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Original poster

DH called me an old soak in the middle of the night

224 replies

Somethingelseentirely · 01/01/2020 07:34

That’s it, really - we’d both been at a party, I sometimes talk in my sleep, so in my head was explaining to ds how to play a game, dh woke up and called me an old soak. I am 48 and probably quite sensitive about my age. We have a visitor so couldn’t sleep anywhere else, cried for a while and then got up and I walked two miles to get my car. Currently sat in a car park feeling sorry for myself. Not feeling the happiest of New Years at all!

OP posts:
Chinnychinnychinnychib · 01/01/2020 08:14

Sometimes things get confusing in the middle of the night and in the cold light of day you can’t really remember why they mattered. Sounds like that’s what happened here. Never mind.
Sure you’re ok to drive? Police will be in the lookout this morning.

user1483387154 · 01/01/2020 08:15

huge huge over reaction

purplelila2 · 01/01/2020 08:16

Omg what an over reaction!
YABVU!!!!!!

Original poster
Somethingelseentirely · 01/01/2020 08:20

Thank you all for talking me round, really appreciate the kindness and can see my overreaction. I called a taxi from the carpark and am now on the sofa with a blanket feeling a bit silly but much less upset.

OP posts:
diddl · 01/01/2020 08:21

What an overreaction!

Sensitive about being only 48?

Why?

joffreyscoffees · 01/01/2020 08:21

Not sure which post has been more ridiculous on MN this morning.. this one or the one where the OP walked out of a restaurant without paying a £60 bill because she had no cash on her.

homeishere · 01/01/2020 08:21

YABVU to drive a few hours being so drunk that you’re mumbling in your sleep and think that walking two miles in the middle of the night is a good idea.

Not only an old soak but an irresponsible one too.

Elderflower14 · 01/01/2020 08:22

If you drunk as much as you said you did I hope you didn't drive home??? 🙄 🙄 🙄 🙄

Chinnychinnychinnychib · 01/01/2020 08:22

You’re not silly.
And you’ve started the new year with some exercise!!

Fr0g · 01/01/2020 08:22

if you were rambling in your sleep, is it possible thay OH was too?

i'd be hacked off if I was woken/kept awake by someone rambling about how to play a board game.

AllideasAndNoAction · 01/01/2020 08:22

jollyroger how on earth is old soak gendered?

And no, it doesn’t mean the OP is literally old, any more than if she’s been called an old meanie or and old soul or a silly old sausage.

goldenorbspider · 01/01/2020 08:22

I think there's probably abit more to this

mamansnet · 01/01/2020 08:23

I call my mother an old soak. She laughs it off and says us young 'uns can't handle our drink compared to her generation. None of it is intended nastily, it's just good old family banter.

Hope your morning picks up, op!

daisypond · 01/01/2020 08:23

All sorted now. Glad you’re feeling a bit better.

thejollyroger · 01/01/2020 08:23

AllideasAndNoAction

I believe it’s used far more widely against women, which is what I mean by gendered. And it’s not comparable to being called a silly old sausage.

Claphands · 01/01/2020 08:25

Sounds like booze blues to me, walking 2 miles to get the car because you’ve woken up seems quite a reaction and the sort of drunken thing people do when all reason has gone out the window. If it’s not too late don’t sit in the car or FGS drive it!

speakout · 01/01/2020 08:26

I have never considered it a gendered term at all.

What makes you think it is a genderd term thejollyroger .

SimonJT · 01/01/2020 08:26

Drunk or not, you need to have a serious think about reasonable reactions to reasonable things.

I say this as someone who started being punished for talking in my sleep, which then eventually led to more and more controlling behaviour.

Don’t choose to become that person.

Leflic · 01/01/2020 08:27

Old soak is more aimed at men surely? When it was common usage women were hardly allowed in pubs.

Claphands · 01/01/2020 08:27

Sorry just refreshed and have seen your update. Honestly it’s the blues, you’ll be ok when it’s out your system.

thejollyroger · 01/01/2020 08:27

Speakout

I just do. It’s like “old lag” isn’t technically a term that means man, but it’s almost always used to describe men. This term is almost always used against women, where I’ve come across it.

And it definitely isn’t used against young women.

MrsGrindah · 01/01/2020 08:27

Old soak is used to describe both genders . I really hope that 2020 is the year people stop looking for offence

thejollyroger · 01/01/2020 08:28

Well, maybe. I think otherwise in the contexts in which I have encountered the term.

thejollyroger · 01/01/2020 08:29

But either way, that’s an aside. It’s definitely insulting, and I wouldn’t appreciate my partner saying it to me at all.