I've upset my DM terribly and I don't know what to do...

[muddleoffeelings]

Mum and dad both have high blood pressure and in late 60's early 70's. I was in hospital 6 weeks ago with pneumonia.
I was meant to leave Mothers Day card and flowers outside door (they live about 20mins away).
Woke up feeling flu-ey and had a 30 min coughing attack.
Husband said there was no way we were going to shop to get cards and flowers as it was non-essential.
I made cards with the children and he dropped them to the front door before taking them out for some fresh air in the forest (we live in a remote area). My parents had gone out to walk on a local deserted beach.
Called my DM later and she extremely cold with me and then eventually burst into tears saying she couldn't believe I hadn't bothered to get her a present. i explained what happened but she said it wasn't good enough.
now I feel devastated that I have upset her so much but my DH says we made the right decision and it's about keeping them and ourselves safe.
I'm not so sure and feel so upset - did we do the right thing??

I'm with @Duckswaddle on this. Classic narcissism. No grown woman gives a shit about Mother's Day presents for herself during a global pandemic. She cares her beloved grown daughter is well, which OP isn't. And that's all she should care about. Not OP or OP's family risking unneccessary shopping trips for flowers and chocs to massage her ego.

Tell her the present was not giving her whatever illness you have.

But go ahead and make crap up about me and my children if it helps you rationalize this kind of crap.

‘Crap’ would be what you made up about the OP. I’m glad you got your arse handed to you @MarionberryJam . I agree with @CoupeCourte about the ‘Be kind’ fuckwits, they’re usually the least kind people in the room.

@FizzyGreenWater

I'm feeling quite unwell. Aching all over, on/off fever, exhaustion and chesty cough. I get a nasty chest infection almost annually which lays me up so I don't think corona, but staying in just and self isolating just in case.

On Mother's Day my 80 year old mother made a rhubarb crumble for me and the DCs and delivered it (left it on doorstep). I spoke to her through the door. I completely forgot to say happy Mother's Day. No card and no gift. Did she care? No. Did she give me a hard time? No.
She's being silly. But if you tell her that she'll just be more upset. Just ignore her, she'll get over herself. She's just stressed because of all the uncertainty. Don't give in to the guilt!