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To have not moved out of the way for this man?

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rainbowmask · 14/02/2020 09:55

I commute daily on trains and buses for work, I’m pretty used to the hustle and bustle of it all so can usually get through the busy train station without any problems.

Today I was walking down the stairs on the right hand side holding onto the hand rail. To clarify, as I know walking on the right is often a big no no, this was Leeds station on the main stairs which are pretty much a free for all, there are no arrows or signs asking you to walk on the left. And if you have been to Leeds station recently you’ll know that the down escalator has been out of use for about a month so the stairs are a lot busier than usual. Also to avoid drip feeding, I hold onto the hand rail as I have a chronic condition that can make me unstable (I’m mid 20’s so you wouldn’t expect it by looking at me).

Anyway, half way down the stairs I can see a man in his 40’s walking towards me and we make eye contact. I can tell that he’s wanting me to move to let him past but I don’t move. When we’re about two steps away from each other he grumbles something under his breath (didn’t’ hear what) and moves half a body’s width away, shoving me as his moves past.

Was I unreasonable for not moving out of his way?

OP posts:
JuanSheetIsPlenty · 15/02/2020 15:54

The only place I’ve known to have a “keep left” rule was in my secondary school and it was strictly enforced. I still find myself gravitating towards the left as an adult but only because it was so ingrained.

GoldenOmber · 15/02/2020 16:24

I played patriarchy chicken when I was 8 months pregnant and just couldn't deal with neatly sidestepping out of the way all the time. Very revealing. Not just the number of men who expected me to move, but the number who actually walked into me and bounced off because they were that sure the shuffling, limping, massively pregnant woman would step aside for them in time.

MintyMabel · 15/02/2020 20:01

The trouble is you were on the wrong side, whether the notices are there or not.

Nonsense. Unless there is a sign, you can’t be on the wrong side. This whole unwritten rule thing is ridiculous.

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