to be pissed off with this everyday sexism

[EmJay19]

So my MIL (and other family members) send cards
‘To Mr & Mrs J Bloggs’ for example, even though my initial isn’t J. What’s the sense in this? Wondering if she would do this if she had a daughter.
What are your everyday sexism bugbears?

[whyamidoingthis]

@OhTheRoses - It was incredibly important to me that my family all had the same name.

In that case, using the mother's surname makes a lot more sense, particularly in the case of divorce.

[Doobigetta]

I have friends in their 30s and 40s do this, because “it’s correct etiquette, you know”. Last I heard correct etiquette was about making sure you use correctly the title and name someone chooses, so they’re still wrong.

[Miriel]

I'm in my thirties and remember being taught that this was correct. My response as a teenager was that it was sexist rubbish, and 'correct' or not, I wouldn't do it. I agree, it's annoying to see.

If a woman has changed her name, Mr & Mrs Bloggs is fine. Or Mr J. and Mrs K. Bloggs. Women don't take their husbands' first names when they marry, and thankfully they don't become their husbands' property either. They retain an identity other than 'wife of J. Bloggs'.