Oh love..oh darling..oh bless you...

[saraclara]

Where has this come from? Why are people starting responses to OPs with this sort of sugary stuff when they don't know the OP from Adam?

I get that they're trying to be nice, but it makes me feel vomity.

(Also anyone responding to this OP that way just to wind me up... I am SO not your darling and I WILL hunt you down )

I'm not being unreasonable to hate it, am I?

YANBU. I saw three separate posts by different posters last week with kisses on the end.

Enough!

I agree. I find bless you comes across in a patronising way, which of course may be the intent!

I do kisses accidentally sometimes, like on texts
This is why I'd like an edit button

It makes me wince a little but I have to remind myself that it's coming from a place of niceness. And just because I never speak to people like that, doesn't mean it's wrong or bad

What will come first:

3 posts in a row of "Oh darling" OR
Someone telling you off for being the Thread Police

My money's on b.

I agree with you hun.

If anyone dares to call me a 'star' I threaten to stab them with my pointy bits.

I've started to feel slightly 'forced' to add kisses to some people as I hadn't realised that the lack of them is interpreted as abruptness. But still rarely.

A colleague at work seems incapable of talking to me without blessing me, calling me honey, or saying ‘you go girl’.

Drives me bonkers. I actively avoid her now!

Oh blessOP I hope you feel better soon xx

"Aw, bless!" tends to be heard when the speaker feels sorry for someone with physical or mental impairments.

Condescending.

If anyone dares to call me a 'star' I threaten to stab them with my pointy bits.

YES! That's another one.
A:"I looked after my baby today though I had a headache"
B: "oh sweetheart...you're a STAR!"

A: "my MIL is a bitch because she didn't babysit for me when I gave her a whole hour's notice"
B: "Oh darling, bless you.. You're a STAR!"

I can't say "bless you" in RL without sounding like I'm being really sarcastic, I think it's my accent. I also can't say "good for you" or "well done" or "you're so nice" for the same reason.

Oh bless Sara, what a star you are for bringing this up love! What a darling.

Cant say I'm over bothered, its an internet forum and people get a bit caught up in it. Most of us are strangers and I suspect a lot of it is nonsense.

#BeKind. RIP.

I’m totally guilty for adding kisses onto the end of a thread- more by accident than intention though!

Hun makes me cringe every time though. I think it’s because I work in a school and the kids say it 100 time’s a day 😂

U ok hun?
I've never seen anyone called a star on here in years, other than when posters are proudly (rightly) discussing achievements of their DCs, especially where the DCs have had some difficulties.
There have been some threads recently that have been very moving to read, and showing care and affection even if it is for a stranger, but one who is going through something horrendous can sometimes mean we fall into flowery language. Sorry if this offends you, perhaps you should look away?

I’ve been on mumsnet for years and years. A sprinkling of people have always used endearments.

Some of the extreme nastiness is new though.

YABU. I genuinely dont understand people whining and complaining about people being too "nice". I mean, ok, fine- its not your cup of tea but considering the meanness and unkindness in the world wouldnt you prefer this to body shaming, judginess, rudeness, and attacks?

Its a way to express kindness online. Ive said it to people before and it was because it was the only way I could express my genuine empathy for their situation. But according to you thats wrong.
I dont give a fck if you dont like it- I'm going to continue doing it.

Oh bless you @saraclara I bet you'll end up a shrivelled bitter old woman with no friends if your not already....how's that for being caring and nasty at the same time?

some people are just trying to be nice

It’s something that has happened occasionally over the years but you are right OP, it’s definitely happening a lot more lately. Not sure if it’s the same one or two posters but it really is most un-MN-like and I can’t help pulling a face to myself over it.

its not your cup of tea but considering the meanness and unkindness in the world wouldnt you prefer this to body shaming, judginess, rudeness, and attacks?

You know there's a middle ground though? Disliking false endearments and disliking mean attacks on people aren't mutually exclusive.

You sound horrid tbh

I don't know why people do it if they don't know the poster personally? It's the same in real life... it's far too personal and, if it's from somebody who doesn't know you, it's a bit intrusive and I personally dislike it but I imagine there are some people who either put up with it with a smile - or lap it up.

It makes me blench a bit but I just scroll on. Quickly.