to think asking “Are you alright for a drink”? Is not offering someone a drink?

[SproutMuncher]

Last night I went to the pub with 3 friends, one of whom brought her new(ish) partner, so there were 5 of us. I arrived last, and said I was going to the bar and asked if anyone would like a drink, to which they all said yes and I bought the round - fine.

When we finished our drinks, one of my friends did the same - fine.

When my friend’s boyfriend finished his drink, he asked his girlfriend if she wanted a another red wine, then as he got up to go, said to the rest of us “are you guys alright for a drink?”. We all said we were fine but it narked me a bit.

I know it isn’t a massive deal and actually this aside I really liked the guy, but just interested in people’s thoughts. AIBU to think this isn’t really offering to buy us drinks at all?

Also think he was offering but worded to encourage a response of yes I'm fine thanks.

I would also consider it was him offering a drink, checking with the GF first if she wanted another red wine might just be him checking she didn't want to switch to G&T or whatever instead, not actively excluding you from the round at all

Why wouldn’t he do the same to everyone at the table though?!

The fact that he’s said-‘do you want another wine?’ to his girlfriend but ‘you’re alright for a drink’ to the others is quite telling, I think.

It is offering a drink at a time when you perhaps have a relatively full glass. You could just reply by saying what you would like.

But they didn’t.

Life would be alot bloody easier if people just spoke their mind instead of fannying around then dissecting it afterwards. You wanted and needed another drink. He asked if you were alright for a drink. So just say ill have same again please. Not difficult is it.

I would assume that was him offering

It is a totally normal way of asking if you are alright for a drink and means do you want a drink for slow witted people.

'He's a cheap cunt'

I agree with you OP. I’ve heard this before. Done the polite thing but not really offering in my opinion! Is he hard up though and didn’t wanna spend £20/30 on a round? X

Do you really like him?

Do you really like him?

Why do some posters go on about this?
You are allowed to like, even love, people and still think they might be a bit tight!

You guys alright for a drink is a way of saying - want a top up or are you OK with what you've got? If you replied that you were fine then you have said you don't want another to his offer.

It's just a mates way off offering to get the round. He's being really friendly that's all.

You guys alright for a drink is a way of saying - want a top up or are you OK with what you've got? If you replied that you were fine then you have said you don't want another to his offer.

It's just a mates way off offering to get the round. He's being really friendly that's all.

So you acknowledge that it's a way of making you have to think or even give reasons why IF you want another drink, then? Even if they owe you one by virtue of your having bought for them in previous rounds?

Different people drink at different speeds, so they might currently have half a drink left but gladly welcome another in reserve. At the very least, that person would feel socially bound to 'justify' wanting another when they still have plenty left.

"Same again?" or "What are you having?" simply invites the answer of "XXX, please" without any felt need to commentate on and justify your current drink situation.

*Different people drink at different speeds, so they might currently have half a drink left but gladly welcome another in reserve. At the very least, that person would feel socially bound to 'justify' wanting another when they still have plenty left.

I have not put that much thought into a drink in my life. The correct response to “Are you alright for a drink?” is surely just “Id love another glass of wine, thanks”?

To me it sounds like “you’ve had your tea then”... it’s not am entirely sincere offer and sure you could say “ooh I’d love one” but I agree he’s angling not to buy a round.

I’m not generally considered slow-witted either I just have a slightly different construction of those words

He asked the question. If you wanted another drink, you should have said 'Yes, please. I'll have a xyz'. Simple question. Simple answer.
Lots of people don't do rounds, as they don't feel pressurised to drink constantly when socialising (alcoholic/non-alcoholic drinks). Doesn't mean that they're tight. Why would anyone want to spend x on a round of 5 drinks, when they know that they're likely to only want 1/2 drinks for the entire time that they're present? Buy your own drinks, esp. if you want to drink like a fish. Not everyone wants to see their hard earned money being necked down others throats like it's going out of fashion. That clearly does not make financial sense. Clearly, I am not a conformist. Spend your own money however you wish. You have no right to his money. Maybe he is tight? Maybe not? Maybe he's not a drinker?

Of course that’s offering you lunatic.

that is a definite offer for a drink where I come from