AIBU, friend organised surprise 50th three weeks after mine!

[Andrea2807]

Tell me AIBU, there a few of us turning 50 this year, and I got a
message through Facebook from a friend saying I’m organizing a surprise for X’s 50th which is 4 weeks after mine. Then posts oh we can have a few drinks for yours as well! We are a group of friends who socialise together, we all have to put in an extra tenner for x’s place. When I said oh thanks should I just tag along I was told don’t be so touchy!
Myself and X had discussed all going away later on after the summer holidays, which won’t happen as people won’t be able to afford it, I’m getting more annoyed every message that’s coming through and now don’t want to go, AIBU

[Kolarola]

I can see why you're upset op. It's your 50th too. If I was in your group of friends I would have organised a joint get together for you both In the middle of your two birthdays. Have you organised anything for yours already? I'm just wondering if they thought they didnt need to for yours or something?!

[Kolarola]

Ps. I agree with above poster - I bet they're organising something for you too, maybe surprise??

[Mrsmac1512]

The money for my friends weekend away had to be paid this weekend to secure the cottage, no they have not booked anything for me, as two other friends have dropped out because they didn't think it was equal x

[Eddielzzard]

Did your 2 friends who dropped out actually tell the frenemy they were dropping out because it was unequal, or did they make up an excuse?

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Well Mrsmac - that should put to bed the speculation about there being a surprise organised for you too, except half the posters won't see it because they haven't RTFT, or haven't spotted your namechange.

I think you've done the right thing, and I think the 2 supportive friends have too - but I don't blame the other friend for still going along, and I hope that she does say something to the mean organiser!

Glad you told your birthday friend's DD the reason you're not going was down to money though - shut down any speculation that you've done it for any other reason from the off, and if Mean Organiser tries to make out it's for any other reason, she'll just look like a spiteful dick.

Hope you can organise something nice for your 50th, with your nice friends and birthday friend - but not Mean Organiser! she can bog off.

[Wanda1988]

Completely understand you feeling upset they are putting so much more emphasis on your friends birthday. I would wait and see what actually occurs on your birthday - if there is a surprise for you.

[CHATTERBOXER]

i would be miffed too!

[BumbleBeee69]

how are you OP ?

[Technonan]

Are you sure it isn't a joint party? Maybe they are telling her they are organising one for you. It seems odd, otherwise, to do one and not the other. It's things like this that make me dislike surprise parties.

[Mrsmac1512]

@BumbleBeee69 thanks for asking, I’m good, think the weekend away is slowly diminishing as three others have dropped out after me! So not sure what the plans are now as I was deleted out of the group x

[Cotswolds10]

Name change, OP? I was following this and thanks for the update. Hope she feels a bit foolish now as her mean plans crumble around her.