Would you want to know if your husband did this?

[sooty333]

Would you want to know if your husband had done these things and would you blame the woman in this scenario?

If he:
Became friends with a woman over 30 years younger

• Started messaging said woman at all hours, even when she didn't reply he would hassle with follow up messages
• Asked said woman to meet up for lunch (which she went to as friends)
• Asked said woman to stay over at your house while you were away for the weekend (which said woman refused)
• Kissed said woman against her will and touched her inappropriately
• Told said woman he loves her, that she's the most beautiful woman in the world and he wishes he had met her 30 years ago and could marry her
• when said woman told him to leave her alone, he sent constant messages asking why and declarations of love

Assuming you are in your 50s/60s you want to know, or considering said woman is not going to have an affair with your husband would you want to live in ignorant bliss and have an easy life?

I would want to know so I could make my own choices about my future. Ignorance is not bliss in my mind.

I think if you work with him, you need to report him to HR or your employer, if there is no HR. If he's the boss, look for another job. If you don't work for him, then block him so he cannot communicate with you at all.

As far as the police are concerned, I think I'd open a file. The last sexual assault will be a "he said she said", so you have to think if you want to pursue it. But, opening a file will show a pattern if he continues to harass you, whether physically or virtually.

I don't think I would have the guts to tell his wife, unless behaviour escalated.

Go to the police or HR. Why would you ever bother yourself with his wife?

Police or HR as others have said and with as much proof as I can find.
They wife will find out soon enough.