Low blow from nurse?

[Justabitworried]

There's an article in the paper about a mental health nurse who had a note left on her windscreen from a neighbour calling her selfish for leaving the house everyday. Obviously the neighbour was out of order. But her response has riled me:

"I go to work every day supporting our country and have done for many years, while you are clearly spending your days watching me, probably claiming that your employed as a ‘full time mummy’."

AIBU? I'm a SAHM at the moment who used to work for the NHS. I don't think I was a better person when I was in work 'supporting our country'.

Sorry the link

www.thesun.co.uk/news/11365141/nurse-nhs-note-lockdown-norfolk/

Yeah I agree uncalled for..

I think the nurse could have wrote a lot worse in response to such a spiteful note.

I say that as a SAHM

Tit for tat 🤷‍♀️

Don’t worry about it. If you are happy with your choices, who cares?

Maybe that was how the note writer described herself.

The note was spiteful, it deserved a stinging response.

She's probably referring to the fact a lot of people put on social media that they are employed as a full time mummy.
The nurse may also have children, therefore she is also a full time Mummy.
Either way the nurse is probably massively stressed at the moment and the neighbour had no right to call her selfish. You have no idea why people are leaving the house.
Your post also seems very goady.

There’s no guarantee that a nurse will be a nice person though.

They do a bloody difficult job but there’ll be a whole raft of personalities amongst them.

Initial note was unnecessary, response equally so.

(And indeed YABU for sharing a link from The Sun)

Well the nurse gave back as good as she got. She’s probably got less than zero patience for busy body bullshit right now.

She apparently doesn't know which neighbour wrote the note. I don't agree with the note whatsoever. I just feel like the nurse was suggesting that a woman is worthless is she is a SAHM. I'm homeschooling 3 kids under 8, one with ASD, I certainly don't have time to spy on my neighbours.

Live by sword, die by it.

If I was the nurse I would have said some words that I won't repeat here, so I think she was actually quite restrained.

I've been a sahm but I cant stand when people refer to themselves at full time mummies. Does the mothers who work only part mummies. You're a mother regardless if you work or not. Good for the nurse I say.

I agree op. The nurse in question had every right to respond to such a nasty judgy note, however she was equally nasty and judgy.

She could have set the note writer straight without stooping to that really.

But it wasn't aimed at you so don't take it as a reflection on you.

It's not a great retort admittedly, but it's hardly worth getting upset about.

She doesn't know if a SAHM wrote the note! So why attack SAHMs?

I realise nursing is difficult I was training to be one when I got pregnant and so many of my friends are nurses. I'm scared for them right now. And I don't think they think less of me because I left nursing after having a baby.

She wasn't talking about you.

Id have been much less polite at that note! I also regularly take the piss out of people who put 'full time mummy' as their job on Facebook. Is that all they are good for? Is that all they've achieved? Am I not a 'full time mummy' because I have always worked, despite squeezing out numerous crotch goblins myself? 🙄

She comes over as badly as whoever left the note. She's not a better person than anyone else just because she's a nurse.

Wonder how she treats her vulnerable patients behind closed doors if that's how she's prepared to speak about people in the press.

I think she was very restrained in her response. Maybe she knows who put the note on her car.

I could not get riled about a nurse going out everyday - I am just grateful that she is doing exactly that.

She probably does have a fair idea of who wrote the note and unless you’re a curtain twitching busy body OP, why do you care so much? She wasn’t talking about you personally and is probably knackered and scared that she’ll bring the disease back to her own family whilst someone is focused on her comings and goings.

If you’re happy with your status, what does it matter what some random nurse in another town said to someone else?

There is nothing wrong with the nurse's response. What, you think she should have just ignored the note OP?? I'd have written something much worse.

I suspect she has a pretty good idea who wrote the note.

Spiteful but she's got a point. The author of the original note obviously has too much time on their hands.
Whatever their 'role' at home, they're not rushed off their feet if they spend their time tracking the comings and goings of a mental health nurse.