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Original poster

To be mortified by DH

238 replies

Syncrows · 22/03/2020 17:58

Obviously things have moved quite fast in the last week but I’m really worried about this.

DH worked for the NHS and has been worried about coronavirus for a while. We have two children at infant school. On Tuesday there was a display for Mother’s Day and on Wednesday some other assembly.

On Thursday DH rang up and absolutely lost it, shouting and swearing.

I know schools have now shut and the kids won’t be going in but I’m worried about when they do.

Should I try to get them in elsewhere ... I’m serious.

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SweepTheHalls · 22/03/2020 18:00

No. Leave them where they are. At the end of this the last thing anyone is going to be worried about is a parent who ranted about something that really was poorly thought out.

Seventyone72seventy3 · 22/03/2020 18:00

I'm not sure what you're talking about? You want them to change schools?

JuanSheetIsPlenty · 22/03/2020 18:01

Sorry- what? Who did he phone? The school? And swore at them? Shock

Yeah- I’d be looking to move house- away from him.

Topseyt · 22/03/2020 18:01

What was he shouting about? The display and the assembly at school?

Sorry, not quite clear.

ShirleyPhallus · 22/03/2020 18:02

Nice

TKAAHUARTG · 22/03/2020 18:02

I think your DH needs to apologise. Why was he having a go at the school? Schools are still open so keyworkers like your DH can still go to work. The teachers are to be thanked, not abused. Is he always like this?

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Syncrows · 22/03/2020 18:02

He phoned the school and lost his shit, for want of a better turn of phrase.

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EvilPea · 22/03/2020 18:03

I think your dh is probably seeing what we aren’t, the full hospital beds, the dying, the staff on their knees.

I’d cut him some slack on it.

PlanDeRaccordement · 22/03/2020 18:04

Don’t bother. He was right to call them and give them a talking to. I’m sure he would not have shouted and sworn if the person on the other end of the phone was being reasonable. The school was endangering many lives with their actions, they were in the wrong.

TexasTina · 22/03/2020 18:04

Well it was stupid of them. Others had cancelled this type of thing.

Was he rude?

saraclara · 22/03/2020 18:04

How does he feel about what he did, now?

And if the school is open at all, or if he knows who it was he yelled at, a fulsome apology (from him) and some flowers or something is called for.

Booboooo · 22/03/2020 18:05

Your post isnt very clear.

funnylittlefloozie · 22/03/2020 18:05

The school sounds a bit clueless, but your DH sounds like a self-righteous arsehole. Who does he think he is?

By the time the kids go back (probably in May by the looks of things), the school office people will have more to do than stew on your rude foul-mouthed DH. I bet they are worried about the safety of you and the kids right now though. How do you feel about being penned up in the house with him?

saraclara · 22/03/2020 18:06

@PlanDeRaccordement it's highly unlikely that the person he spoke to had any part in the decision. It's like yelling at the till assistant because the loo roll shelf is empty.
He'll almost certainly have got through to the hapless receptionist.

Sexnotgender · 22/03/2020 18:06

Worked for the NHS? Past tense.

Why did he phone your children’s school and abuse them?

Topseyt · 22/03/2020 18:06

Is he a doctor or nurse? I can understand them being under huge pressure and perhaps having a rant like this.

He probably should apologise to the school, even if he disagrees with what they have done. The guidance issued to them and many others was anything but clear for some time. Some would say in relation to the list of key workers whose children they should accept that it still is.

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Syncrows · 22/03/2020 18:08

I’ve made it as clear as I can boo ... DH yelled at our kids school 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thanks. I do get that he was probably right to express his concerns, it’s how he went about it.

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JuanSheetIsPlenty · 22/03/2020 18:10

Was he rude?

No just shouting and swearing very politely.

Lifeisgenerallyfun · 22/03/2020 18:10

Don’t blame him- quite frankly I don’t think he’s the unreasonable one here. It’s becoming abundantly clear certain people need shouting at. Just came back from walking the dog, a group on teenagers were congregated outside the cost cutter.

OhCaptain · 22/03/2020 18:11

Why the confusing OP?

Anyway, he’s not wrong.!

JuanSheetIsPlenty · 22/03/2020 18:11

By the time the kids go back (probably in May by the looks of things)

September you mean?

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Syncrows · 22/03/2020 18:11

I don’t think it was confusing but 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Mrsfrumble · 22/03/2020 18:13

Who did he speak to? If it was the head, that’s one thing, but if he let rip at some poor hapless receptionist, then that’s really shit.

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Syncrows · 22/03/2020 18:14

Not sure. I don’t even think he’s sure. I think they answered and he said ‘what the fuck do you think you are playing at’

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lazylinguist · 22/03/2020 18:14

Sadly, schools are used to parents phoning them up and yelling at them, and often for much less serious reasons than your dh's (not that I'm defending his behaviour).

Don't move your children. People know that emotions are riding high. There's a lot of worry and anger about. When it's all over, your dh's outburst will be a distant memory. He could apologise then, even if he feels he was justified, to smooth things over.