Getting kids to school on time

[MarkyTinTin]

I’m a working dad but lucky enough to work from home 2 days a week so I can take my two dds to school those days. I always get them to school ASAP after it opens - my older d hates being late

Wife does not work but gets the dds to school late every day she has to take the. Not hugely late but always a couple of minutes. I can’t do anything about it and she is habitually late for everything. it’s having an impact on kids and our marriage as I think totally unacceptable. Have tried talking about it and playing the “be on time for the sake of our d” card but nothing changes - this has been 2 years now and at my wits end / stuck for solutions. We have no traffic issues and it’s just down to her leaving 10 mins earlier each day. Am I being unreasonable expecting our children to be delivered on time to school and can anyone advise on alternative strategies to change this behaviour (assuming unacceptable?).

I would give up my job to get them to school on time, but dw is not looking for work so we would lose everything. I can’t stand it any more - grateful for some ideas / alternative strategies please! Thank you 🙏

[Herpesfreesince03]

Echo

[Di11y]

we have an alexa that you can set alarms and reminders on. your 7yo is likely old enough to hear shoes on time and get the 5yo doing it, then leaving time and mag mum. if you set them 10 mins before needed might help.

[SoupDragon]

Echo... echo... echo...

Not exciting enough for the Mail.

[Thestrangestthing]

It always becomes interesting when the male op claims the wife does nothing for her kids, earns no money and spends her whole morning putting on make up, to the point her children don't have time to eat 😂. If that was actually the case, what self respecting father would allow it? Love how gullible some people are.

[Mummyeyes]

@Thestrangestthing what do you mean? I am new to Mumsnet and I see people saying "you have all fallen for it" on a few threads. What have we fallen for? How are we gullible?

[Thestrangestthing]

The troll post.

[Thestrangestthing]

This is made up

[Nanny0gg]

I have no idea, that's why I'm asking. At out school the gates are always open.

That's unusual since Dunblane, most are locked except at certain times.

[KindnessCrusader]

How late are we talking? 5/10 minutes? If so I wouldn’t worry. I am like this a lot of the time- it is due to underestimating how long things will take and being disorganised. In the grand scheme of things a little lateness isn’t that big a deal if the school aren’t raising concerns. My children are at a private school and there are loads of parents like me who are successful in other areas of their life but always five minutes late for school!

^that is SO inconsiderate! It's disruptive and unfair on the children and parents who bothered to show up on time.

[converseandjeans]

YANBU it is her responsibility for a few mornings a week. As a teacher I would say it's really disruptive having kids turn up late. If everyone rocked up 5-10 mins late it would be chaos.
In primary I think they use that time eg for reading, getting work handed in, going to assembly.

Why is she faffing about doing herself up instead of getting kids up in time for proper breakfast?

You'll get a hard time on here commenting on fact she is SAHM. However you work and manage to get kids there on time.

I would ask for help discreetly from school - explain to them. They may support you by calling her in for a chat. It might embarrass her into getting them there on time.

I always feel sorry for the kids who are constantly late - so embarrassing for them. Out of their control too.

[Thestrangestthing]

@Nanny0gg

I live not far from Dunblane. One of my very close friends lost her cousin. You can enter both primary schools and the high schools grounds at any time, day or night where we live 🤷‍♀️

[Thestrangestthing]

The have school gates which get locked, but it's bloody pointless as you can enter the school grounds from other points around the schools where there are no gates.

[JKScot4]

@strange
Grounds yes but not the building, every school I’ve been in in Scotland has a secure entrance door.

[gingerbiscuits]

Don't mean to be rude but if she doesn't work & your children are in school, what is she doing all day & why do you have to cook & do laundry in the evening?

As for the lateness, I agree with you- it IS a big deal! I'm amazed that the school haven't mentioned it - ours would!

[VenusTiger]

@CookieDoughKid Being a sahm is a job. my fave comment on this thread. TY.

[CookieDoughKid]

VenusTiger