MIL gender disappointment

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So on Saturday my fiancé and I found out on my late grandfathers birthday that we are having a boy! We're both over the moon and it's made everything so much special, I feel like my son is blessed by my grandfather who was a very special man to me.

We told MIL today we are having a boy, now she's told me from the start she wanted a girl but I thought that regardless she will love the baby. Anyway when we told her, no exaggeration she threw her arms down and said "for fuck sakes I wanted a girl, I don't want a boy" she then said "can you try again so I can have a girl?" She knows I've had MC and this baby took 4 years to have as is.

I now feel like my son won't be loved and won't be special because he's just another grandson, my fiancé does have a niece and I feel like now she will be the golden child and my boy will be left out. Am I being a jerk for being upset and has anyone else been through the same?

Thanks in advance all.

@TexasMama...your words are so evocative....moving even.....may i steal and add them to my repertoire...pls🙏😂

Where in Gods name do these people come from?

Poisonous witch OP.

Please, please, don't waste a moment thinking about her.

Tell your OH if he tries to excuse her behaviour again... he has a shit storm coming his way.

Many congratulations on your wonderful news...don't allow her to take any of this hard won joy from you.

Tell her if she wants baby girl to go have 1 and keep your beautiful baby boy away from her and her selfish attitude

@billy1966 I've always been told I have a way with words

@TexasMama....you certainly do👏

Good time for some social distancing...

I don’t use this word lightly but it’s warranted here: she’s a cunt.

Your partner doesnt have your back after so many miscarriages that was nasty in way was that a joke

She was not joking. If someone reacted like that to my news I'd think they were mad and would cut them out of my life.

Unless mill has form for playing practical jokes, I'd go NC. Bonkers.

I sometimes stick up for MILs but will make an exception in this case!
OP, I don’t know what to say to be honest, I am so upset for you, your partner and beautiful baby.
It will ultimately be her loss, this little boy deserves more but I am sure he has chosen lovely parents in yourself and partner.
Best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy and have a wonderful future with your little man.

Who gives a flying fuck what she wants? Tell her to go fuck herself. I don’t usually swear on here but some fuckers need telling.

When my exH and I told my exMIL we were having a girl she replied ‘never mind, better luck next time’!!

When my son was born, my niece sobbed down the phone to me 'but I wanted it to be a girl....' However she was three, so I'll let her off (and she loves him to bits now). Adults behaving like that is never OK.

Well isn't she a delight.

OP, the problem does not lie with you.

Tell her she's a nasty, cantankerous old cow. Then say "joking!".

well she is an asshole...i hope you have your family who will be delighted for you and focus on them and your baby.

This is shocking. Sorry OP.

Congratulations on your baby. I have a boy and he is awesome.

I misread the title as I thought MIL was disappointed with HER gender.

Ignore her OP.

Lucky her if that's all she's got to worry about......

Hi OP, when we found out we were having a girl we got a cake made for mil and fil to tell them. They reacted awfully about how they wanted a boy. I was so excited and happy and it made me feel crap. They obviously love her now she’s here and are good grandparents but it still makes me mad when I think about it.

My ex mother-in-law had 2 brothers & 3 sons & was desperate for a granddaughter. My son was her first grandchild, so she had high hopes when my ex-SIL became pregnant. She did have a daughter so my ex-MIL offered them 5,000 euros as a bonus. My lovely SIL wanted nothing to do with her money. My BIL was happy to take it.
5 months later my 2nd son was born & by then it was apparent that the much longed-for granddaughter had suffered issues during pregnancy or birth. My ex-MIL then asked for half the money back to give to her ‘normal’ grandchildren. Just unbelievable.

This is not a ‘joke’ ffs esspecially given your sad history of mc. What a nasty bitch.

I would keep her on arms length from now and if I were in your position she’d be the last person to hear about the birth.

Before that, I wouldn’t even share any news or updates re pregnancy with her. She doesn’t deserve it.

Cut her off that way she won’t be disappointed with a grandson and he won’t have the burden of a nasty old bitch for a grandmother

Stuff her. It's your baby. Ignore her.

Okay in the real world, where you can't cut people out of your family for making a comment....

I would text her saying "I believe you meant it as a joke but it was extremely thoughtless and hurtful, especially considering my past miscarriages." Her reaction will help you decide what to do next.

What a wicked reaction.
No one should so desperately want a particular sex that it leads to such disappointment, especially not a grand parent, that is wrong on do many levels.
Don't let that stupid woman spoil your pregnancy.

When my FULmfoubd our, we were having a girl, he was aghast and recommend to try again for an heir.