To think who eats a family meal to themselves?!

[GimmeTheSnacks]

I made a meal this evening ready for tomorrow as the chicken needed cooking. It was cooling down on the side before putting it in the fridge. The next thing I know dp is home from work then walks in with a huge plate of it. It looked like a lot so I asked if he'd reheated the whole thing to which he replied "no I've saved ds (5) some as I know how much he likes it". I explained it was for tea tomorrow and he said I should have told him when he got home.

He has enough common sense to know I will have cooked it for another days meal so this was just so selfish. He can be selfish with food in terms of snacks but he's never done it with a meal before. There were 4 chicken breasts in it ffs!

Aibu to think this was out of order and selfish?

@AmaryllisNightAndDay
My thoughts exactly.

Hes got deep rooted problems OP and I think you know this. You need to have a conversation with him about his health. I'd suggest being sympathetic, tell him that if he needs to eat 4 chicken breasts in a curry and a packet of rice in one sitting he has a major issue. It's not good for his health, his mobility will suffer, and he will get more and more depressed and harder to live with.
As someone who has lost 2.5st since September, and has another 5 to go, i know how hard it is, but he needs to face facts and get help. If hes above a certain BMI he may get a Slimming World referral from his GP (not all areas do it).

He doesn't chip in with the family food bill, says he has no money left.

You have far bigger issues then than him being terribly greedy and thoughtless.

He doesn't chip in with the family food bill, says he has no money left

But he mysteriously has the money to buy himself fast food at work during the week? You are married to an absolute selfish pig but the odd thing is- you don’t even seem that bothered by this appalling behaviour - why?

Bluerussian

am I missing something, can't see where it says roast chicken anyway?

YANBU, really annoying , should have checked with you first. I have similar with my family of adults, but normally when daughters cook themselves something without checking, I go to do the meal and half the ingredients have gone!!

Jojofjo44

she said he is thin, so no weight problems!!

YANBU, he’s a fucking pig

There are people with gluten intolerances that can’t afford to eat gluten free all the time. GF bread is £3, reduced to 50p, they would help my IBS for a whole week.

amispeakingenglish

The OP said her DH is very overweight

What @KatherineJaneway said.

He is overweight and won't deal with it, keeps eating ridiculous amounts but won't actually contribute to the food bill??
What else does he spend the money on?

Whatever is going on there needs some kind of intervention.

amispeakingenglish - she said he is thin, so no weight problems!!

No - OP said he is very overweight. OP also said that he doesn't contribute to the family food budget as he spends "his" money on McDonalds etc - but eats more than his share of the family food as well

Oh Op. I started feeling annoyed for you at the start of this thread, but now I feel sad. Your dp clearly has issues with food and for that I would normally feel sorry for him. The fact he doesn’t want to even try to change when his destructive food issues are affecting the whole family really isn’t on. I am afraid to say by buying food, treats etc and cooking for him you are enabling his behaviour. If you weren’t paying for all this he wouldn’t be able to afford to continue the way he is.

I would sit down and work out your monthly household food costs. This amount should then be split between you 50 50. When his money comes into his account at the start of the month his half should be paid into the joint account as should yours. Food is then paid for from the joint account. That way he can’t say he hasn’t the money left. If he is unwilling to do this then you need to completely stop buying food for him. Buy a lockable snack tin that only you have the key for. Certainly stop making meals for him. Make it clear that the situation will change once he starts paying his half.

In the long run you will be doing him a favour as he will be forced to cut down his intake. You also need to do this for your kids sake. They are little now so probably you can get away with it. Once they are older though they may feel it’s acceptable to behave like your dp or let someone treat them the way you’re being treated.

Good Luck.

@Cantuccit
There are people with gluten intolerances that can’t afford to eat gluten free all the time. GF bread is £3, reduced to 50p, they would help my IBS for a whole week.
If you buy gluten-free flour you can get 3 loaves out of a pack for £1.50. The time spent making the bread is surely worth it if you're otherwise unwell.