To think my sister is utterly ridiculous

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Older sister has two children, I have one. For Christmas / birthdays my mum has always offered to buy one larger gift for each grandchild and then always gets them each some other smaller bits and bobs (rather than just getting loads and loads of smaller toys).

My sister over the past couple of years has said she wants to cut down on the amount of toys her children have and has asked for experience type things for them instead - totally fine, nobody in the family has a problem with that, each to their own etc etc. I don’t feel like we have an overwhelming amount of toys so I’m happy for my mum to buy my DD them.

My sister this year said she didn’t want any toys buying for her children and asked my parents to give cash instead for her to spend on them at a later date. She also asked my mum to buy theatre tickets for her, husband and children (cost c. £200 for the 4 tickets) as a Christmas present. Our mum got them the tickets, transferred another £200 to my sister’s account and also got the kids a couple of things so they had something to open (Christmas pj’s, a selection box and a book and a little craft kit type thing each).

My DD got a first bike as her larger gift and then other toys, books etc.

Today my sister has gone off on one and accused my mum of favouring my DD over her children and said my mum was horrible for still buying DD gifts and that she should have just been given cash as well. Apparently if her children haven’t got gifts to physically open then DD shouldn’t be bought them either.

They spent Christmas this year with BIL’s family so it’s not even like we were all together for opening presents for her children to question why my DD got toys they didn’t get.
And my mum is always really fair about making sure things are equal between all her grandchildren so it’s not like one gets more than the other throughout the year or in terms of amounts spent.

My mum is really upset about this because she’s done exactly what my sister asked for and now been told she’s a horrible mother / grandmother for doing that.

My sister is being a dick, right? Surely you can’t say you want cash instead of gifts to open and then have a tantrum because other people had presents instead??

And quite frankly, I don’t want cash from my mum as a present for her granddaughter! My sister does and that’s fine but I know my mum likes picking out presents for DD and I don’t see how it’s reasonable to expect everyone to stop giving gifts to open just because she doesn’t want that.

AIBU??

YANBU! Your sister is being completely ridiculous.

Your sister is being a proper little madam. She can ask for things to be done the way she wants for her kids (and your mother very kindly and generously acceded), she doesn't get to dictate for you and your kids.

If I were your mother, I wouldn't be getting upset, I'd be getting pretty ruddy angry and telling my daughter that she can pull her damned head in.

She's being an utter cock

She’s being a grabby twat. Surely she realises your Mum almost definitely spent more on her than you and you’re not kicking off about it? If I were your Mum I’d tell her never to demand things again and that she’ll get what she’s given.

YANBU. Your sister sounds greedy and taking advantage of your mum's generous nature.

Your sister is completely unreasonable!

Your sister is very much being a dick!

She made her choice, and absolutely has no right to dictate what other people should or shouldn't be bought! So rude.

Tell your sister to get to fuck

Thank you! I’ve genuinely spent the last couple of hours going between thinking she’s being an absolute knob or wondering if we’ve inadvertently commuted some kind of gift faux pas that we didn’t know existed!

Your sister’s being horrible

Of course she's being ridiculously unreasonable, I'd pull her up on that myself as well if I were you. How dare she try and dictate what your child gets from her grandmother

YANBU. Your sister sounds like an arse.

Tell your mum to ignore your sister, and you do the same. Your mum shouldn't be upset, she should be bloody angry.

Don't feel any bad way about your daughter showing off her bike, when the time comes and your sister has accumulated all the cash she is keeping, I'm sure she'll not listen to your complaints of 'it's not fair your DC have all this money AND mum gave them presents too!'

Your sister is being oppressive, entitled and illogical.

Definitely not!

And apparently 107% agree

Honestly, if there's not more to this story then my response would be to tell her to grow up and stop acting so spoiled and precious. It's none of her damn business if your child gets physically gifts over a cash one. She needs to apologise to your mum, and realise how lucky you all are to get so much from her in the first place.

She's a dick. Presumably your sister spent the money on the dc at some point. So they did receive something.

Wonder no more, she is an entitled knob. Please don’t let her convince your mum to give cash to all grandkids.

She's a nob

She received what she asked for. Nothing to do with her what your child received.

If I was your mum I would stop letting your sister dictate how she behaves. She is being a ridiculous spoilt brat

@mouthbreathingrage there honestly isn’t! To be honest we’re all (adults and children) embarrassingly spoilt by my mum and dad and really, really lucky! I’m honestly at a loss as to why she thinks she’s somehow hard done by!

Your sister sounds like a nightmare. It’s not all about her (even though she clearly thinks it is!). Your mum did what she wants and is now kind of wanting it both ways. She can’t call the shots for everyone

Yeah she can't be dictating what your kid gets too, that's just very very odd behaviour.

She's your mother daughter. I suggest your mother has a firm word with her and tells her that she can say what her own kids get for Xmas but she certainly doesn't get to demand what any others do And to wind her neck in.