to think asking “Are you alright for a drink”? Is not offering someone a drink?

[SproutMuncher]

Last night I went to the pub with 3 friends, one of whom brought her new(ish) partner, so there were 5 of us. I arrived last, and said I was going to the bar and asked if anyone would like a drink, to which they all said yes and I bought the round - fine.

When we finished our drinks, one of my friends did the same - fine.

When my friend’s boyfriend finished his drink, he asked his girlfriend if she wanted a another red wine, then as he got up to go, said to the rest of us “are you guys alright for a drink?”. We all said we were fine but it narked me a bit.

I know it isn’t a massive deal and actually this aside I really liked the guy, but just interested in people’s thoughts. AIBU to think this isn’t really offering to buy us drinks at all?

It's quite awkward to say, "no I'm not actually, and would like an xyz", than to answer in the affirmative (as you would to "would you like a drink?")

If I looked around the table and saw quite full glasses I would probably ask in that way. It’s saying I need a drink and happy to buy you one but it looks like you don’t need one at the moment. He is new to the group and it can be intimidating. You often can’t win in this situation as if he bought a round before everyone else was ready he would probably get slated for pressuring everyone to drink.

I agree with@Biarritz

Definitely offering.

That's an offer.

Not offering at all!

It’s a half arsed offer tbh because he could probably see you all had drinks left. But it’s still an offer and anyone could have said “yes please I’ll have another”.

Ok fair enough looks like I am unreasonable!

I think it was just the way he checked with his girlfriend about what to get her while sitting down, but said it as he was up to go to us, it felt like a way of phrasing which was hoping we would say no.

But I accept the verdict of the MN jury that IABU!

I think he was offering

I interpret it as a bit of a, "you'll have had your tea?"

This, exactly. It’s worded in a way that makes it hard to say “Actually, no. I’ll have a G&T, please” (or whatever).

What it means is:

I'm going to the bar because we've finished ours and we need another: I'm offering, but really I've already noticed that you are only half way through yours. And you don't need another one yet.

Yep Are you alright for a drink is him offering to buy you a drink, what else do you think it mean?

Offering in a 'please say no' kind of a way but instead of being narked I would have just said 'actually I would like a large gin, thank you'

I get what you mean OP. If I say 'are you alright for a drink' it's usually when I'm on the way to the bar, happy to get one for someone if needed but not really expecting to eg I've just walked in and can see everyone has a full pint. If I was in a round I would definitely say 'what are you having'. To say 'you alright for one' when he knows it's his round implies he either doesn't think you need one or is trying to get out of the round. Probably a bit tight.

He was offering. He may have been hoping you’d say “yeah, my glass is overflowing” but he was still offering.

To those who mentioned if our drinks were full, they were nearly empty but had a few sips left if that makes sense.

@Sprout ... there’s a few of us agree with you!

He's hoping you'll say no, but has a get out clause if pulled up on it.
Definitely not offering.

"Are you alright for a drink?" Is the exact same thing as "do you need/want a drink?"

He offered

You said no

YABU

He was offering to buy you a drink so YABU to be annoyed.

I disagree- what he says requires you to respond along the lines of “no I’m not alright please get me one” - which makes you look greedy if your glass is not empty - as opposed to “ Can I get you another?” Or “it’s my round what are you having?”- to which you can say yes please or no thanks/ g and t please. I think it’s a sneaky way of getting out of buying a full round. He’s worth the watching.

I agree with this. It's a tentative offer at the very best and invites everyone to say that they're OK.

First out of the taxi; And last into the pub I'd watch him, too.

He'd have bought the drinks, but was hoping not to.
Tightarse, and shifty with it.

What would he have done if one of you had asked for one? Would he have refused? To be fair you all said you were OK so is he supposed to buy them in Anyway and have them sitting there not getting drunk?

To those who mentioned if our drinks were full, they were nearly empty but had a few sips left if that makes sense

Now I'm really confused as to why you wouldn't just say you wanted another

No!

Are you alright means do you have I. E. Do not want