Low blow from nurse?

[Justabitworried]

There's an article in the paper about a mental health nurse who had a note left on her windscreen from a neighbour calling her selfish for leaving the house everyday. Obviously the neighbour was out of order. But her response has riled me:

"I go to work every day supporting our country and have done for many years, while you are clearly spending your days watching me, probably claiming that your employed as a ‘full time mummy’."

AIBU? I'm a SAHM at the moment who used to work for the NHS. I don't think I was a better person when I was in work 'supporting our country'.

She could have set the note writer straight without stooping to that really.

Exactly. Hardly holding the moral high ground.

Well the nurse gave back as good as she got. She’s probably got less than zero patience for busy body bullshit right now.

This. She was a darn sight more restrained than I would be.

yes I saw this and thought they were both as bad as each other

@KindKylie Maybe I'm feeling over sensitive right now because if I'd finished my training I'd be at work helping instead of at home with my kids. I feel helpless. I also feel that being a SAHM is hard, and often looked down upon.

I don't think for a mental health nurse it was a great thing to say to the tabloids.

I'd agree if she said it without provocation but she was pissed off and retaliating.

I also agree that the MH nurse knows exactly who wrote the note.
Also agree that this person deserved a much ruder response.

The neighbour was stupid and very wrong for calling the MH nurse selfish.

The MH nurse was stupid and very wrong to effectively put down all SAHPs. Also, every person who works "supports our country" in the form of supporting its economy. It sounds to me that this particular nurse has let the applause for NHS staff go to her head. Who talks like that? She's just going to work to earn a living, FFS. Yes, she's chosen a worthwhile profession but sounds like she is too far up herself now.

It sounds like she has a very good idea who wrote the note and maybe that’s why she added the reference to ‘full time mummy’. It’s not directed at you op and no need for you to take offence, she is directing at the person who is spending all day watching where she is going and when. She is probably scared going to work and very stressed. I agree with others saying she could have written worse

I think her note was very restrained and could have been far more scathing.

She’s right, she’s risking herself and family every day she leaves to go to work and those not in employment aren’t doing anything for the economy, taxes etc whilst leaving notes on her car.

I read that and thought 'good for her' - I'm also a SAHM. Don't take it personally.

Someone going to the bother of writing a note complaining about a nurse leaving the house (in a uniform I would assume) isn’t exactly being reasonable. The nurse was probably angry.

The "correct" reply would be :

'Dear' Neighbour - Build A Fucking Bridge And Get Over Yourself.

Stop spying on me you dirty stalker

And the reason why I'm NOT in Uniform is because of Infection Control . Travel in Unifor,m flounts every Infection Control guideline .
Would you like me to write this note really BIG so you can read it from up there on your High Horse ?

(And any other cliche that springs to mind)

So far I have not been "reported" by my neighbours for driving to work (in civvy clothes) to my Patient Facing NHS Job.

There’s a lot of people who are gainfully employed but sitting at home right now through no fault of their own. Why be snide and mention SAHMs?

People are holding nurses, doctors, police etc etc in the highest regard (and rightly so for the jobs they do) but this does not make them all lovely people, it really doesn’t. Mind you the person who wrote the note in the first place is also a dick.

I've never heard the term 'full time mummy' before... Didn't realise it's a thing I'm not on Facebook.

I’ve been a SAHM and will be again once our third baby is born however I absolute detest every single bio I see with employment listed as SAHM.

Maybe I'm feeling over sensitive right now because if I'd finished my training I'd be at work helping instead of at home with my kids. I feel helpless. I also feel that being a SAHM is hard, and often looked down upon.

The retaliation isn't an attack on all SAHMs. It's attacking a nosy busybody with nothing better to do than track the comings and goings of someone who is trying to keep going to work in difficult circumstances.
The MH nurse lashed out and I don't blame her.

The nurse was under attack, quite possibly not for the first time, and retaliated poorly but understandably.

The nurse didn't suggest a SAHM was "worthless" but suggested that it was an easier role for staying safe than doing anything front line, which is true. YAB a little sensitive.

I think the nurse made a bit of a tit of herself for doing that. The note left on her car was ignorant and stems from a place of fear. But her response wasn't great. I'm guessing she is under s lot of stress herself.

The article is just lifted from facebook, it's not the best of journalism. A crap rift between neighbours has been plastered all over the place just makes it worse

I agree with PP, I don't think she was putting down SAHP but those that put "full time mummy" as their employment on fb. Who, ime, are often incredibly judgemental of those that do work

She probably feels a bit bitter that she's putting her life on the line every day whilst other gets to stay home safely with their kids.

She isnt attacking sahms. If anything, She is attacking those that call themseleves 'full time mummies' as though it's a badge of honour. As though mothers who work are not full time parents.

All mothers are full time mothers.

Surely you would only be offended, if that's how you describe yourself or see your self and if you see mothers who work as part time mothers? Do you?

I suspect she knows exactly who wrote the note, but isnt saying so because she cant prove it.

There's a difference between SAHMs and those who refer to themselves as 'full time mummy' on facebook. It's similar to the difference between being a business owner and calling yourself a 'business owner' on Facebook when you're actually touting an MLM.

Being a parents full time though anyway isn’t it? Even if they pass away you’re still a parent.

My mum didn’t work after she got married and had loads of kids. She would have rather cut off her own feet than call herself a ‘full time mummy’.