To be upset about being made to get up this morning by oh?

[RuggyPeg]

I've lost all perspective about whether I'm being unreasonable or not. About many things in my relationship but this incident just happened.

We stayed overnight in a hotel. We both had a terrible night's sleep and got about 3 hours. Woke up early in the morning. He wanted to bounce out of bed and get going. I wanted another couple of hours of sleep. I wanted him to rest too. We had a 4 hour car drive ahead of us and didn't want him to be tired for it. He's a madman behind the wheel at the best of times and I spend most journeys terrified (huge argument if I dare say anything), so I didn't want him exhausted for it. He went mad, saying he wanted to get up and get going, I could sleep in the car (I can't, ever) and he was a nice guy & why did I always have to make him feel bad. He went on & on and made it unbearable, so as per usual, to keep the peace, I did what he wanted. I'm at a loss in general but do you think it was something I did that caused this argument?

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That sounds exhausting. Does he always want to get his own way?

Don't know why there's a vote button on this......I didn't particularly want one but it seems to have appeared anyway.

Anyone who tells you they are a nice guy while being a dick probably isn't.

I don't think you caused the argument
Can you drive if you don't like his driving?

Of course you didn't cause it. He's an abusive arsehole who you should leave. Life is short. Dont waste yours.

He sounds like a prick.

Sounds like you walk on eggshells around him. And he twists things “I’m a nice guy” when you never said he wasn’t, shouting you down to silence you. Controlling, and bagging as if your needs and thoughts are irrelevant.

He sounds insufferable.

He doesn't sound like such a nice guy. Sounds like he uses his anger and your conflict avoidance to get whatever he wants.

*behaving

Erm, does he have any redeeming qualities?

He sounds like a bit of a controlling cuntweasel

He sounds a twat.

Not based on waking you up, but in his behaviour. Always right? Domineering nob head.

Does he always act like a teenager ie throwing a tantrum if he doesn't get his own way? He sounds a,bit controlling if this is a regular thing.

Yes, he always wants his own way, yes, I walk on eggshells, no he insists on driving.

What are the positives about this relationship? He doesn’t sound very nice.

He sounds awful.

Leave him then! Is this what you want for the rest of your life? I'd guess not.

Redeeming features? I used to think so for sure. Been together 15 years, split up for 2 years cos he had an affair, reconnected 6 months ago to try again. I used to love the bones of him. He's smart, funny, kind, tall dark n handsome, he's what many people would see as a catch. I used to think so but increasingly, I'm questioning lots of things.

He shouldn't be driving at all if he is such a shitty driver. Why aren't you driving? Or better yet, why isn't he driving himself off a cliff.

Seriously, get rid of this douche canoe. Who needs such a perpetual source of BS in their lives?

So what if he causes an argument? You back down to keep the peace, why? You are letting him have his own way and he knows it. Next time stand up for yourself.

He's a knob and he cheated on you
Dump him

You love him? Or he's ground you down so much that you feel like this is the best you can get and the best you deserve? A nasty, intimidating bully who purposely woke you up and doesn't care that he scares you with his driving. I can't see much to love there.

Plus hes a filthy cheat. You deserve so much better than this.

Do yourself a favour and reinstate the split. He sounds like a complete Bell end - and you could do better than a lying, cheating, controlling twunt

Bad, aggressive drivers are never, ever good people.

Leave him, he was your ex for a reason!