What do you like/dislike about MN ?

[Phoenixxx]

It's great to have an array of replies and opinions when you post, to know that others are in the same situation, to have something that has helped me to identify red flags and signs of abuse. To have people cheer you up and people to talk to any time of the day.
The only thing I dislike are the small number of posters who will criticise you no matter what you write, who make cruel comments.

I like the funny bits and seeing other perspectives to my own. It gives me a sense of what is more like average when on cleaning/bed changing/ironing threads for example.

I REALLY dislike anyone using the word trigger instead of content warning. For those who are set off, seeing the T word is enough.

Flashing/moving ads.

Posters quoting the @username instead of outlining the jist of their point or which bit they agree with. So I end up scrolling for ages looking for what e.g. @ Worra thinks, often to be disappointed that it was nothing much more noteworthy than other posts.

The lack of a capital i on the address bar mumsnet/Talk/amib

People that find things ridiculously funny when I don't i.e. they write that they have coffee on their keyboard now when I have not read anything funny enough to make me smile and breathe out through my nose even.

I would not be without it though.

I hate the posters who seem to think their word is the end of the matter as if everyone has been waiting for them to come along and finalise the thread.

I hate the posters who seem to think their word is the end of the matter as if everyone has been waiting for them to come along and finalise the thread.

Uh oh. I have been rumbled.

End of.

I like the anxiety support and mortgage advice I've had on here.

I dislike it when someone asks what salary or career people have and everyone who replies is a super skilled airline pilot, neuroscientist or a Unicorn jockey on £110,000,000,000,000 per year...

Like:
The excellent advice you can get from other posters on all sorts of issues, from the trivial to the really important

Dislike:
The rudeness of some posters
The fact you can’t edit your own posts can be very frustrating

I like that it's a good time killer/filler. I like the support shown to people really struggling, and I also like the 'fluff' threads when it's lighthearted and amusing. I don't so much like the 'know it all's', who seem to think if they rephrase their originally ignored comment 500 times then it'll 'suddenly become apparent they were right all along' 🙄. I don't like the general pile ons just because someone may have phrased something badly its all, 'ahhh! See! Here lies evidence that you're an absolute cock! And we shall bold it an repeat it many times after you've corrected us!'.

Anyone who does not conform to social norms, or voted Tory, deserves a special place in hell if Mumsnet is anything to go by! And GOD FORBID you speed once or run an amber traffic light. Also hate stealth boasting, or posts asking if "100k is a good wage", knowing bloody full well it is!

A lot of good things though, always access to a wide range of opinions and people can be very kind and supportive on here from what I've seen.

I love it for recognising the signs of an abuser, narcissist, etc. I have a greater awareness of red flags, and would embark on a new relationship with my eyes well and truly open.

MN can be funny.

I've never namechanged in my life ... and wouldn't actually know how

Also find it useful to gain different perspectives on a topic or issue.

Things I dislike:

the posters who ask 'why are you having a second baby with this man?' Well yeah, she's already up the duff and he is an arse. Not ideal. But it's a bit fucking late to go all smug on her. Instead, offer empathy and advice for the situation she is actually IN.
The 'cool' posters who everyone believes to be super helpful. How is writing a sarcastic one-liner in any way helpful?
The miserable posters who could start an argument in an empty room. And who accept so little shit from anyone that it's a wonder they can function in any normal relationship.

The fact that using a parent & child space when you're a parent with a small child is seen as entitled. In MN world you must NEVER use a parent and child space, just in case a man with an invisible dicky knee might need to use it. IRL people use them who have kids.
The funniest argument I've heard for it is "the supermarkets only have them to get parents into the store". WHAT!!! A supermarket marketing to its customers wants and needs?! Sacrilege!! I feel like a total fool now

I actually really like the option to name changed. It's much more of a diverse site than say fitness, cycling, basket weavers. So you don't feel you have to keep the same identity that you'd generally use to post if you're asking for opinions regarding something new in your life ie you could have 200 posts about your general life, and then find out your spouse is cheating, or your boss is trying to get rid of you. Why would you want to post under a username that could link you back into people looking up your past posts and declaring, well you've renewed your wedding vows 6mth before so are you stupid? 😒

LIKE: The kindness shown. The great advice given to people in particular situations be it health, legal or relationship problems.

DISLIKE: The unkindness shown. The putdowns and uncalled for name calling. The bad advice given on health issues which could result in major problems if followed through.
Kindness comes in many forms, a quote on kindness I always remember and admire is as follows.
Loaning someone your strength, wisdom and courage instead of reminding them of their weakness.

Bad: Dislike the LTB for very small thing. He didn’t take the bins out LTB! It’s not useful advice. Someone looked back through my commenting history to prove her point when I didn’t agree with her point. That seemed mental to me.

Good: the human interest

I dislike the lack of objectivity and compassion. I also wish people would stop name-changing; why is this a thing? If for security reasons, what breach do they fear and is it justified? I also wonder why people who aren't parents (or grandparents, family members or caregivers of children) post on here? Surely there are other non-parenting fora to follow?

I like the openness and variety of threads. Almost anything goes, which is so different from RL. I appreciate that there is support for parents who have nowhere else to ask questions, get feedback, share a laugh and feel less alone.

I like the fact that I have learned things on here. Sometimes there’s a lot of humour.

I dislike it when people wonder why the childfree are here. Perhaps this is because the vast majority of topics have nothing whatsoever to do with children or parenting.

Love- the feminist board

Hate- the way people post in AIBU when what they want to talk about would be far more suited to another topic. Chat used to be the most popular topic, but now when I scroll through Active Convos, I rarely see it used: EVERYBODY posts whatever shite in AIBU.

The quote system sucks, like seriously sucks lol
One site on I'm only allows name changes once a month, that's a fair compromise. Users can ask mods to change in that month if there a safety or privacy issue though.

But I love the varied opinions and posters. It's so mixed unlike some Aussie sites which become an echo chamber.
No matter the time of day where I am, there is something going on here

@alexambidextra Why call it "Mumsnet" if it's not especially intended for mums/parents? Genuinely curious.

Squeamish. Absolutely no idea. 🤷‍♀️ Presumably it started out that way but has evolved over the years. Every time someone asks us childfree why we are here it always sounds as though they think we have no right to be. When in fact roughly 80 to 85% of the topics are nothing to do with parenthood.

Dislike: Still no function to view only the OP’s posts and updates. I’ve literally scrolled through 26 page threads looking for a crucial update. It’s been suggested to MNHQ a million times, they always say they’ll “consider it” but by now it’s clearly a conscious choice not to do it.

Like: diverse opinions, the amount of ideas, the genuinely brilliant things I have learned, recommendations for Babylis Big Hair - I use it everyday, getting different perspectives

Dislike:

• People seemingly misunderstanding the point in order to be mean. Eg someone made the leap I didn’t love my children because I thought it was time their dad read their bedtime story and not me (wtf?)
• When men post. (I get a physical feeling that says ‘space invaded, why are you here, go away). Whether that’s right or wrong that is my real feeling.

Dislike: it used to be better , for instance when people didn't feel the need to namechange so often. There was a time when people used the correct topics (mainly) and we didn't have the very stupid "Aibu to ask ..." threads littering up the place.

Like: you can still get practical advice on almost any subject. Being able to discuss the occasional TV programme. Mainly I login to read the FWR threads to keep myself up to date with the much under-reported GRA issue.

thetwinkletoescollective

The site isn’t just for women. It’s parents. Or do you not see men as equal parents?

I like:

the large number of people involved and the variety of subjects;

the care some people will put into responses.

I dislike:

subject titles that mean nothing, for example “I have a question”;

People who start threads on things they could simply Google;

Those who get rude/personal/judgemental;

An assumption that we are all heterosexual;

Women not being supportive ofvother women.

Dislike:

• the reverse snobbery (if someone drives aggressively it has to be a driver; if someone is wealthy, they must be too busy looking at their reflections in the mirror
• the virtue signalling
• the don't grass people mentality whenever someone clearly commits benefit fraud and boasts about it

Looking at the above, I start to think MN has been invaded by ex Net huns, very lefty, on the lower scale in terms of finance, hates everyone who is successful.

Dislike that anyone vaguely related to an OP 'has stolen' a baby name and obviously it can never be used again. Whilst forgetting there are usually 3 dc in each school year with same name.
MNHQ deleting a comment that I can no longer remember but don't email the comment to me although they email every other thread I've looked at.