him doing it or about to....SPRAY! It worked with our old cat when she was piddling in the lounge.

If he's doing it all the time do his hands not smell like sweaty balls? Grim

How often does he do it?

@vinoelle
It was actually my DH suggestion

@Howfar12
He's not doing it privately, he's doing it in front of a captive audience ^^

I'd ask him to stop and wash his hands or ask him to leave the room and return when he's finished and washed his hands.

Bleurgh. Tell him he's disgusting.