MIL gender disappointment

[yeoma95601]

So on Saturday my fiancé and I found out on my late grandfathers birthday that we are having a boy! We're both over the moon and it's made everything so much special, I feel like my son is blessed by my grandfather who was a very special man to me.

We told MIL today we are having a boy, now she's told me from the start she wanted a girl but I thought that regardless she will love the baby. Anyway when we told her, no exaggeration she threw her arms down and said "for fuck sakes I wanted a girl, I don't want a boy" she then said "can you try again so I can have a girl?" She knows I've had MC and this baby took 4 years to have as is.

I now feel like my son won't be loved and won't be special because he's just another grandson, my fiancé does have a niece and I feel like now she will be the golden child and my boy will be left out. Am I being a jerk for being upset and has anyone else been through the same?

Thanks in advance all.

Excellent mil.
We can enjoy our precious ds without you sticking your beak in..
And please flounce. Yabu not to.
Nasty witch....
No way would I forgive such an attitude op.
Congratulations on your coming ds.

What a cow . She is almost acting like it’s her child. Ignore this nonsense and enjoy your baby boy. Is your fiancé telling her she is out of order or are you?

Ignore her and enjoy your baby.

Wow. Just wow.

What did your partner say?

‘I want...’ how did you not laugh on her face? She wasn’t ordering a pizza for goodness sake.

perhaps mil should have her own baby then what a twonk she really is !

My MIL told me after my miscarriage maybe it’s because I can’t have boys.

Then when I fell pregnant kept going on about it being a boy. What’s wrong with people. 🙄

@itsallthedramaMickiloveit he's basically saying "she didn't mean it" but regardless I just think it's not something one should even think never mind to actually say it. He's told her she's upset me and she's not apologised but messaged me to say she was "joking"

Wowsers! What a fucking bitch. What did your fiance say to her. Well she can fuck off to the far side of fuck.

I had the opposite, my exMIL was stroppy when we found out DC1 was a girl, because she always wanted one and had three boys and was jealous.

Time to explain to him that upsetting you is a lot worse than upsetting her.

Tell him you are disgusted. And that she wasn't joking and you're not accepting that cop out.
If she ever wants to meet your baby then she can give a genuine apology to your face and then watch her fucking mouth.

If she's that desperate for a girl, tell her to go have her own baby. It's not like any baby of yours is her child.

I'd probably be glad if I was you. Imagine if you had a girl, I bet she'd be round every day to spread her influence on the poor child. She'd never leave. Least you won't have that.

OP - that's just so awful. I have three DGS and I feel truly blessed. Congratulations on your gorgeous LO.

Message her back saying "It wasn't a joke. It wasn't funny, it was very hurtful. I will now refuse to let you take any part in my baby's life. After all, you have made it abundantly clear that you do not want him."

Of course she meant it. She is an arse. Tell her so.

When I had my oldest my mil was FUMING that it was a girl because we lived 90 mins away and she wanted a granddaughter she could spoil..

They haven’t seen my two children since I left their dick of a son 7 years ago.

She has two granddaughters who she spoils now..

Wow that’s horrendous. Although if I were you I’d be quite glad your having a boy. It sounds like she had her heart so set on a girl it sounds like she thinks it will be hers. Saying she wants a girl, not that she wants you to have a girl.

Congratulations on your boy. Little boys are just so lovely (I’m sure girls are too but I have 2 boys and they are wonderful) hope MIL’s horrible reaction hasn’t upset you too much.

that's so mean I love all my grandchildren wether they are boys or girls got to admit my granddaughter has just had a little boy yes it would have been nice if my great grandson had been a girl with my first granddaughter as mom but he is georgous and when I went over to meet him last week it was love at first site

Tell her to try herself.

I would message her back and tell her the joke is in poor taste. She needs to grow up.

Don't even stand for it. Just don't.

Did she just have boys and has been hoping for a grandaughter? If so just write it off as a stupid reaction. This is why I don’t like gender reveals - but then I was having my mil’s third grandson and my mum’s fourth. I might have liked them had I been expecting a girl lol

This is what my ex MIL would do -say or do something nasty but then would claim it was a “joke”. Ex would suck it up and make out l was the baddie

W. T. F. I'd be cutting her off like a diseased limb