Bloke who I gave a BJ too has moved close to us

[Sixteenbars]

Sorry TMI!
When I was 17 I was experimenting sexually and gave a random guy a BJ at a house party. Turns out his best mate was actually going to end up as my dp and the father of my two dc's.
Quite soon after we got together dp fell out with this friend, partly due to... that, Partly due to the friend saying dp had changed since we started going out (17 and we thought we were so deep!)
Now the guy has quite innocently bought a house opposite our dd's school, on the next road down from us. I've already bumped into him twice (no acknowledgement from either of us.) Should I mention it to DP? I think he'd laugh but also (strangely) might get a bit paranoid?

Have you considered that he might be just as mortified seeing you. Personally I wouldn't give it a thought. I once had my sky fitted by a chap I'd had a teenage fumble with. I made him a cup of tea and acted like the adult I was
This isn't the playground where we gigle behind our hands and make a drama out of nothing... It was a bj, fgs

I must be a prude. To me a blow job is a very intimate act and I’ve never given one outside of a long-term relationship.

Just surprised at how many posters seem to treat them like handing out cake at a birthday party.

Good grief, the way you were writing in your first post it sounded as if the blow job happened 2 or 3 years ago. It's 15 years ago FFS.
What a drama about absolutely nothing.

Just don’t suck him off again

That, there, is fantastic advice.

Please refer to him from here on out as Blow Job Man. That's what I would do

Mention you've seen him.. Or such and such said he'd moved near. Otherwise it would feel like you hid something. But say it matter of fact in amongst other stuff....that shows it means as much to you as a neighbour getting a new gnome.

27 years ago I had a 1 night stand with someone I talk to most days!!! It's life, grow up and get on with it lol

Wow lots of harsh replies! I have only read two pages, though, so not the whole thing.

I totally know what you mean and I’d feel the same initially, but that’s probably because you’ve never had to see this guy or confront it in your mind.

I’d tell your DP and some close friends have a big laugh about it. That’ll take all of the power away and you’ll stop caring when you walk past him!

You seem to be looking for drama.

It's a minor embarrassment, not a major problem.

Very strange to even think about this. I don't think anything of walking past an ex or previous sexual encounter. Some I even say hello to politely and just keep walking because it ended fine. Others I just walk past and give no acknowledgement to. It's just sex. Everyone does it. You both have partners and children now.

Just brazen it out.

Smile, be polite. No offence but do you think you're the only one who gave him a BJ? Doubt it.

I've was a bit fun loving in my day and have regularly bumped into people I slept with (and other) and I whilst I would love to say I laugh it off, actually, I don't think about it all so why are you?

There is zero need to tell your OH. You've done nothing wrong, it was way back in your past.

Move on. Why is this bothering you so much? (Rhetorical question)

Sounds like it’s you who’s making a big deal out of it, @Sixteenbars.
I get that it’s embarrassing, but you just have to rise above it.
Yes, mention it to your DH but do it casually so that it doesn’t alarm him and doesn’t turn the situation into something bigger than it has to be.
Good luck - be cool. 😎

15 years ago.... get over it

I see my ExH all the time- I obviously did a lot more than just give him a BJ since we have 2 teen DC. He comes for dinner, he's friends with my DP: I do not think any of us worries about the fact that we once snagged a lot! Grow up fgs.

Why wouldn't you mention to your DP that his best mate from when he was a teenager has moved in on the next street? I wouldn't harp on about the BJ though. All three of you know it happened, but nothing came of it and you've all long since moved on!

I met up with a very old school friend nearly 30 years after I’d last seen her. Turns out she is married to the first bloke I ever gave a BJ to...that was awks! They’re two of our best friends now, not something we often chat about over dinner & doubt very much his wife knows the details. My hubby & his wife know that we had a brief thing when we were teenagers but it’s a non-issue. Been plenty of others in btw for all of us...

Although I frequently read some posts, I’m not quite sure what all the abbreviations mean
DH, DS, etc, etc, can someone please inform me? 👍🏻

Dear Husband, Dear Son.

Or you could put Dcat (dear cat), DD (Dear daughter) etc

Sounds like you enjoyed his member so much it keeps replaying in your mind.
Interesting....

Oh dear god! If I wigged out about seeing every bloke I’ve had a past with I’d not leave the house. Past is past, get over it.

Does he even remember?

I also get it, OP. I've had only a couple of other relationships other than my DH, who I've been married to for nearly 17 years. But you really are over thinking this. I'm Facebook friends with one of my exes, for a long time he remained single, but now he's finally married. We occasionally like and comment on each other's photos or status updates.

My DH knows this and is fine about it. Though he wasn't happy at first when my ex sent me a birthday card and put 3 kisses on it. But we had been friends for a long time and I thought nothing of it.

If I were to run into my other ex, however, it would throw me, especially as it didn't end so well.

My DSis was very embarrassed when we had the DD of one of her exes (from France) came to our house as our au pair for a year. She begged me not to tell her, but of course she already knew and found it hilarious.

Pretend it never happened.

It’s not a defining moment in your life.... unless you turn it into one now by making a massive issue of it

Cripes, I once went to a party with my now husband to be confonted with 6 blokes id slept with in my past...Didn't even blink an eye. A ex FWB lived with us for a year when he needed a home, DH didn't care and he was well aware, we all have past lives!