He likes vulnerable women - should I be worried

[Freshstart2020]

Hi all

Am recently separated and kind of seeing a guy, 15year age gap, he txt's me constantly, have gone on a handful of dates. Due to my separation (ex refused to tell family so wasnt public even though separated a year) we have had to be discreet.

Txting last night, silly conversation, he is also saying I am stunning but he isnt into me for my looks, I asked him what it actually is about me that he likes. His response was 'probably how vulnerable you are as a person, I'm attracted to vulnerable women as they need something'.

I was stunned.

Should I run?

Bit weird, yes, it would put me right off him.

Run. Fast

100%

But this sentence is weird:
Due to my separation (ex refused to tell family so wasnt public even though separated a year) we have had to be discreet.

Why couldn’t you tell people?

Bizarre. I wouldn't continue this.

Yes.

Yes, definitely. That is very creepy.

It sounds like he might be right, though. Why does your ex have any power over whether you tell people you're separated or not?

Run even faster than fast! The fact he’s so comfortable admitting that too is creepy. He expects you to be so vulnerable that you’ll stay after that comment too. Yuck. RUN.

OMG run. He will start out nice and then begin to manipulate and control you

Huge red flag. Run for the hills.

Ewww that’s gross. Get rid.

Yes, run fast and far!

Unless you're looking for a controlling partner who always wants to make all of your decisions for you and expects you to pander to his every want/need/desire. If you don't ever want to be anything but weak and vulnerable, carry on with this weirdo.

He wants someone to be reliant on him, to feel powerful. Run for the hills.

coupled with the age gap yes red flag

ShirleyPhallus
I suppose as I had decided to leave the marraige I was being too considerate to my ex, he asked me to give him to xmas which I did

The hills are alive with the sound of music. Get your skates on and go check it out.

Oh please run for the hills OP! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Yes there is 15 year gap

We txt constantly but never see each other

Run now and run fast.

Fucking hell, block and run.

He’s grooming you

He talks about having a darker side and is definitely from what I gather from conversation and time together so far, into BDSM.

He also has been v upfront saying he doesnt want to rush into anything and wants me to be happy for me before we establish anything

dramaqueen

Why do you think that

He wants a vulnerable woman and is into BDSM? Seriously run and don’t look back.

If your friend told you that you’d surely tell her not to get involved.

Run fast and run far. Avoid like the plague.
He will trick you into believing you cant function without him and isolate you from friends and family.
He will gaslight you so you start to believe you re going insane.
Happened to a friend of mine (she s left him now).