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Would you want to know if your husband did this?

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sooty333 · 27/02/2020 17:51

Would you want to know if your husband had done these things and would you blame the woman in this scenario?

If he:
Became friends with a woman over 30 years younger

  • Started messaging said woman at all hours, even when she didn't reply he would hassle with follow up messages
  • Asked said woman to meet up for lunch (which she went to as friends)
  • Asked said woman to stay over at your house while you were away for the weekend (which said woman refused)
  • Kissed said woman against her will and touched her inappropriately
  • Told said woman he loves her, that she's the most beautiful woman in the world and he wishes he had met her 30 years ago and could marry her
  • when said woman told him to leave her alone, he sent constant messages asking why and declarations of love

Assuming you are in your 50s/60s you want to know, or considering said woman is not going to have an affair with your husband would you want to live in ignorant bliss and have an easy life?

OP posts:
mouldyoldonkey · 27/02/2020 17:52

I would want to know so I could leave the creep immediately!

Riddo · 27/02/2020 17:54

I would want to know.

ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 27/02/2020 17:55

Yes I’d want to know about ANY type of infidelity so I could make plans to leave.

WorraLiberty · 27/02/2020 17:56

If I was the wife I would want to know.

If I was the 'said woman', I would have blocked his number after the first few messages.

BoomBoomsCousin · 27/02/2020 17:56

I’d want to know.

EL8888 · 27/02/2020 17:56

I would definitely want to know

CoraPirbright · 27/02/2020 17:57

Yes, I’d want to know .......and think give your point about kissing and touching against her will and the harassment, the younger woman might want to tell the police too. Urrgh!

TheJoxter · 27/02/2020 17:57

Would want to know and definitely wouldn’t blame her! If I were her I’d be reporting him for harassment, and the wife should leave the disgusting creep

KellyHall · 27/02/2020 17:57

I would want to know.

I would pity the poor woman.

I'd get a divorce. Seems like a perfect example of unreasonable behaviour to me!

Nanny0gg · 27/02/2020 17:58

Yes I'd want to know. And I'd want her to report him to HR.

Sleaze

Arrowfanatic · 27/02/2020 17:58

I'd want to know so I could leave the sleazy bastard

WhyCantIThinkOfAGoodOne · 27/02/2020 17:59

So basically would you want to know if your husband was a creepy sex pest? Yes I would but some women might prefer to live in blissful ignorance. I'm betting this isn't the first time he's behaved like this so his wife might already be aware.

Leah2005 · 27/02/2020 17:59

I would want to know and I think wife should know whether she wants to or not. Said woman may not get a good response from wife though.

WaitrosesCheapestVodka · 27/02/2020 17:59

Yes, absolutely. I'd bet this isn't the first time, and it won't be the last. He also does not seem to understand consent.

I'd guess the woman in her 20s/30s is a colleague or junior. This must be rough for her too. I'd hope she keeps records and let's HR know.

Lllot5 · 27/02/2020 18:00

Id want to know, so I knew to leave him.

WaitrosesCheapestVodka · 27/02/2020 18:00

Lets HR know, not let's. I can hear the grammar police's sirens..

HollowTalk · 27/02/2020 18:02

Are you the woman he's harassing, OP? If you are, I'd speak to a police officer.

If you're the wife, I'd speak to a solicitor.

picklemewalnuts · 27/02/2020 18:02

Assuming I loved him and we'd had a long uneventful marriage, I'd want to know so I could tell him he was a prize fool who needs to apologise to her and feel lucky he isn't facing prosecution. Assuming he was sufficiently contrite I'd let it pass as a moment of monumental idiocy.

If it was a more recent marriage, or not the first time, then I'd kick him out on his arse.

LucyAutumn · 27/02/2020 18:03

Another vote for 'want to know'

lostfrequencies · 27/02/2020 18:03

Echo everyone above. I would want to know.

strawberry2017 · 27/02/2020 18:04

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SignOnTheWindow · 27/02/2020 18:05

Since I wouldn't want to remain married to a sex pest, then yes, I'd want to know.

And of course I wouldn't blame the poor woman!

Bluebutterfly90 · 27/02/2020 18:05

Yeah I would definitely want to know my husband was creeping on another woman so I could dump him.

WorraLiberty · 27/02/2020 18:06

Assuming I loved him and we'd had a long uneventful marriage, I'd want to know so I could tell him he was a prize fool who needs to apologise to her and feel lucky he isn't facing prosecution. Assuming he was sufficiently contrite I'd let it pass as a moment of monumental idiocy.

Do you seriously consider harassment and sexual assault as a 'moment of monumental idiocy'? Confused

Letseatgrandma · 27/02/2020 18:07

I’d just block him and not think of it again.

Why did you go for lunch and meet up with someone who was messaging you in this weird way? I would have blocked him so he couldn’t send repeated texts.

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