DH won't stop playing with himself

[vinoelle]

This is semi light hearted, but this habit has been getting on my nerves in these fractious lock down times.

DH ALWAYS has his hands down his trousers, 'fiddling' with his bits when we are sitting on the sofa. It's not sexual, he isn't masturbating, and isn't erect, but basically the whole time we are watching tv or talking he will just be fiddling with himself, I don't know how else to describe it.

He's done it for years and I've mentioned it a couple of times, he just says he finds it comforting and gets a bit annoyed if I mention it or says I'm nagging. Just recently when we are trapped indoors together it's REALLY started to annoy me and I don't know why. I just find it a bit impolite? I have no issue with him masturbating properly in private, or scratching himself if he has an itch, but he'll just do it for ages and doesn't even have the decency to hide it under a blanket! ARGH. So IABU and a prude?

Yuck no. DS OTOH is always trying to but he is 5 and told it is inappropriate touching in the living room. As an adult you don't need to feel your balls for comfort get a squishy toy.
I hate when I see a teenager in the street doing it, DP brother done it for years, I think it is juvenile especially if there is little sister's in the home.

@Howfar12
Some of you are saying it’s not a bloke thing, but if you did a poll more than 75% of men would say they do it

Depends on the kind of men you'd ask. I don't know any, out of family and friends that would behave like that.

Do the same, then plunge your hand into the popcorn before passing it onto him, the dirty mutt!

@crackerscheesescabbyknees strumming your flaps. Ahahahahahahaha actual LOLd at that phrase lol thank you, best thing I've read all day. Am in bits hahahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣

But don’t any of you have habits similar to this that your DH doesn’t like?

Similar to randomly fondling my genitalia while I'm watching telly or whatever? No.

I'd be reminding him to wash his hands afterwards, OP. Do it often enough and he might not stop entirely but probably will stop doing it in your sightline. If he's going to behave like a poorly socialized dog then, well, consequences and so on.

(You could also try treating him like a cat and spritzing his hand with a spray bottle of water when it moves in a down the trousers direction.)

@crackerscheesescabbyknees strumming your flaps. Ahahahahahahaha omg actual LOLd at that phrase lol thank you, best thing I've read all day. Am in bits hahahahahaha 🤣🤣

A few months ago I was walking to catch my train after work, and had no choice but to walk past a group of young men standing outside a shop, they were a bit intimidating to be honest, swearing noisily at each other and refusing to move out of the way of people etc. One of them had his tracksuit bottoms pulled out so far from his body and so low down rummaging around that I could actually see the underside of his balls. He made a point of making eye contact with me too. It was extremely intimidating. He wasn't masturbating, but that didn't make it harmless.

I know the OP is being serious but some of the comments are hilarious

@crackerscheesescabbyknees found it that funny I've posted twice hahahaha whooooops
Still laughing 🤣🤣🤣

Eww! I couldn't put up with that, OP. It's juvenile and disrespectful. I have a five year old DS and he went through a phase of fiddling with himself while sitting on the sofa/walking around the house, and I reminded him every time that it's not appropriate. He's grown out of it now, but if he hadn't I'd be cracking down more as time went on... there's absolutely no way it's acceptable behaviour in an adult man.

Mine say his balls are always itchy as they get ai hot.

I am agog. Been with DH for 20 years (so a very comfortable stage of relationship), he's never done it. Nor my DS18. If I were to ever notice that in either of thrm, they would get a loud and clear earful! It's not normal, it's disgusting. Sorry OP.

My ex DH used to do this and recently realised our son is now doing the same, so must be a genetic trait - yuck...….

He must manage to keep his hands out of his trousers at work. What does he do there?

Not necessarily. We had a (married) guy on a team who used to do this. Complaints were raised by his colleagues, he was spoken to by his mangers more than once but he said it wasn't conscious and his behaviour didn't change. All his team were female but funnily enough it didn't happen if a male manager was in the vicinity. He was sidelined in the end (to a small mainly male team), his reputation follows him to this day, he's never progressed and thats all he's remembered for.

Nope not all men do it. I have never seen a man sitting there with his hand down his jocks fiddling with his willy. Well maybe when my boys were 2years old and they discovered theirs.

The fact he doesn't wash his hands is revoulting 🤮🤮 so he is rubbing wee bits, pubes, sweaty balls and whatever else and carrying on as normal.. I hope he doesn't make you a sandwich after.

Every time he does it, shove your hands into your knickers and give the puss a good aul rub.

I would follow suit, pick my nose, belch, fart, fiddle with myself etc
I think some men do it on purpose, it's a dominance thing 'I'm the alpha & I will behave as I please, your discomfort is irrelevant'

I dont think all men do this. In the three long term relationships with men ive had,none of them have done this. My sons dont do it either, nor does my dad or my stepdad.

I have seen chimps at the zoo compulsively play with their genitals though, so maybe he just needs to evolve

The thing is, it’s a habit, so he can’t stop doing it

Fucking hell op
Even my kids/ teens know not to masterbate in public
Never have I seen my 4 boys play with themselves
It’s a lack of respect for you ,

The thing is, it’s a habit, so he can’t stop doing it

Of course he can! People break habits all the time. Nail biting, smoking, buying takeaway coffees...

I used to know somebody who did this! To be fair he was 2 years old, and had stopped by the time he was 3...

@Smurfie12 Testicles Spectacles wallet and watch lol

But I never considered the hand washing side of things!

Seriously. So he has been fondling his bits in full view then picks up the TV remote or a phone or goes to make you a cup of tea.

I think I would generally be considered a little a lot lax by MN cleaning standards but this is revolting.

Don't be daft. You can stop habits. Takes three days to get into a habit and the same to stop apparently.

The thing is, it’s a habit, so he can’t stop doing it

Of course he can. People break habits all the time