AIBU to want to meet the head after DS's privacy was violated by another child?

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When my DS (Y5) was getting changed for PE in the changing rooms, another boy pulled my son's pants down at the front such that his privates could be seen. This happened twice. I consider the nature to which my DS's privacy to have been violated very serious indeed. The middle management at my DS's school spoke to the boy and phoned his mum and consider the incident resolved. I am not happy with the way it's been dealt with and would like to speak to the head. I have requested a meeting but I have been told that I can meet with the middle management and that the head will be kept informed. AIBU to want to see the head regarding such a serious incident?

How upset is your son about this? If he’s ok then I’d meet with the appointment person and see where that goes. However if this has really upset him I’d demand this was taken more seriously by everyone.
I can see the immaturity in boys that age and not thinking of the full consequences of their actions but this does not make it ok. Down playing the issue to boys will be boys doesn’t teach that kid that his actions are beyond inappropriate and can have lasting effects on a person. You also want to show your kid that you will fight his corner. If you don’t as his parent who will. My DH remembers writing a note to his mum about something that happens that he was really upset about and she did nothing! I don’t think he confided in her again.

In my school, incidents of this nature are treated very seriously indeed. The boy who did it would be excluded for a day as a minimum and would be kept off the yard at break and lunch time for a longer duration.

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It's always the way sadly.

I hope the OP has taken on board the useful feedback and advice on here and doesn't just cherry pick the advice pushing for exclusion and the police.

Given she has accepted the school have dealt with it and it's so early in term with no problems, she'd be better off treating the matter as resolved. If there are any subsequent issues she should speak to the leader who dealt with it and if needed seek a meeting with the head.

In my experience issues can often be much better resolved by having the most appropriate leader working the case rather than jumping staff to staff / jumping to the head (who more often than not delegates according to leadership structure anyway) - especially if the reason for jumping up/staff to staff centres on wanting a better audience, wanting the opinion of someone senior.

If there's not a reasonable outcome (and I mean reasonable, not 'my chosen sanction and wants') then the complaints procedure should be followed with specific reference to the school failing in their safeguarding duties to her child.

But we aren't at that point yet.

I would be Pressing charges for sexual assault

LOL, no you wouldn't. The Police decide if a crime has taken place and who should be arrested then possibly charged. You don't get to 'press charges' for anything.