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To find new year's eve abit depressing

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 15:48

I am probably alone in this. I don't blame anyone for having an amazing night out or for having a party at new year's. I don't mind that. It's great if you can! It's just new year's right from being a kid has seemed boring and depressing for me lol. My parents did drink and have a few people over as a child. It was fun playing with my cousin's. But I do remember trying to hide at midnight so Drunk adults didn't kiss me haha. I sometimes remember feeling super tired and wanting to go to sleep. As an adult I've not done the parties since 19/20. Due to work and then having my babies.

Also I don't know why but it gives me this feeling of the end in a negative way. The whole goodbye 2019. New starts. Yes people have bad years. But there's plenty of good things I don't want to shut the door on this year. If that makes sense. Then new year's Day just feels quiet and boring. Plus my partner's back at work on the 2nd of January. So it feels like it's also the end of our family time. It also is like a goodbye to christmas. Christmas went so fast this year. It was lovely and we've been in a state of late nights, junk food and lots of Tele. I have loved it. I don't want it to end lol.

I'm not a misery. I'm not bothered that people have fun. I just can't get into new year's and never have been able to x

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formerbabe · 30/12/2019 15:51

I can't be arsed with enforced jolity. I put my dc to bed as normal..they couldn't stay up that late. Then I have a drink with dh and go to bed just after midnight.

KaptenKrusty · 30/12/2019 15:52

I skip it - it’s made up and meaningless

I’d rather just go out any other night

MrsWhites · 30/12/2019 15:54

I could have wrote your post OP. I find it really brings on my anxiety, the whole ‘what will the new year bring’ thing.

I also find it a bit final and negative being forced into ‘a new start for the new year’! Yesterday I felt fine but today I feel a bit panicky and anxious and I’m sure it’s this that’s bringing it on!

SecretWitch · 30/12/2019 15:55

I bought some nice cheese and chocolate. I plan to have a long soaking bath around 5pm and then get in bed with a book.

relax2 · 30/12/2019 15:55

I hate it , brings all sorts of awful thoughts and anxiety about the year ahead!

MrsWhites · 30/12/2019 15:58

It’s helpful to know that others feel the same though so thank you for posting OP!

quitecontrary123 · 30/12/2019 16:03

I hate it and the sinking feeling begins as soon as Christmas Day is over.

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 16:05

It's gloomy isn't it. I feel like it's about leaving things behind and a chapter closing. I hate how emotional people get with it all. Kissing you and being all slurry and talking nonsense. We had a lovely holiday this year. We also got our extension done. Our daughter started school. I've met new people. Our little boy turned two this week. I am right in the middle of getting to enjoy my family being back together. Then aload of fireworks are going to go off tomorrow night and remind me the end is coming. Back to work. Back to school a few days after. Back to routine. I do plan on cooking some new recipes this year and start cooking more from scratch. I've found some meals on Asda recipes. I'm doing that though after eating aload of chocolate and mince pies for two weeks and crashing from sugar everyday lol!

I believe you can make plans to change things anyday when you are ready. I find the whole diet starts, exercise begins abit same old from people. It's surely just recovering from stuffing ourselves over Christmas rather than a new chapter. Lol

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 16:07

@SecretWitch that sounds perfect. X

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ParkheadParadise · 30/12/2019 16:12

I hate Hogmanay esp when Auld Lang Syne starts. I find it a really sad time since my dd died.
I always go to the bathroom at 5 to 12 and stay there till 10 past😆😆

Holymolymackerel · 30/12/2019 16:12

I hate it too, if I haven't managed to fall asleep due to the anxiety by midnight I hold hands with my dh as we cross over.

I don't know why, it just makes me feel worried. 2019 hasn't been a particularly easy year but I'm still anxious.

My dh who is normally level headed and rational also hates it.

kinsss · 30/12/2019 16:15

NYE to me is an overrated forced jollity load of hype. Best ignored.

However it is celebrated all over the world unlike Christmas, which is another load of expense hype that few REALLY enjoy because of preps, visitors and tiredness.

Anyway each to their own and best wishes.

Harriedharriet · 30/12/2019 16:21

How DARE you all?????

It is MY birthday.

How can that be a GLOOMY day????

I usually celebrate with chocolate in front of TV, after a book in the bath!{smile} Grin Wink.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 30/12/2019 16:22

Not BU at all. Sometimes it's nice to leave a crappy year behind but sometimes what is ahead is more of the same.

meredithgrey1 · 30/12/2019 16:23

I don't like it either, I think often people make out like it needs to be the best night ever and then I'm always underwhelmed. Especially as I'm not a big drinker.

DH and I have bought lots of nice food and will have a quiet night in and hope that DD (6 months) isn't too disturbed by fireworks!

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 16:23

Definitely each to their own. I don't mind other people having fun. it's just how I feel about it personally. I don't want drunks slobbering on me and I just don't like saying goodbye to the last twelve months. People die and things change and it makes it feel like you are leaving them behind. Your children are getting older. Lots of things just feel highlighted by it for me. I find it a massive crash after all the family time. Plus it's not about the kids new year's. It's about the drink really. I don't know if that adds to it. It's not a family occasion in that respect.

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Sparklesocks · 30/12/2019 16:25

It’s definitely over hyped which can lead to disappointment if you’re not doing anything super special or outrageously fun, but I do enjoy sharing a bottle of red with DP and watching the fireworks on TV.

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 16:25

@Harriedharriet haha happy birthday!! Hope you have a fabulous day. It's definitely a good day for anything else. Wink

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 16:26

@Sparklesocks that's what we did last year. I made it to 11.15 though and then the baby woke up lol so I went to sleep with him lol x

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QueenOfIce · 30/12/2019 16:26

Told my dad today 'well, we're a day closer to death' it's not funny but for some reason we laughed our heads off. New Year is rubbish..just another day on the calendar. I find it weird that strangers who would never usually speak to you suddenly feel the need to wish everyone a happy new year.

Harriedharriet · 30/12/2019 16:29

Thank you London girl. Last time I went out for NYE was 1999.
I swore then that I would never do it again and have not!

I like to have a quiet time by choice!

dementedma · 30/12/2019 16:29

I have yet to find anyone other than teens/young adults who actually enjoy it. Here in Central Scotland it has died out a lot. There is the big televised street party and fireworks but I remember when you wouldnt dream of being in bed before the bells, a houses were open, first footers (feet) came with coal and black bun, and it went on for about 3 days!! It is very much a non event for most people now.

lexiepuppy · 30/12/2019 16:29

I hate Christmas and New Year! Bah humbug!

Just reading this is setting off panic and anxiety in me!

I don’t think I can even be bothered to go out, I will just hide until it’s all over!!😢

Namethecat · 30/12/2019 16:31

We treat it more or less as any other night, in bed by 10.30 pm .

RaisinsRuinEverything · 30/12/2019 16:32

I used to feel like you, now it’s just like any other night, in bed by 10 —get woken up by fireworks at 12–