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To think who eats a family meal to themselves?!

588 replies

GimmeTheSnacks · 05/02/2020 23:44

I made a meal this evening ready for tomorrow as the chicken needed cooking. It was cooling down on the side before putting it in the fridge. The next thing I know dp is home from work then walks in with a huge plate of it. It looked like a lot so I asked if he'd reheated the whole thing to which he replied "no I've saved ds (5) some as I know how much he likes it". I explained it was for tea tomorrow and he said I should have told him when he got home.

He has enough common sense to know I will have cooked it for another days meal so this was just so selfish. He can be selfish with food in terms of snacks but he's never done it with a meal before. There were 4 chicken breasts in it ffs!

Aibu to think this was out of order and selfish?

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LangSpartacusCleg · 05/02/2020 23:48

So he saved some for DS but not for you. Could he have thought you had already eaten some? That is the only possible way this might be ok.

Otherwise, he is a greedy idiot.

LangSpartacusCleg · 05/02/2020 23:49

BTW - ask him what he plans on eating tomorrow night because he should be cooking it.

LuluBellaBlue · 05/02/2020 23:49

Surely if he’s eaten this for dinner this evening then whatever dinner he would of had tonight, can be used for tomorrow instead?
I don’t see the problem here, plus he saved ds son, but maybe I’ve misunderstood so apologies if so

TippledPink · 05/02/2020 23:49

Was some it meant for tonight or was it all for tomorrow? I can see that he may have presumed it was today's but if it was me I would have checked with who cooked it as to whether I could help myself.

LovingLola · 05/02/2020 23:50

Would he usually have a meal when he comes in from work?

Original poster
GimmeTheSnacks · 06/02/2020 00:07

He didn't get home til 10pm so will have already had tea. I would never eat 4 adult portions or not save any for him.

OP posts:
Original poster
GimmeTheSnacks · 06/02/2020 00:09

He knows I often cook for the next day or extra to freeze as we have 3 5 and under including a 4 month old and I work.

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Oulu · 06/02/2020 00:22

Tell him he's paying for a take-away tomorrow.

StatisticallyChallenged · 06/02/2020 00:28

LuluBellaBlue he's eaten a meal that was made for the whole family, leaving "some" for DS. So now OP has no dinner for the rest of them tomorrow.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 06/02/2020 00:29

Well did he think it was todays meal left for him? If my DH is on a late shift he gets home just after midnight but I leave him something to warm up

HalfBearOtherHalfCat · 06/02/2020 00:55

Honestly, my gannet of a husband could probably put away a family-size dinner by himself if he hadn't had much to eat during the day. But he would never just help himself to something cooling on the side without checking with me first that it actually was for him. Not like it is terribly taxing to quickly stick your head round the door and ask is it? Hmm

YANBU, he is a selfish greedy toad.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 06/02/2020 01:18

Greedy bastard!! How very fucking rude of him to only consider himself and the 5yo, and not you!!

I'd be SO angry. I wouldn't be fucking cooking anything for him for a week - let him buy fucking takeaway for himself!

SeaToSki · 06/02/2020 01:44

Put the plunger ready next to the toilet, that is going to be a defcon 3 when it lands.😂

Who needs to eat that much chicken in one sitting no matter who it was for...

ManCubsMama · 06/02/2020 02:56

Sounds very much like something my idiot husband would do as well.

His only excuse would be if he thought it was today’s leftover dinner.

willowmelangell · 06/02/2020 03:04

Wow greedy and thoughtless. I would be angry too.

What are you going to conjure up for dinner tomorrow? I don't have a magic fridge or an elastic budget that stretches to another meal.
If I found a chicken had 'gone off'(say) I would have to rustle up a pasta dish or omelette to replace it. I would not have a spare chicken laying around.

Bluerussian · 06/02/2020 03:05

Roast chicken is a funny thing to have for tea.
He probably did think it was there for him to eat tonight. I daresay you've got something else in the fridge or freezer which will do for tomorrow or there's always fish and chips !

QuiteForgetful · 06/02/2020 03:11

Seems somewhat thoughtless to not even ask about it... Did you have another meal in the fridge for him?

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 06/02/2020 03:28

My husband has form for similar - I have to bloody hide leftovers. Eg made a large dish with 4 adult portions of lasagne (good ones, I don't scrimp on portion size). Serve up dinner, we eat a portion each. Come back to kitchen 10pm to find he has eaten the other two portions. Pig. The lucky bastard weighs sod all too, turns sideways and he disappears.

These days if i want separate food for freezer or next day it goes in plastic clip lock tubs with a warning written on and woe bedtide him if he touches it.

pippitysqueakity · 06/02/2020 03:58

Bluerussian why is roast chicken a funny thing to have for tea? And if there were four breasts, sounds unlikely that this is what it is anyway.

MiniGuinness · 06/02/2020 04:11

Due to a mix up with a waiter my husband was presented with two meals in a restaurant... wtf were they thinking. It was their fault but my husband decided he would eat them both. It’s ridiculously greedy.

BlackCatSleeping · 06/02/2020 04:12

Was there something for his dinner in the fridge? Or does he usually cook his own?

He should have checked and it's very shitty that he didn't save any for you.

DobbinOnTheLA · 06/02/2020 04:12

Saying he didn't know is just ridiculous.

2 adults, a 5 year, then 2 younger including a 4 month old. How could he possibly think a dish with 4 chicken breasts was leftovers? And leaving only enough for the 5 year old. Though I suppose if it's the equivalent of 1 chicken breast left, the Mumsnet chicken portion guide means it will do the OPs family for the rest of the month.

GrumpyHoonMain · 06/02/2020 04:15

Might be better for him to make his own dinner going forward. You should just consider yourself and the kids

Shev1996 · 06/02/2020 04:22

Wait so he got in and spent time rehaeating a meal before joining you to eat it. All that time you never noticed he’s arrived home and is preparing food? I’m sorry but do you not say hello to each other when arriving home?

HouseworkAvoider10 · 06/02/2020 04:38

I wouldn't cook for that selfish prick for the rest of the week.
let him source his own greedy portions.
pig.