Bloke who I gave a BJ too has moved close to us

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Sorry TMI!
When I was 17 I was experimenting sexually and gave a random guy a BJ at a house party. Turns out his best mate was actually going to end up as my dp and the father of my two dc's.
Quite soon after we got together dp fell out with this friend, partly due to... that, Partly due to the friend saying dp had changed since we started going out (17 and we thought we were so deep!)
Now the guy has quite innocently bought a house opposite our dd's school, on the next road down from us. I've already bumped into him twice (no acknowledgement from either of us.) Should I mention it to DP? I think he'd laugh but also (strangely) might get a bit paranoid?

How old are you now?

What? Sounds like you're a bit giggly about it all. You were 17. Move on

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I don't see what the issue is to be honest... Everyone has a past....

@wantedthejob hardly. I just think if it was a kiss, we could all move past it but this was a bit more intimate.
I don't personally have to walk past people I've had sexual contact with most days of the week.
It was fifteen years ago!

You gave a guy a blow job when you were 17 and your now husband fell out with him over ut, why?

Your really really overthinking this .

Definitely mention it to DP. Everyday you should say 'I saw that bloke I gave a BJ to again today'. It's also much better if you never give your DP a BJ. Adds extra frission

15 years ago 😂😂😂. I regularly see people that I had sex with before I met my dp. Why is it a problem?

Grow up

I probably wouldn't even recognise them. Certainly wouldn't mention it.

We could all move past it it was a long long time ago why do you even care you sound hung up on something so minor .
Doubt the guy even gives it a second thought .

Bloody hell I have a bit of a past, as does DH, and we live in the same area we grew up in.

Neither of us would ever leave the house!

The thought of being intimate with someone at 17 wouldn’t even come into my head now. Even if they lived next door. Are you still quite young? You say you have been with your partner since you were 17. Have you never bumped into old flames? Or are you not still friends with some? Most people are.

Or maybe...that's why he moved closer to you. He fell in love with you that night and has spent the last decade and a half desperately pining for you.

I can't even remember all the men I've had relations with I could be walking past a plethora every day!

Don't worry about it

Really not worth mentioning or worrying about. Many people have a sexual history before they meet their long term partner.

No I've never bumped into old flames as I haven't really had any, just dp and this guy. So it's completely normal, you just carry on as if you don't know them?
Sorry this is probably very obvious to most!

Sorry you’re paranoid that you gave him such a good blow job fifteen years ago he’s so obsessed with you he bought a house near you? Orrrr...?

No I definitely do not have a thing for him. I knew he was in the area as I lent his wife some baby stuff once, saw it was him in the photo and thought ah he's got a family now too. Was just a bit dismayed at the proximity of his house to ours.

15 years? You made it seem like it was much more recent in your OP

For most people this would be a non-issue with their partner. You might personally feel embarrassed or regret doing anything with that person etc but I don’t see why your partner should feel threatened about a guy you briefly hooked up with 15 years ago.

I think you’re overthinking this because I’m assuming that since you started dating your husband, you haven’t been intimate with anyone else. So this new neighbour is just part of a tiny repertoire, so you haven’t had to deal with running into people you’ve been intimate with often etc so it’s a new situation for you?

As a teacher I had to do parents evening with a dad I’d slept with. He was on his own and it was uncomfortable. Weirder, the next parents evening he turned up with a date who had never met the child before.

Well OP, I moved into a house opposite my ex!
He lived there with his wife and children.
We both did an awkward double take / glance and from then on in practised typical British neighbourly nods when we passed and that was it. End of story.
I’d mention in passing to husband you saw ‘insert name’ and that’s about it then move on to what’s for supper