@Moooooooo
Well, there was a thread yesterday about a man who earned three times what his wife did. Her car gave up, so he said he would LOAN (yes loan)! her the money for a new one WITH INTEREST!!
It seems there are many men on here and so presumably in real life these days, who see themselves as a separate entity when it comes to their family. The “my” money, “your” money” attitude. Some women interpret having “their” money in a marriage as “independence” but, ultimately, it’s invariably the woman’s earnings that take the hit once DC come along. Other women seem delighted to be given “allowances” - as if their DH is bestowing some great favour on his family. I personally think it’s all bollocks and some women are allowing men to have their cake and eat it.
All of this. ^
And I agree with you @Thickums and many others on here.
Also what fucks me right off is men who go on a date with a woman, (usually via the ghastly online dating,) and insist they split the bill/she pays for herself, 'because equality...'
I am not saying men should always pay, but the men who DO insist on it and claim 'it's because women are equal/want to be equal,' never insist on equality when it comes to childcare, housework, general family chores, and general drudgery. Nope, that be wimmins work!
I used to know a man who said (when I knew him for 3 or 4 years in the mid noughties,) 'women want equality, so they can 'take a punch.' Yep, this cunt really said that. Born in 1972 he was, so not someone who was brought up in fucking Victorian times.
I also know a man RIGHT NOW, who is 53, and has tried every trick in the book to finish work for good, for the last 7-8 years. (Since he was around 45/46.) Always ill, off sick half the time, a different ailment every other week, looking for ways to retire early, and has cut his hours from his cushy job from 32, to 28 to 24 a week, in the last 10 years. And even NOW, he moans he is 'constantly knackered.' His job is a doddle, and cushy, and a monkey could do it, with his hands tied behind his back, and his eyes closed!
His wife earns more, and he doesn't give a shit. She works 10 more hours a week than him, and she still does 90% of the household chores.
There are 3 or 4 other men I know who are pretty much the same. A couple of them are only 45 to 50, and haven't worked in 12-15 years, and have spent half their working life on DLA, ESA, PIP, jobseekers allowance etc. Because of various 'ailments.' Total fucking layabouts. Many people are deserving of being on these benefits and can't get them, and these A-holes say and do the right thing, and stay on the benefits indefinitely.
My dad, and his 4 brothers, (born 1930s and 1940s,) all worked in mines and foundries, (and so did their father and uncles,) and they worked 44 to 48 hours a week, (in a HARD MANUAL JOB,) had only Christmas day and Boxing day off at Christmas, and had only around 10 days off (holiday,) during the year. They were proud, hardworking men, who provided for their families, and were glad to do so.
Many men (as has been said on here,) born post mid 1960s, are lazy, workshy, layabouts, who don't want to work, and are more than happy for their wife to work more, earn more, and pay for more, but STILL expect the wife to be the fucking chief cook and bottle washer.
Shameful. Absolutely shameful.
Yeah, there were some men who kept all the money to themselves, and kept their women in penury, but some did not. And IMO, the way men behave now is worse! Letting their wife work more hours, and earn more, and pay for more, but also letting her do everything in the house/all the housework/drudgery/grunt work.
And don't pretend it doesn't happen, (or be coming out with the predictable mumsnet line 'you clearly know the wrong type of men LisaLee,) because it happens a LOT.. So don't pretend it doesn't. 