Low blow from nurse?

[Justabitworried]

There's an article in the paper about a mental health nurse who had a note left on her windscreen from a neighbour calling her selfish for leaving the house everyday. Obviously the neighbour was out of order. But her response has riled me:

"I go to work every day supporting our country and have done for many years, while you are clearly spending your days watching me, probably claiming that your employed as a ‘full time mummy’."

AIBU? I'm a SAHM at the moment who used to work for the NHS. I don't think I was a better person when I was in work 'supporting our country'.

I've never heard the term 'full time mummy' before... Didn't realise it's a thing I'm not on Facebook.

Really? And yet you didnt think 'what does that mean, all mothers are full time mothers. Even the ones still working. That doesnt make sense'

You jumped straight to assume she was attacking all sahm?

I suspect she knows who has written the note.
Full time mummy is cringe worthy.

I can’t get excited about it. Too many morons at the moment sticking their nose into other people’s business.

My neighbours are doing shit that’s against the lockdown occasionally but it’s nothing to do with me. I’m not reporting anyone. I’m not writing notes and putting them on peoples cars. If I were then I’d expect someone to give me shit for it. That’s what happened 🤷‍♀️

Im with her, SAHMs who call themselves "full time mummies" make me fucking homicidal - I'm not a part time parent because I'm paying our mortgage. You may feel that SAHMs are looked down on, but you should count yourself lucky you've never recieved the truly horrific vitriol I've experienced from the Full Time Mummy brigade because i went back to work - "oh you're so driven, i never could have done that, i just love my baby so much!" Yeah, you (not you OP) self-righteous nightmare, you're right, i don't love my baby at all, that's why I'm back at work, not because i have a career i worked hard for and enjoy. Id much rather have wasted thousands of pounds on qualifications and then relied on my husband while looking down my nose at working mums.

She probably feels a bit bitter that she's putting her life on the line every day whilst other gets to stay home safely with their kids.

Only to be criticised for doing so.

I bet she'd rather be at home with her children.

Not all nice people are nurses not all nurses are nice

She used a put down like that because she assumed she knew the note writer but if she knew the note writer was a full time mummy then you could assume the note writer knew she was a nurse it's a personal bitch off not "news"

The initial note writer was massively unreasonable and pretty thick, lots of essential jobs don't require uniform or have uniform that would be changed into/from at work.

The nurse's note wasn't the comeback of the century, she probably just used what she had based on the handwriting and curtain twitching.

Fwiw I'm a mental health nurse and a mum. I couldn't be a SAHM, it's bloody hard!

It’s quite twee. I was a sahm mum because I was made redundant when pregnant, and then my mum died and left me some money so I could afford to stay at home until ds went to school (she always used to say that kids should be with their parents if possible until they could speak and tell you if there was something wrong).

I didn’t stop being a mum 24/7 when I went back to work.

She was riled, OP, by the spiteful anonymous note , hence her reply.

You're riled by the nurse's reply , hence your thread in here.

Can you not see the irony.

Exactly what Shitsgettingcrazy said...

That nurse just made herself look almost as bad as the note writer. She can hardly take the moral high ground after letting her prejudices show like that.

Full time mummy is a ridiculous phrase.

It’s been around for years, at least 15, probably more.

I’m not on Facebook either op

Of course you have heard it before

I think what a lot of people are unaware of is that in mh services we too are looking after patients with COVID-19 (or symptoms they not tested unless they need to go into hospital and for some areas you have to be very ill to get admitted)

The term full time mummy is ridiculous deserves ridicule

And I don’t feel any sympathy for anyone that got a stinging response to leaving such a note

I think it was said in anger - not because she’s really implying that being a SAHM makes someone ‘worthless’.

YABU for linking to a story from that shite rag.

I think the nurse was probably just fucked off with the aggressive note quite honestly and wrote one back in the heat of the moment.
I got a nasty (anonymous aren't they always) note telling me to keep my vermin ridden coronavirus cat inside or else they "won't be responsible" for what they do to her.
She's 19 and only ever potters in the garden and sits on the front step watching the world go by. She can't jump any more so she can't get over the fence into anyone's garden. She's had a stroke so she limps.
When I find out who is responsible for the note I "won't be responsible" for kicking their sorry arse up and down the road.

I'll bet it was the bubble over the i's that tipped her over the edge .

YABU. The note and insult was directed at one person in particular. Not all SAHMs. I would look at someone with disdain also, not solely for being a SAHM because there is nothing wrong with that, but for being someone who stays at home all day, safe while writing vile notes to the people who are out saving lives and putting their own health and lives at risk.

Save your anger for the scumbag who wrote the note in the first place. Good on the nurse for telling it like it is.

STOP. READING. THE. SUN

that would help and don't take things so personally.

Why are you taking offense? Literally nothing to do with you.

I'm a SAHM atm because I'm in the vulnerable group. Was previously a key front line worker. Nurse wasn't out of order at all. The stupid bitch needs to keep her nose out of everyone's business.

And i work full time in the NHS too. I don't put my uniform on until I go to work because it's against infection control rules and it goes in a plastic bag for washing as soon as I've finished work.

I’m a SAHM, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the note the nurse left. I hate it when people say they’re ‘a full time mummy’, it’s always the chavs who have never worked a day in their lives. I can understand why a nurse would get pissy over the ridiculous note.

I think she was very restrained. I’m a Sahm. She wasn’t referring to sahms. No offence taken from me.

I think if the nurse had posted it back through the neighbours door in annoyance/rage then it would have been aimed at one person - they’d have received as good as they gave. They made an assumption and it would have back fired on them.

I think taking to social media to demonstrate your anger, and having a dig at all mums who stay at home is shit and uncalled for.

If she’d put it on her private social media, she’d have been venting to friends, but she didn’t - she publicly published, having a go at all stay at home mums, because she was upset with her neighbour - that was disproportionate.

I would think the sun just took it without asking, but if she gave permission for the article, that, in my opinion. is beyond disproportionate.

Calling the note writer a stupid bitch is interesting indeed. We don't know the note writer was even a woman. A lot of assumptions going on.