Oh love..oh darling..oh bless you...

[saraclara]

Where has this come from? Why are people starting responses to OPs with this sort of sugary stuff when they don't know the OP from Adam?

I get that they're trying to be nice, but it makes me feel vomity.

(Also anyone responding to this OP that way just to wind me up... I am SO not your darling and I WILL hunt you down )

I'm not being unreasonable to hate it, am I?

Point me to a thread where someone has said "you're a star" I have never seen that on here!
As Tinkly said you get the odd bless you etc (though I haven't noticed any increase, are you getting mixed up with your FB feed?)

Anyhow why the need to make a fuss about it?

You know there's a middle ground though? Disliking false endearments and disliking mean attacks on people aren't mutually exclusive

Yet you chose the "kind" version to be annoyed at. Says alot about you hun!

I am not a prolific texter on my mobile but have a few people I correspond with now and then. Family members get a x at the end. I made the massive mistake of forgetting to include one recently and she replied oh what is wrong, are you annoyed with me, no x ? xxxxx

The world has gone mad.

To reply to the OP I have never and will never be a darling/sweetie type of person. It is over the top and far too sugary for me.

I find the word "bless" just stupid and patronising. Never use it and cringe when it is said to me but I grit my teeth and say nowt.

@saraclara

Hugz hunnie bunnington wunniford. Bless. Wubz U.

You sound horrid tbh

Actually I'm pretty nice!

I've only seen this on posts where OP has suffered a bereavement or is stuck in an abusive relationship. I consider it an appropriate response to such threads, which are heartbreaking.

I agree - it’s so nauseating and false.

Ditto calling people ‘lovely’ - that really makes me queasy.

It’s been a dogged campaign, but I have managed to stop my friends adding kisses to all their texts.

#benormal is the antidote to all this #bekind shite.

Actually I'm pretty nice

Nice? Ew what bland, meaningless word

Oh sweetheart ❤️💕

Hah, forgot that one didn’t you? 😈

When did 'Lovely' become a noun?

It's coming from good intentions. May not be to your liking but it's quite nice. As unfashionable as nice seems to be, it's not a bad way to be. Word and phrase policing isn't the way, on this

They are not terms I use but they dont bother me
To be honest I prefer them as a response on Mn than some of the unnecessary belligerent comments some people post out of spite for some unknown reason..

Exactly what I was going to say Janaih. Bit rubbish putting people down for doing this when they are trying to be supportive to someone who has just lost a child.

It's just trying to be nice to someone having a rough time. I've noticed it most when a poster who seems young and/or vulnerable posts about a shitty situation, doesn't realise that what they are experiencing isn't normal and doesn't have RL support.

The posters replying with those terms come across to me as caring and quite motherly (which is what the ops in these threads seem to need).

Better than the bitchy posters who forget that there's a real person on the other side of the keyboard.

Sausage there's a special place in hell reserved for people who say 'you go girl!' Or it's modern equivalent 'yassssss queen!'

I do have to say YABU. @saraclara

Nothing wrong with being nice and kind. Plenty of nasty shit on the internet. And if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at ALL.

An old cliche, but still excellent.

Yet you chose the "kind" version to be annoyed at

Nope @MimiLaRue I chose the kind version to make an AIBU about.
I've posted many times to defend people being attacked. But I don't need to ask if I'm BU about that, because I know I'm not.

Bit rubbish putting people down for doing this when they are trying to be supportive to someone who has just lost a child

I agree

Nanny Regional variation. People are often ‘speaking’ informally on here, after all.

It’s the gushy ‘Oh sweetheart’ on the relationship threads that I can’t stomach.

I occasionally use these words in extreme circumstances to posters. And have done so recently. Not in a nasty and ironic way. Or for faux concern. But because what the poster has said has touched my heart or when an op has asked for a handhold through a very difficult experience. I don’t see why this should bother you. The madhugger hugs. We aren’t all the same.

Oh I don't think you'd like me in real life! If I love someone I will call them all sorts of endearments 🥰

What a nasty little thread.

Do you feel better now with your Judgy McJudgy Pants on?

Your post says so much more about you and your life than I care to know!

Fucking Mumsnet does my head in sometimes! Fuck sake!

Mimi
Cross post. Yes, I was thinking about this thread...

Apparently a few months back there were some major Nethun dramas and we ended up with an influx of them and they bought their xxxx with them and the fuckers never left.