What do you like/dislike about MN ?

[Phoenixxx]

It's great to have an array of replies and opinions when you post, to know that others are in the same situation, to have something that has helped me to identify red flags and signs of abuse. To have people cheer you up and people to talk to any time of the day.
The only thing I dislike are the small number of posters who will criticise you no matter what you write, who make cruel comments.

@loobyloo1234 I agree- I've seen some really caring responses to some quite heartbreaking threads- that can only come from a place of true empathy and kindness-
I also agree with people not RTFT, posting a response on page 15 that was answered on page 2, argued about for several pages after......!

@IsolaPribby Sorry!

I like that you get an array of opinions and actually some very good advice.

I don't like posters who will immediately pick up on poor punctuation, grammar and spelling rather than responding to the original thread. They clearly think it makes them look superior, it doesn't! I also don't like that people will ask for a thread to be deleted simply because they don't like the advice they have received or opinions stated. It is also annoying when people swear for no particular reason on posts it really doesn't add anything.

People posting on AIBU who in no way want to hear or listen to YABU....

IsolaPribby but do you never stop to wonder whether things have moved on from the OP over 20 pages and that you may well be wasting your time by not RTFT, and that of the posters who are following? In long threads I first just read the OP’s posts which generally give an idea of what’s going on.

@Taddda. I love threads where the OP asks AIBU and when confronted with a host of replies saying YABVVU comes back on to drip feed evermore inconsequential detail that does not change anyone’s initial opinion. I often wonder with these threads if the few voices agreeing with the OP are actually the OP themselves posting from new accounts.

Sadly these threads are often deleted due to the OPs supposed ‘RL concerns‘.

@Inherdefence I'd prefer it if the OP on those threads would just hold their hands up eventually and say 'actually, your right....' I find it so frustrating they asked AIBU, they get YABU, even to the point posters are fact finding to prove it and still no shift in th OP's stance!

Hitting, head and brick wall!

I like that the moderation is very timely and responsive compared to some bigger discussion sites like Reddit and Craigslist.

What I dislike is that anti-Americanism seems to be tolerated and accepted to a degree that would cause heads to spin around if it were directed at any other nationality.

"The spirit of Mumsnet" is a mysterious thing indeed. The KB thread (about whether it should have been the BBC's main news story yesterday) was taken down because it became a slanging match between Mumsnetters and made the place look a bit shabby. Personally I think HQ delete far too much overall.

Chic Yet there is another thread on the same subject still up as of now, which is at least as "contentious" as the other that was pulled as being not "in the spirit"

I like that there is such a wealth of information and support. I was introduced to the Lundy Bancroft book, which may well have saved my life. I received support from strangers while leaving my town and going into refuge, which for me was monumental. I will never forget it.

More recently, I have become negatively affected by the anti trans narrative on here. It breaks my heart that so many people carry so much hatred for my child, for something he cannot help.

Nobody hates your child AT ALL. If anything, they are concerned.

Like the ability to get factual advice.

Dislike when posters are called vile or similar. Everyone has unpleasant traits and thoughts

@Taddda "you can't expect everyone to type, edit, check, post"

Why not? I do. It's basic courtesy if you want people to read what you've written.

As I said, the odd typo is whatever but when whole sentences are mangled, I just stop reading.

All this "oh my predictive text has a mind of its own". It doesn't. It's a machine. You're just not using it properly. Even if it did, you should still check what has actually been written. It takes two seconds and there's even a preview button.

@DisinterestedParty because I'm not that anal when it comes to forum posts, nor submitting an essay....plus when it comes to common courtesy when I'm possibly responding to a 'shits fucked up' titled thread I don't think 'must make sure my responses are grammatically accurate or I'm likely to offend'.
Plus, the whole point of 'predictive text' is that your phone does an artificial 'mind of it's own' by way of correcting what it 'thinks' are your mistakes... it just happens to be wrong, alot...

It's anal to check that your post is basically legible?

I'm not talking about grammar or spelling, I couldn't really care less about that. I'm talking about not having every second word mangled then blaming your phone.

@DisinterestedParty I've never seen a post where every second word is mangled by predictive text...? One or two, yes, some of which turned out to be quite funny anyway and obviously the phone was to blame for changing the more 'legible' word.
It would be quite anal (or 'banal' as my phone likes to change that word to!) to type, re-read, edit, preview every post! It doesn't take '2 seconds' to do that on a lengthy post- considering I've possibly had to delete and re-write numerous words already that my phone has decided to use instead of the ones I'd rather make a coffee and give my thumb a rest...

I wish MN had been around when I was young. I have always been a loner and had nobody to share problems with or to ask for advice, I certainly would have been able to deal with my parents if I had read the Stately Homes threads.

I am now well into my seventies and feel having the help of the younger people on here is invaluable. I have asked questions about Gestational Diabetes, my Will, elderly parents, Dementia, Divorced children, Gardening , Dog care and many others. Always I have kind and helpful responses.

I have felt most helpful when answering questions about Dementia and finding the way around around the Elderly Care System. The occasional personal thanks I have received for my Input makes me feel that I am giving something back to the MN community.

There is so much to love and be grateful for on this site. It is like living in a gossipy street. I have shed Tears at some posters plight and had a great great laugh at many of the witty posts. On here we have , good neighbours and bad neighbours, but the good far exceed the bad.

Nobody hates your child AT ALL. If anything, they are concerned.

100%. And if people just disinterestedly waved their hands and said "sure, let your child do whatever the hell they want", that would be more alarming.

I am and that people see genuine child welfare concerns and "hatred". It doesn't even make sense - why would a random internet strange "hate" some other random internet stranger's child?

hate the disablism and the way people act like wheelchair users are a bother.
really dislike the misogynist threads about MM.

love the fun threads like "silly things my toddler did"
and the really useful ones that educate and help.