To think who eats a family meal to themselves?!

[GimmeTheSnacks]

I made a meal this evening ready for tomorrow as the chicken needed cooking. It was cooling down on the side before putting it in the fridge. The next thing I know dp is home from work then walks in with a huge plate of it. It looked like a lot so I asked if he'd reheated the whole thing to which he replied "no I've saved ds (5) some as I know how much he likes it". I explained it was for tea tomorrow and he said I should have told him when he got home.

He has enough common sense to know I will have cooked it for another days meal so this was just so selfish. He can be selfish with food in terms of snacks but he's never done it with a meal before. There were 4 chicken breasts in it ffs!

Aibu to think this was out of order and selfish?

Was he drunk? Did he assume you had your fill or are you generally not a fan of chicken?
Was there other food to eat?

I understand the lack of asking is thoughtless, but why are you begrudging someone hungry eating?! I'd be pleased and flattered if someone went for more of my food not calling them pig and selfish.

My DH might ask, but otherwise crack on. We cook 2 chickens a week and my DS10 will often eat most of one himself so there is always roast chicken around and it's for anyone who wants some.

We all eat different meals anyway so I wouldnt have minded.

However YANBU if he knows that you cook the night before for the day after.

You’re all far nicer than I am.

I’d have snatched up the dish with a big (grim) smile and said ‘No you don’t, buddy. That’s tomorrow’s tea. Plenty of fruit or toast if you’re feeling greedy.’ and back in the fridge it would go.

Wouldn’t give it a second thought, or pay any attention to any resultant sulking. My policy is strictly ‘Act like a toddler, get treated like one.’

It depends.

Is money tight that you're accounting for every meal and snack?
Did he eat it all or chuck half of it away? Was he hungry or just eating it for the sake of it?
Has he been at work or out having fun?
What was is reaction when you pointed out it's for tea tomorrow? / where yours?

so i presume there was nothing for tea put out for him.after a days work and even if he'd stopped for tea earlier i can see all of mine coming in and looking how lovely the leftover look on the side and having some.and as much as thy wanted since its leftover.and if its for tomorrow i owuld make it very clear now either with a note a shouting thruogh when they came home to keep there mitts off the meal as its for tomorrow.

If he’d already reheated it, you can’t really save it for the next day as you can’t reheat chicken twice.

If he’d already reheated it, you can’t really save it for the next day as you can’t reheat chicken twice. Presumeably that’s why the Op asked him?

He needs to get you and the other children something to eat for tomorrow then. Will he?

Sorry, I meant that in reply to Nitpickpicnic, who suggested grabbing it out of his hands and telling him it’s for tomorrow. No point in wasting it now he’s reheated it.

I have given up batch cooking for this reason. I will make enough for 2 days but because it’s there and ready my family (especially the teens) finish it all.

Maybe he thought it was leftovers and was hungry? He can get dinner for today

Unbelievably greedy and selfish, what did he think the rest of you were going to eat?

Maybe he was just...hungry?
I get that he should have checked whet it was for, but if he thought it was for him to eat, then calling him greedy and a pig is mean. The man is allowed to just feel really hungry!

Why do you cook a chicken the day before you want it?

Sharonthetotallyinsane It’s a dish made with chicken, which obviously takes more time to prepare. Op works and they have kids including a baby.

Greedy pig. As if he wouldn't ask when a prepared meal was there if he could eat it at 10pm and save none. Selfish, he better sort tea tomorrow.

@Sharonthetotallyinsane 🤔 hmmmm? Because nobody ever cooks ahead do they? 🤦‍♀️ Apt username 👍

My dh does this. He i put a post it on anything he is not to eat. Problem solved.

Sorry I put a post it note on

Keep your knickers on northern, I’m a vegetarian.
Yes, he’s he acted selfishly.

I'm always amazed when these threads crop up, which they do with amazing regularity, at the lengths some posters will go to defend the greedy, selfish man - it's always a man - scoffing an entire family's food.

No tea for him tomorrow then OP.

Is he fat?

Roast chicken is a funny thing to have for tea.
Whaaat? Perfectly normal thing to have for tea. Not a normal thing to snack on at 10pm though.
Your DH sounds really greedy OP which would be a massive turn off for me. If he doesn't get home from work until 10pm then there is no point in telling him to sort dinner tomorrow, but he should be offering to pay for a takeaway for you and the children!

I would do beans on toast for the next meal, because he ate the chicken.

4 chicken breasts?

Does he ever cook, OP? He doesn’t seem to realise the effort involved in cooking from scratch.

Can he cook on some days?

There’s no question this was selfish. Who would serve themselves a portion that had the equivalent of 4 chicken breasts? I mean that must have been a massive bowl.
When I cook a meal for me, DH and 2 small DC I use 2 chicken breasts and it goes between the 4 of us.
You’re juggling a 4 month old, you are working and have other children?
Sorry, but that might have pushed me over the edge.
Selfish and greedy. How unattractive.