CF neighbours

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My neighbours are really starting to piss me off. They're an elderly couple and initially were lovely when we first moved in.

The past week or so though they have been awful. A few incidents have occurred now.

1st - was watching TV in my bedroom. My TV is on a chest of drawers in front of the wall. Neighbour bangs on wall and says "every bloody night that telly". Telly wasn't even on loud at all and I had subtitles on as it was so quiet. I was like but then let it go.

2nd - DS not well. Was crying for a couple of hours but wouldn't settle no matter what I did. Could hear my neighbour shouting about how he wouldn't shut up and they were getting really irate. Don't know what I was supposed to do in that situation?

3rd - was last night. Banging really loudly on the wall at half 11, so much so that it woke my baby up. I was absolutely fuming!

What do I do about this? Do I confront them or will this just give them more reason to kick off/complain about us? I'm really struggling to bite my tongue and feel so anxious in my own house: I'm constantly worried about whether or not my tv is loud, whether DS is being loud etc.

WWYD? AIBU?

Anyone?

Talk to them. Tell them that babies cry etc. Also see about soundproofing.
I had neighbors that used to bang on the wall when I watched tv late in my kitchen (which backed onto their kitchen). It made me feel uncomfortable for sure and truth is I couldn't wait to move and will get proper soundproofing if I ever have a party wall again.

@Pipandmum thanks. I am so worried though that if I talk to them they will complain to my letting agent. We really love this house and we wouldn't want to jeopardise anything.

I would understand if we were noisy but we actually aren't. We are out of the house most of the day all week for work so I think they are being massively unreasonable here

@DracarysThis if I had the balls I would have turned it up extra loud to piss them off!!

I'd move every tv etc away from any adjoining wall then give it a week to see if they complain about anything else.

What were they banging about the third time?

Explain to them that if they bang on the wall it will wake the baby, he'll start crying and things will get worse.

@Sizeofalentil No idea

Put you tv in at normal sound level then pop around to check if it’s reasonable at their end.

If it is - crack on and they can complain all they like it won’t make any difference.

If it’s noisy at their end then look at getting wireless headphones to connect to the tv/ move it away from that wall / get sound proofing.

I've been in this situation many times. Have a talk with them. Discuss possibility of them moving their room around and you, yours. Offer to help. Offer to have soundproofing fitted and go 50/50. Or bite the bullet and pay for it yourselves. Or escalate it to the council for them making noise and banging.

Honestly though my TV isn't loud at all. It's an old thing and the sound has always been crap. They were being very U and it pissed me off

We can't afford sound proofing and I think that's just ridiculous for the sake of having a television in and DS crying every now and then. On the whole he's an amazing baby and rarely fusses anyway

Just bang back

Sorry but tell ya on adjoining walls in bedrooms would totally piss me off too. I don’t cares how low you have it on, if they can hear it then it’s disturbing their sleep.

Of course you can’t help a baby crying but you can help the telly, so maybe as a show of goodwill go round tell them that you’re sorry they’re obviously getting disturbed by noise but it’s a semidetached house and you can’t help the noise of children crying however you’ve moved the telly to try to accommodate them a bit and you’d appreciate it if they’d refrain from banging on the walls when the babies crying as it only causes the baby further distress.

I moved from a detached to a semi, now back in a detached. No way would I live in a semi ever again.

I would bang back for sure. They are being v unreasonable, especially with your son.

You definitely need to go round and talk to them to try and resolve things. Your walls must be in such terrible shape if you can hear a non wall mounted small tv through it. I can clearly hear neighbours' tv but it's a big tv and wall mounted.

What can you hear from them?

Is it a semi detached house or could there be noise coming from another neighbour.

Tv noise can really travel though. My neighbours have a tv in their room and I can often hear every word😊.

I think you do need to have a chat with them. Can you hear them?

I don't hear anything from them other than the banging that they do on purpose. There is nowhere else in my bedroom that my TV can go

YANBU.

But it might also be useful to consider that how noisy it sounds in their house doesn't just depend on the volume of the TV, it depends on how many soft furnishings you (and they) have, what the wall is made out of, whether you have carpet, boards or laminate etc. I suppose that what I am saying is that you could potentially do other things to the house to minimise the noise carrying.

This reminds me of my neighbours I had years ago. He complained about my tv, put a note throw the door and said he could every word of Brookside😂😂.
I waited for him to come in from work and chapped the door. I told him I was the same every time he battered fuck out his wife and wrecked the house I could hear it.
He never complained again.

If you can’t move your tv, then don’t have it on in the bedroom. It’s disturbing your neighbours.

@Nicknacky Seriously?

@SpicyRibs 🙈