Overheard comments about weight.

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Hi everyone, I’ll keep this brief as I’m still in the moment and looking for quick opinions. A very long story short I suffer badly with anxiety and depression, no sob stories but I have barely left the house in 12 years. I bought a dog 6 months ago and when I did I vowed to him every single that I’d him. Up until now that has always been in places where other people don’t really go. Or at night in the dark. Until today. Now another important thing to note is that I’m very overweight, mainly due to no exercise and comfort eating but also because of side effects of medication (which I’ve now been weaned off so have actually lost a stone in a month woo). So today I decided to sod it, I’m taking him to the beach. It’s Saturday, the sun is shining and I underestimated how busy it’d be. But anyway, did the walk and was fine and lived. I was just about to get back into the car when I heard somebody say “Jesus Christ she’s huge”, I turned around and a family of 3, with a daughter around aged about 20, then continued to say “you wouldn’t let yourself go that far would you”. They all laughed and continued walking but the daughter turned around and saw that I had heard and then laughed again and whispered something to her mum. This happened about half an hour ago. I was in too much shock, and crying, to say anything so I began to drive home but pulled in and decided to write them a note just stating that kindness cost nothing and you don’t know the damage your words can do. I’ve driven back to the beach and their car is still here. Should I put the note on the windscreen or not? Thank you.

Leave the note. Whether it's homeless people or alcoholics or overweight people, you'll always have the odd cunt with not a drop of empathy in them.
And you keep getting out and about!

Most people don't think like them OP!

Remember
-You have a right to the world and should be free to walk in it at any weight. What harm does your weight do to anyone else? (Don't feel that you have to be decorative in some prescribed way before you are allowed out. If that were true - it would be an indoor life for most of us :) )

-Sadly, it is true that foolish and spiteful people have the same right to be out and about. Unlike you, these people do harm and really should be kept indoors away from the rest of humanity!

What takes more courage - going on that walk after all your issues or making snide comments.
You are awesome- keep going on .

Leave the note, why not. It might make them think.

I'm glad your dog is having such a positive effect on your well-being. Keep walking OP, I'm full of admiration for anyone who decides to change their life and goes ahead and does it

I wouldn't bother with a note.

Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing how much headspace you have given them.

Good on you for going out, think what an achievement that has been. Please do not let these strangers bring you down. Personally I wouldn't leave the note, doubt they would have a conscious. They are strangers, unlikely your paths will cross again. Think how awful it must be to be them and think such shitty things about people.

I'm not sure the note would change them - but it might. You will have made a strike that could make them hesitate in their lack insight next time. That would be a good thing.

Their reaction are a reflection of how disgusting that whole family is. Vile pricks.

I’m very overweight too but I’d rather be that and kind than a judgemental, hurtful cunt.

Please don't leave the note. The fact that you've written it will help you to ignore these ignorant people. Please concentrate on how well you've done, are doing and will continue to do. Please take on board all the positive comments on here, they outnumber by far, any ignorant comments made by intolerant people. How dare people make comments about other people? They don't know the battles other people have in their lives. Big respect to you.

You go girl xx

Oh well done you. Despite everything, you have kept going and stayed loving and kind. You did a really brave thing today, and you need to think about the fun you had with your dog and not these arsewipes. Please please don’t let them derail you. Please carry on getting out in the sunshine. Tell yourself that the worst happened and you dealt with it. They let themselves down. You have behaved with dignity. I don’t know if you should leave the note or not. Do whatever will make you feel better. I’m glad you posted on here though, lovely reminder for all of us that we only see the outside. My dogs saved me from crippling depression, they’ve brought me to fitness, found me some great friends. Well worth the odd bit of Twattery.

I'd leave the note. In fact I'd leave a far less polite one. I'm overweight, we will always be lovely, fat or not. They'll always be ignorant twats.

Glad the dog is getting you out. Well done on keeping your vow.

Dogs are great. They judge people all the time - but not on the basis of their weight. We could learn a lot.

I would leave the note. Most people are thoughtless rather than actively horrible. The laughter was probably embarrassment. The note may well make them consider their actions.

Leave a note ... silly judgemental ass holes .
Enjoy your beautiful dog and keep your promise that you will walk him/her every day .
He/she will love you for it and it will help you build your confidence.
I understand you were upset but would have been better to have just laughed at them walking off telling the dog what silly people they are .
When I meet idiots like that I always start talking to the dog about how horrid people are . 💐

I wouldn’t leave the note - don’t let them see they’ve upset you xx

You can lose the weight, she will always be a prick.

You’ve done brilliantly to get out and about with your dog. Please don’t let those tossers ruin anything. Losing a stone in a month is a fantastic achievement not to mention the walks with your dog. I think you should be incredibly proud of your strength. If you want to leave the note then do but I’d say it might be better to think ‘fuck then’ - I’d be ashamed of any child of mine grown up or not who could behave that way.

I agree with LadyMacbeth. I doubt whether they’d really delight in the knowledge that they’ve hurt your feelings. Hopefully it would make them think before making such a cruel comment in future.

Could your dog not leave them a little ‘message’?

Good for you for getting out in this cold weather.

Leave the note. Tell them you can do something about your weight and are in fact doing it. Then ask what they're doing about being ignorant twats.

I hope you left a note. It might make them think about what they did.

I’m very big too, and I often get comments. It’s like I’m not human, and that I don’t have feelings. People are wankers.

You're doing great on all fronts OP. Great start on the weight loss - tick: out and about with the dog on a sunny day (not at night) - tick: taking rude fuckers to task for their vile attitude - tick.

You've done all that today ... just think what tomorrow can bring.

Chin up, be proud of yourself and keep moving forwards. (And leave the note .....)

Fab post from Zebracat.

Do not let these idiotic knobheads spoil your day. I've had people shout 'fat bitch' at me from their cars and once when I came out of the corner shop, a group of teens commented that they would never shag a sad fat old cunt like me. I felt dreadful and cried when I got home. But then I thought Bollocks to them. Get out and about with your dog, happy in the knowledge that unlike the obnoxious twats who commented on your weight, you are kind, brave and have a lovely dog in your life.

OP your weight is one tiny part of who you are and about the least important

You sound brave and lovely and your little dog must adore you

That family sound cruel and nasty and they will find it much harder to lose that than you will to lose pounds

Leave the note but then don’t give them another thought.