DH wants us to go on holiday to somewhere I don't

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DH has said he's tired of me choosing where we go on holiday. In the past he's just said he's happy to go wherever so I spend ages researching places and booking somewhere I think everyone will like.

He said this morning he wants us to try something different and go somewhere else. No beach, not much there from what I can see and it's near Afghanistan. I really don't think this is the ideal place for a family holiday at all. I know he's adventurous but this is madness.

He's now in a huff because I immediately said no. He said we won't go anywhere in that case which I thought was a bit of an over reaction. I don't know what's got into him recently. AIBU to say no straight away to this?

I thought Pakistan when you first mentioned it. If it was that then I would have said to go but be ware of getting food poisoning. I love my country but my stomach can't handle it anymore. But it's amazing and beautiful up north. I know a lady in one of my FB group went to Uzbekistan and she said that it was an amazing experience.

and kids don't always have to do activities. They need to learn to be closer to nature, disengage from technology and enjoy day to day experiences whilst exploring a new place.

I personally wouldn’t take my children anywhere that way. Can’t you both sit down and discuss options.i understand if he is wanting something different but you have to feel safe and comfortable in where you are going. What about skiing or a cruise?

Why do you think 'anywhere that way' wouldn't be safe ?

Good old garden variety prejudice?

I confess to a wry smile at this thread given @FatherBuzzCagney's post.

Everyone raving about this place and encouraging OP to visit. Yet anyone who goes to the UAE is slated and dismissed as vacuous idiots with more money than sense with the unacceptable politics of the region cited as the reason.

It's not a place I'd want to go I must be honest. My ds, 17, is a huge train buff - autistic - and I wouldn't want to have to deal with potential jail time if he took a photo of a train.

Everyone raving about this place and encouraging OP to visit. Yet anyone who goes to the UAE is slated and dismissed as vacuous idiots with more money than sense with the unacceptable politics of the region cited as the reason.

Likewise the Maldives.

:Pickpick101
Why do you think 'anywhere that way' wouldn't be safe ?

Because You never know what your gonna get 😂😂😂

@Youneverknowwhatyourgonnaget
I personally wouldn’t take my children anywhere that way. Can’t you both sit down and discuss options.i understand if he is wanting something different but you have to feel safe and comfortable in where you are going. What about skiing or a cruise?

Ooh, yes, let's all go for a cruise on the Diamond Princess. What better way to feel safe and comfortable. And there's a reason why winter sports holiday insurance is a lot higher than general holiday insurance. Your suggestions are far riskier than a holiday to Uzbekistan in terms of illness and injury.

I personally wouldn’t take my children anywhere that way.

There's some astounding insularity and ignorance on this thread.

You need to employ the 5-3-1 decision making method.


Person 1 picks 5 destinations.

Person 2 whittles it down to 3.

Then put those 3 back to Person 1 who picks 1.

It sounds odd but it works so well for things like this: both parties feel consulted.

(You might need some ground rules, like the 5 options have to genuinely be different - e.g. Person 1 can’t just pick five Greek Islands if Person 2 hates Greek Islands.)

You could even take it in turns to be Person 1 and Person 2 each time you pick a holiday.

lifehacker.com/use-the-5-3-1-method-to-pick-dinner-plans-with-your-par-1790135331

Are we talking about the way decisions are made in your family?. You spend ages researching and booking holidays you say. Where do his thoughts fit in? Do you make any other big decisions? Car ? Household decor? Family outings? Financial stuff? Beware being the hardworking controller.

Love it. The poor bloke got shot down without a thought, but now MN has given a helping hand and with a bit of research it's now perfectly reasonable because theres a pool

his turn to choose. Just go you may enjoy it and you can claim your choice in future for the next 10 years!!

@Igotthemheavyboobs oh go away with your faux pretence.

90% of men everywhere are either incompetent, lazy or both. If your man isn't then you are bloody lucky but he is by no means the norm.

Most men despite being competent enough to run global corporations leave EVERYTHING to their wives and can't be trusted to do even a basic Tesco shop on their own without cocking it up.

We don't need your judgement so take it elsewhere thank you.

The trouble is that the mine DH said it was near Afghanistan you dismissed it out of hand

These places only start getting popular through word of mouth and excellent reviews, etc ....

25 years ago your reaction would have been the same if someone suggested a holiday in Croatia, now its a highly popular holiday destination and relatively inexpensive

Research it thoroughly and take a chance

FFS let him choose a holiday for once and stop being such a control freak.

Your husband should be allowed to make a decision on his own once in a while, or why did you marry him? You said yourself you always choose. Let him have a go. And if it’s a disaster he will have learnt something. And if it’s not a disaster you will learn something.

My partner has chosen the last few holidays and normally chooses France. I chose Poland when asked, which initially led to some vigorous discussions, but they really loved it. We went again later in the year!

Tell him to go alone! I wouldn’t go. My DH wants to do a centre parks type thing in Germany and I won’t even do that with the kids because there’s no pool - only lake swimming. Fucking Uzbekistan? Sod that!

Inwiththenew

Your husband should be allowed to make a decision on his own once in a while, or why did you marry him? You said yourself you always choose. Let him have a go. And if it’s a disaster he will have learnt something. And if it’s not a disaster you will learn something

Or die!

Home office advice:
Take care in areas bordering Tajikistan, Kyrgyzstan and Afghanistan. Uzbekistan’s borders are potential flashpoints and uncontrolled border areas may be land-mined. Borders are subject to closure without notice. See Local travel

Terrorist attacks in Uzbekistan can’t be ruled out. See Terrorism

FAMILY FUN!!!

@Toomuchtrouble4me
Am pretty sure the risk of terrorism in the UK is still rated "high"

I don't think he's been unreasonable at all - I think a change is nice and seeing a new place you've never been to before is amazing. But if you realllly don't wanna go then he can't expect you to pay money to go there. I would though, but I'd try most places tbf

My DH wants to do a centre parks type thing in Germany and I won’t even do that with the kids because there’s no pool - only lake swimming. Fucking Uzbekistan? Sod that!

@toomuchtrouble you won't go because there is no pool? That's incredibly dull of you. I'd take Uzbekistan any day. The only time I've been anywhere when there was a terrorist attack was New York and London. We go to many unusual places and haven't had any problems.