What do you like/dislike about MN ?

[Phoenixxx]

It's great to have an array of replies and opinions when you post, to know that others are in the same situation, to have something that has helped me to identify red flags and signs of abuse. To have people cheer you up and people to talk to any time of the day.
The only thing I dislike are the small number of posters who will criticise you no matter what you write, who make cruel comments.

The amount of people who think that if they disclose that their husband plays golf or cycling that this would be enough to identify them

The big strength of MN is there are always lots of posters with ready answers.

The biggest weakness of MN is there are always lots of posters with ready answers.

The professionally offended.

I can't say because it's a name of a poster. Generally though I dislike the way it's a nest of vipers unless you find the occasional gem of a thread which is long term participants. It used to be a much kinder, nicer place than it is now.

I like the ability to name change. As a regular over-sharer this helps me avoid embarrassing situations in real life.

I don't like criticism of posters' spelling, grammar or general literacy level. Posters must think it makes them sound real clever, but it makes them sound like an utter twat.

I dislike people being allowed to name change, just because they're afraid people will disagree with them. It means they can start goady threads in one name and then slip back into their old one, to be all sweetness and light again.

If you believe in what you're saying, just own it

I like the array of different experiences.
I don’t like it when people’s go to answer is to leave a relationship (obviously unless there is abuse) as if everyone else’s relationships are perfect and don’t take any work or compromise.
Also when people decide just to be nasty although that’s not frequent

@fjreflycaramel I find thats a real trait of AIBU, and im with you. It can unnecessarily mean. I get the impression a lot of people hang around for an argument.

Other categories are ok - the pregnancy/parenting threads are very helpful and kind I find.

I don't like criticism of posters' spelling, grammar or general literacy level. Posters must think it makes them sound real clever, but it makes them sound like an utter twat.

Yes, this, definitely.

Like: the overwhelming support for someone struggling. The camaraderie, the humour, wit, intelligent replies and thoughtful responses.

Dislike: The judgy aggression for anyone who doesnt choose to live their life the exact same way as other posters, how different always = wrong to some people, posters who clearly haven't read the full thread and then suggest things that won't work because they havent RTFT!, how some people will get fixated on some random detail of the OP that is completely meaningless and nothing whatsoever to do with the overall post yet they'll focus on it and obsess over it.
The hypocrisy. Someone posts they do something and gets applause, someone else posts their husband does the exact same thing and they get told to LTB.
The "my experience is universal" bollocks- just because it hasn't happened to you, doesnt mean it hasn't happened to others.

The amount of clearly made-up frothy nonsense on here these days is a bit of a shame. And the number of people who take it at face value and give considered and thoughtful answers to what is clearly a troll or WUM.

I really struggle with the "but I can't" posters. They lay out their issue in detail, they actively ask for advice and then respond with "can't" to all suggestions.

I like how funny MN is generally. Something makes me laugh out loud most days.

Dislike everything going into AIBU 'for traffic'.
Was a much better place when all topics were used.

I'm relatively new and post a bit but mainly lurk. There's some great, really thoughtful advice on here but it can also be a deeply unpleasant place to hang out. I get that if you're posting on AIBU it should probably be in the expectation that it's going to be a tough gig but I think a little bit of empathy goes a long way. I think some posters prize being 'cool' over being kind.

There are some really intelligent knowledgable posters who can offer some great advice, support and information on resources. I’ve seen some amazing threads since I started here six years ago.

I had about a year off and now I see lots of threads where posters are just vile especially when the poster is asking for help. It reminds me of the comments section in the daily fail.

'you've posted before' because something sounds a little similar, and even if they have there's no rule that they can't post again.

Feminist chat section has lost the plot. It's become extremely right-wing, a recent post recommends (woman-hating) Sargon of Akkad for his straight-talking, 'free-speech,' 'no-nonsense' approach (yes, that right-wing misappropriated version of the idea of free speech). There's also Trump ideology rife in there - anti- the so-called 'liberal elites' etc.

Like - the wide range of users, so that you sometimes hear perspectives that you wouldn't easily come across IRL (as your friends are more likely to come from a similar background to your own)

Like - the feminist slant - it's really rare to find such a vocal feminist space on the internet

Love - the 50-book thread

Dislike - the calls to LTB over minor disagreements

I dislike the amount of trolling that goes on and how so many posters get sucked in time and time again.

I like how you can ask anything and someone will know the answer.

Agree with worra about the name changing. I'd like to see it limited.

The fact that when you create a thread from the app you can only post under AIBU.It looks like you're just posting for traffic when really it does it automatically.

There’s a lot of support and humour but the “advice” is pretty suspect, especially anything legal which i would simply ignore, even from people who post “lawyer here”. I always think “lawyer where?” because this site is worldwide. Scottish law is hugely different from English and the alleged advice is likely to be useless.

I also hate the way some posters trip over themselves to agree with who they decide is mn “royalty”, screeds of “I agree with XX” and “what XX said” when they haven’t said anything significantly different from hundreds of others. The sycophantic fawning over “named” posters is boak making.

The fact that when you create a thread from the app you can only post under AIBU.It looks like you're just posting for traffic when really it does it automatically.

You can post in different topics not just AIBU when you use the app.

When posters include "cunt" or a derivative thereof. I never hear it in real life and I don't want to read it on MN.

For me, it's a thread killer.

Like, the feminist chat, the politics chat, the humour and support.

Dislike, goadiness, trolls and men coming on to tell women what we may and may not discuss.