DH won't stop playing with himself

[vinoelle]

This is semi light hearted, but this habit has been getting on my nerves in these fractious lock down times.

DH ALWAYS has his hands down his trousers, 'fiddling' with his bits when we are sitting on the sofa. It's not sexual, he isn't masturbating, and isn't erect, but basically the whole time we are watching tv or talking he will just be fiddling with himself, I don't know how else to describe it.

He's done it for years and I've mentioned it a couple of times, he just says he finds it comforting and gets a bit annoyed if I mention it or says I'm nagging. Just recently when we are trapped indoors together it's REALLY started to annoy me and I don't know why. I just find it a bit impolite? I have no issue with him masturbating properly in private, or scratching himself if he has an itch, but he'll just do it for ages and doesn't even have the decency to hide it under a blanket! ARGH. So IABU and a prude?

Ew. And another one saying it isnt a bloke thing. Even my 10 year old who is obsessed with his willy doesnt fiddle with it all the time

Have you tried telling him he is gross and disgusting?

Christ! It’s like dealing with a child.

It’s his body, he can do what he likes 🤷🏾‍♂️

I thought most men do this. I’m sure I saw a thread about women holding their breasts for comfort?!

If he's doing it all the time do his hands not smell like sweaty balls?

They must do - since the OP hasn't answered the question of whether he washes his hands I'm assuming the answer is no, and anything he touches in the home - mobile phone, door handles, tv remote, drawers, cups, etc is covered in his penis particles. < not envy.

I do it and my wife moans at me - it’s an unconscious thing for me not a sexual thing at all. I’ve done it since I can remember - my mum Nan and now My wife have all told me stop playing with it otherwise it’ll fall off. It’s common in across the whole great ape family, to which we belong. People quite often forget we are animals too with behaviours we can’t always explain.
Your husbands penis belongs to him - why does it even matter to you (and my wife) really am curious because if she wanted to sit there with her hands down her pants I could t care less !

It's gross! I have brothers, uncles, cousins, and I work in an office full of men. None of them do this. Many moons ago there was a guy in another firm I worked for, used to twiddle with his bits whilst talking to people and got shouted at for being disgusting. He stopped doing it then.

Are you male or female Howfar?

I do it and my wife moans at me

Your poor wife. Of course it’s not unconscious - did you do it at work? On the train?

@wickedly Sorry wasn't deliberately not answering - nope he does not wash his hands. I can genuinely say I never considered the hand washing aspect until this thread! Altho that bothers me less for some reason compared to having to watch it

My ex does this and it's disgusting and used to irritate the shit out of me! I used to scream his name every time I saw him do it and he would stop but honestly it wore me down and it got to the point I didn't find him attractive. I could hear him scratching through his trousers and it drove me to insanity! Was like scolded a child and I have enough of those already. I've even been to his to drop the kids off and he'll be talking to me and doing it and I can't help thinking "I'm so glad we're not together anymore you filthy pig"

It's gross and no not all men do it, my dad,brother and son don't.

@Warsawa31 Apes also throw their shit!

@MarieQueenofScots I’m a male, why?

My ex used to do this all the time sometimes when the kids were in the room too. I used to go mental at him.

@Warsawa31 same, I do it too, instinctively.

@artistformerlyknownas at home, one feels relaxed and not in the public, so there’s no problem

I don't think this is a bloke thing at all. Have never met a grown adult who just mindlessly sticks his hands down his underwear in front of other people (obviously have no idea what they do in a room alone, and don't particularly care). That's grim.

Does anyone know any women that do it? Realised as I was reading thinking "yuk", I had my hand just inside my trousers (been WFH all day, and still pyjama trousers, but with underwear), but at the back just on the waistband.
So maybe I'll withhold judgement; I don't think I'd do it if someone else was in the room though.

When mine does this I reach over and grab the parts instead! I'm not necessarily gentle and he usually jumps rather high. I just tell him that he looks like he needed some assistance. We've been married for over 30 years so you'd think he'd get used to it by now. Anyway, my 'adjustment' seems to work quite well and he suddenly doesn't need to fix those bits after all.

Now you've made it sound even worse. He does not wash his hands....I'm heaving

I’m a male, why?

I was just wondering....you’ve either got unpleasant habits or were a woman desperate to excuse the behaviour of men however grim.

You don’t need to tag thanks, I’m reading the thread

I worked in a restaurant in Greece with a manager that would do this while seating people at their tables! As soon as they were seated, he would stand in front of them reading the specials and groping himself over his clothes at exactly eye level. The TripAdvisor reviews were hilarious.

@Ivebeentohellanditscalledikea he’s doing it in front of his wife though. If she doesn’t like it, that’s not his problem

@warsaw I suppose we all have basic societal expectations - I wouldn't pick my nose in front of my husband, for example. To try to keep some standards. This isn't really any different

And I agree with PP that it is conscious enough that men don't do it at work or in front of their friends.

It's gross. I accept it isn't sexual but it's an unpleasant habit and like any bad habit, he can learn to keep it under control. Don't give in on this, he can stop doing it if he makes a bit of an effort.

It really ISN’T a bloke thing.

It’s a grotty, smeggy, can’t be arsed, zero courtesy kind of bloke thing.