to think asking “Are you alright for a drink”? Is not offering someone a drink?

[SproutMuncher]

Last night I went to the pub with 3 friends, one of whom brought her new(ish) partner, so there were 5 of us. I arrived last, and said I was going to the bar and asked if anyone would like a drink, to which they all said yes and I bought the round - fine.

When we finished our drinks, one of my friends did the same - fine.

When my friend’s boyfriend finished his drink, he asked his girlfriend if she wanted a another red wine, then as he got up to go, said to the rest of us “are you guys alright for a drink?”. We all said we were fine but it narked me a bit.

I know it isn’t a massive deal and actually this aside I really liked the guy, but just interested in people’s thoughts. AIBU to think this isn’t really offering to buy us drinks at all?

I would read that as him offering.

That sounds like offering to buy a drink to me

I would say he was offering he just worded it differently

I would absolutely have taken that to mean 'do you want a drink' and I'd have said yes if I wanted one.

Yep, just a different phrasing of the same thing, I've heard it used often.

That sounds like offering to buy you a drink to me.

Of course its offering, duh

I really don’t get the issue. I would have assumed he was asking if you wanted a drink. You all said you were fine. Wouldn’t read it as anything else

He was asking if you wanted one

I’d take it as an offer of a drink as well.

Obviously it meant do you want a drink

He was offering.

He was offering and got a cheap round!

That's how people offer to buy drinks round here...

I actually agree, technically he has fulfilled his offer of a round, but I always feel it's a way of offering a drink which is less inviting a 'yes' than the normal 'would you like a drink?'
Hard to put into words but I get what you mean OP.

ditto everyone else. He did offer!

Yes he was offering to buy a round

It's making the gesture, but encouraging the answer of, "yes I'm fine" - I interpret it as a bit of a, "you'll have had your tea?"

What???
He asked if you wanted a drink? Just not the exact phrase. What did you think he was asking?!
Then you say your fine don't want another, then bitch he didn't get you one!?

That's offering.

Did you still have drink in your glass when he asked? I would have taken it as an offer to buy you a drink of you wanted one bit that he wasn't sure you did. Still an offer to buy though...

I disagree- what he says requires you to respond along the lines of “no I’m not alright please get me one” - which makes you look greedy if your glass is not empty - as opposed to “ Can I get you another?” Or “it’s my round what are you having?”- to which you can say yes please or no thanks/ g and t please. I think it’s a sneaky way of getting out of buying a full round. He’s worth the watching.

Yep, offering

He offered, but in a way that encourages you to say no So I sort of get what you mean.

Hmm, I would say it depends on his tone of voice, could be either him genuinely offering or him offering in a way that makes it difficult to accept.