DH wants us to go on holiday to somewhere I don't

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DH has said he's tired of me choosing where we go on holiday. In the past he's just said he's happy to go wherever so I spend ages researching places and booking somewhere I think everyone will like.

He said this morning he wants us to try something different and go somewhere else. No beach, not much there from what I can see and it's near Afghanistan. I really don't think this is the ideal place for a family holiday at all. I know he's adventurous but this is madness.

He's now in a huff because I immediately said no. He said we won't go anywhere in that case which I thought was a bit of an over reaction. I don't know what's got into him recently. AIBU to say no straight away to this?

Whether it be Uzbekistan, India, Vietnam/Cambodia, etc.
IMO that’s the sort of thing to do when kids are a lot older and v likely won’t be coming anyway.

India is perfectly doable with children, we did it with a 10 months old. People love kids, unlike in other parts of Europe where they treat them like a nuisance.

@LolaSmiles.

Actually I don't think the OP has and I have read their messages.
Like I said its not about the holiday but the attitude and no where does it say that she allowed him, to have an opinion on this. In fact she has only acted because of the responses she has received on here.

cardibach, Sense of humour!!!!!

cardibach, Sense of humour!!!!!

Your comment just wasn't very funny, ozymandiusking.

@ozymandiusking, that's not humour.

As well as being bigoted, your post is stupid. Google the sites and scenery of Pakistan and tell me that Bradford is the same.

Yep casual racism always rather gets the tumbleweed from me too.

Just remember you'll all need vaccinations. WHO recommend the following vaccinations for Uzbekistan:
hepatitis A, hepatitis B, typhoid, rabies, meningitis, polio, measles, mumps and rubella (MMR), Tdap (tetanus, diphtheria and pertussis), chickenpox, shingles, pneumonia and influenza.

Cheeseandwin5
She was opposed to it and is now open to it as an option.
Yes, it was to do with this thread, but isn't that why reasonable people post threads? To get a range of views and be open to the fact they've been unreasonable?

Are you sure he’s not pulling your leg. Who on earth would go near Afghanistan on holiday! On a side note though, you sound very controlling around the holiday situation. If you’ve picked the last few, of course he should have an input. It’s called compromise. It needs to be somewhere safe though. You’ll have to research it. It’s not somewhere I’d go or take my children though.

Look at a map, Jomarch. Uzbekistan has one small border with Afghanistan. There is a lot of the country you can see without going anywhere near it.

I'm impressed by your husband's original idea. My dh whinges about my holiday choices but doesn't put forward any ideas other than "scotland" (love scotland for some holidays but occasionally insist on somewhere warm!)

Being boring for a moment though I'd personally be worried about finding suitable food for my (vegetarian) fussy water kids though. But that might be completely unfounded.

@Jomarchsburntskirt I'm sorry but you're being ridiculous. Uzbekistan is HUGE. And is in no way connected to Afghanistan in any sense other than that tiny border. They are entirely separate countries.

I've travelled to Uzbekistan twice for significant amounts of time. It is a very safe, welcoming and hospitable country. There are no safety concerns at all, and children will be very well received.

Sounds amazing, I'll go in your place

There's so much more in the world than Mediterranean resorts. I personally fancy travelling overland all the way to Singapore!

Uzbekistan is amazing! Your dd would love it. You'll love it too. I really can't understand beach holidays at all tbh. So dull.

When I take my dcs to places like that I just make sure I book a place to stay with a pool - that keeps them happy - but tbh they don't really like that.

@FlashingFedora

That is not the advice of the UK government- which is merely

All Travellers
Travellers should be up to date with routine vaccination courses and boosters as recommended in the UK. These vaccinations include for example measles-mumps-rubella (MMR) vaccine and diphtheria-tetanus-polio vaccine.

Country specific diphtheria recommendations are not provided here. Diphtheria tetanus and polio are combined in a single vaccine in the UK. Therefore, when a tetanus booster is recommended for travellers, diphtheria vaccine is also given. Should there be an outbreak of diphtheria in a country, diphtheria vaccination guidance will be provided.

I didn't have any vaccinations. oops. I was fine.

And you can eat Lamb Jizz. What's not to like?!

I would take the wind RIGHT out of his sails here

'DH I've researched and it sounds great. Fab that you are taking the lead with the holiday for a change! I'm fine with it, I'll hand over to you now for sorting everything - if you could research places to stay/stuff to do/visas/travel costs/stuff we'll need to pack... just let me know if you need any info from me...'

grin

Actually that was said to me 15 years ago and family holidays have never been the same since. DP now just goes with the flow to see where we end up next.
The kids still talk about our trip to Tranistria and then going over the border to the Ukraine with a mix of 'that was great but odd' and 'Why the hell did we go there, what's up with Spain!!'

Yep. No extra vaccinations needed.

Seriously, just because a country is unfamiliar doesn't make it scary and unsafe!

@PeggySuehadababy, I was talking children, not babies.
Children generally like at least some child-friendly activities on holiday, and other children to play with.
A 10 month old is hardly in that category.

Though I dare say some MNers will now say that their 7 and 10 year olds simply adored trailing around temples, and if they got a wee bit bored now and then would happily go back to reading Winnie The Pooh in Latin.

Whether it be Uzbekistan, India, Vietnam/Cambodia, etc.
IMO that’s the sort of thing to do when kids are a lot older and v likely won’t be coming anyway.
Eh?
Kids if alleges go to these places including one from a young age. They still came when they wee older and they are still fipin' coming by nw they bring the girlfriends with them. ( I font really mind, it's nice that they still join in at least one hoiday a year with us)
To be fair some if the places have been a learning curve for gfs but the lads are used to it.

MNers will now say that their 7 and 10 year olds simply adored trailing around temples, and if they got a wee bit bored now and then would happily go back to reading Winnie The Pooh in Latin.

Not Winnie the Pooh in Latin. But possibly Horrible Histories or something like that. Sorry, but yes, we first took our kids to SEA at that sort of age and they loved it - temples and all.

Y'know, I get that some families have different interests, preferences and enthusiasms. I don't assume that they must be lying if they don't like what we do.

We have been lucky enough to have travelled all over the world with our children but I tend to take guidance from both the Uk and Australian gov travel advice websites - and no I would not be going with my kids. Australian government tends to be more cautious and I might follow UK government for myself and hubby but for my kids I take the Aus government more cautious approach.
www.gov.uk/foreign-travel-advice/uzbekistan and www.smartraveller.gov.au/destinations/asia/uzbekistan

We went to Berlin for a week with our then 5 year old. A couple of people wondered what on earth we'd do there for a Whole Week.

In Berlin.

There is just nothing you can do with some people. I think I could spend six months in Berlin and that would be fine.

Though I dare say some MNers will now say that their 7 and 10 year olds simply adored trailing around temples, and if they got a wee bit bored now and then would happily go back to reading Winnie The Pooh in Latin.

Kids like weird stuff. Mine likes Vermeers but not swimming in the sea. People are all different including children. Mine liked Disneyland but also Central America. She'd hate a beach holiday.

Those on here saying that you shouldn't take kids to places off our mainstream beaten track because there's nothing for the children do, don't you think parents in those countries do fun activities with their children? Of course they do. You can travel to India, Ukraine, Uzbekistan etc and there will be something for kids to join in. We managed to take our kids to the fair and the beach in Ukraine, to a big air and sea museum in Estonia where they went in a submarine and loved it. They have been in National parks all over and done the same things as local kids.
It's a bit shortsighted to think there's nothing for children to do in other countries you are not familiar with.

Fact is people and families do and like different things.