aibu about your 40's

[notespeciallyno]

Aibu to wonder what your 40's were like or are like?

Not the best. My 50s, on the other hand, friggin ROCK

Filled with anxiety and body deterioration

So far ok. But being prescribed reading glasses. (on top of usual ones.) at 40 was a bit like great welcome to my 40,s.

45 next month and have put on weight and started to feel a bit invisible

I didn't have time to worry about becoming invisible, getting fat etc during my 40s. I was too bloody busy.

Best social life since uni days. But fat.

Much the same as my 30s but with less fucks given.

I am loving them. Dc old enlightened to have real fun with and loads of fun, enjoying my career, got a really busy social life again and do lots of fun hobbies. Got my anxiety beaten with meds. I’m in a really good place.

So far been pregnant or breastfeeding and too exhausted to think about any else

Dc old enough, that should say not enlightened!

I’m turning 41 this year. So far everything hurts, my hormones have gone nuts, my eyesight but turning shit and my weight is refusing to drop! I feel done and knackered!

Loving 40's, easier than turning 30 for me. Used it to change some things that I didn't like about my life such as my job. More confident in myself and feel I know who I am.

My ex husband left me 2 weeks before my 40th birthday so my 40s have not been what I’d imagined they would be! However, I’m braver and stronger than I ever thought I could be and I’m proud of what I’ve achieved in this decade so far. Am totally planning for my 50s to be INCREDIBLE!

Had my DD at 40 (and DS at 44) so pretty busy with small children, and then peri menopause!!!
Have just turned 60 and feeling great.

Had two babies so no time to think about age - though I suppose things started to deteriorate physically..... It's hard to know what was caused by having children, having an early menopause, general age - but my looks, eyesight, weight etc have all plunged (or expanded...) and I'm definitely creakier now (mid 50s).

But for me the 40s were fab - recently married, lovely children, gave up work (then went back part time and flexibly) so all great! Just need to look in the mirror a lot less....

I’m not going to lie. It’s a tough decade. I think it’s like the ugly/spotty phase for the middle aged. It’s a decade of change in a way I’ve not experienced.
That said, I’m a way better person now more than ever. I feel like I’ve finally become who I’m meant to be. And for that, I really will gladly accept prolapsed everything! It’s actually worth it.

40s are great. You stop giving a shit what anyone thinks and your kids are old enough not to eat snails and electrocute themselves.

Bloody awful.

I'm glad to hear my deterioration is normal. I've spent the last few weeks feeling like my body is giving up on me and I may as well be dead as it's so unable to function - I'm 44 in a couple of weeks.

On the whole, I'm enjoying my 40s. Kids are now teens, so starting to get my life back a bit. Agree about not giving a shit!

Worst bits... yep, getting fat and feeling knackered.

Fabulous so far, just had a baby and loving life. Feel exactly the same as 30’s tbh.

Early menopause, career crisis, looked shite, never ending friendship/family dramas. Still trying to crawl away from it.

Early forties … a breeze.

45 onwards … menopause/perimenopause/Dc's don't need you as much and will be gone or nearly gone in 10 years/society blanks you/husband has potential to leave you/exhaustion/friends start getting breast cancer/Most jobs say 25 to 45/agree body really does start to fall apart/SM is full of woman pouting in underwear/hair is grey

All horrible. Definitely my absolutely worst decade by far. I have fingers crossed for my 50's.

Mine were brilliant - looking back, I was in my prime! Plenty of money - lots of travel - still had a waistline. Not sure what happened after I hit 55-ish, though.

Same as Katy1213 above. I felt confident, sexy and I was out in nightclubs (salsa) at least three nights a week and had a very varied and fun love life. I felt sorted money-wise, fulfilled generally and had no stress of any kind. And that carried on till early 50s when I suddenly lost my mojo and began to feel that I was ageing (I had felt immune to that until then). Even in my late 50s things are still OK, but I do miss my 40s (yet I really don't miss my 20s).