To find new year's eve abit depressing

[londongirl86]

I am probably alone in this. I don't blame anyone for having an amazing night out or for having a party at new year's. I don't mind that. It's great if you can! It's just new year's right from being a kid has seemed boring and depressing for me lol. My parents did drink and have a few people over as a child. It was fun playing with my cousin's. But I do remember trying to hide at midnight so Drunk adults didn't kiss me haha. I sometimes remember feeling super tired and wanting to go to sleep. As an adult I've not done the parties since 19/20. Due to work and then having my babies.

Also I don't know why but it gives me this feeling of the end in a negative way. The whole goodbye 2019. New starts. Yes people have bad years. But there's plenty of good things I don't want to shut the door on this year. If that makes sense. Then new year's Day just feels quiet and boring. Plus my partner's back at work on the 2nd of January. So it feels like it's also the end of our family time. It also is like a goodbye to christmas. Christmas went so fast this year. It was lovely and we've been in a state of late nights, junk food and lots of Tele. I have loved it. I don't want it to end lol.

I'm not a misery. I'm not bothered that people have fun. I just can't get into new year's and never have been able to x

Feel overwhelmed just thinking about it.
I don't drink (recovering alcoholic) and NYE reminds me of all the drunken antics which paved the path to my destruction as NYE was BIG for me at one time in my life.
I also feel I have to fake a jolly time sitting in front of the TV watching all the new year celebrations with my dp when I just want to curl up away.

I'm the same I hate New Year's Eve and New Year's Day I much prefer Christmas Eve Christmas Day and Boxing Day.

I'm not one for parties and it always seemed false to me random people shaking hands hugging and kissing 😬 plus now I have two young children I hardly ever stay up these days past 10pm 🤣 so don't stay up to ring in the New Year

I hate it too so will just act is if it’s not happening

Will order takeaway and watch tv

Yanbu.
The actual night is always a non event for us as we have no family or friends to celebrate with. So it's just me and DH and the tv.
It's a reminder than another year of my life is over.
It's fear of a whole new year stretching ahead and what it may bring.
It brings sad memories of the people who didn't make it and I think about the people who might not be with us this time next year (morbid I know.)
And yes it marks the end of Christmas and rare time with my DH off work and feeling relaxed. Back to struggling on my own with no respite.

It all just feels sad and melancholy to me and not celebratory at all.

Will probably be in bed asleep by midnight. Not a big fan of new years eve and glad I'm at an age where I don't feel obliged to be out celebrating.

@londongirl86 love the sound of your plans. I hope you have a really lovely evening!

See I hate Xmas, I find it stifling and the kids are soooo over excited and bubbling over all the time into tears.

The bit after Xmas is my favourite, all the time excitement calms down and we have been enjoying the beautiful weather in the country without any talk about presents/Santa/food/planning!

My husband and I are going to a country pub with board games, we may or may not be in bed before midnight, see how it goes. Well get a proper chance to chat after days of hosting and working (I'm nhs so have to work over Xmas). We'll go on a long walk in the morning before heading to pick the kids up and having a low key family meal. I'm excited.

It's a bit of a strange night for me, in my younger days I'd be out. Nowadays it's a fairly sedate night. We plan on cooking a few nibbles, playing a board game and having a glass or 3 of wine. I still enjoy the anticipation of what the new year may bring. But I'm ever conscious of my ageing parents, the no chance of promotion, my children growing up, it's a wierd night

As a child I loved it. We’d first foot family having parties where people all sang, tea was more prominent than booze and us kids would sleep under coats and we’d do so from Hogmanay until 2nd/3rd - as soon as alcohol becomes an imperative for the majority it’s an evening defending being sober which usually involve some drunken arse telling me how boring I am for not having a drink - then the whole auld Lang syne standing in someone’s living room holding hands while people slur and drool belting out the chorus and mumbling the rest - it’s just awful. I especially hate the enforced kissing of people I really love and care about. It’s just another day

I hate it. I’ve always found it so flat and depressing, so much so that I got married on NYE so then it would be my wedding anniversary instead. Still hate it. Getting a table for two in a restaurant that isn’t embarking on a NYE James Bond theme night is impossible. We celebrate a month later.

Grump!

I've given up on new yesr since my son died in 2013. We have been lucky to have many wonderful experiences since: new GC, new home etc over the last few years, but also terrible things. Since my son's death, our family has had at least a couple of genuine crises every year, Inc other bereavements and each new year fills me with dread. I almost strangled the fucker who said "things can only get better". Kiss of death, that phrase IME.
I'm also going to an appointment later today (I'm in Oz) where I expect to be told my tests show I've an autoimmune disorder. I was meant to be finally going back to college to retrain for a new career in 2020. It's looking doubtful now as a result. My symptoms are bloody awful.
My last attempt at a new start was turning 40, and then as plans went forward, my son died eight weeks later.
So I'm right off tempting fate with "new starts".
I'll be home with my DH, cats and dogs, very thankful for what I still have, and those I love in my very diminished circle - but thinking of my loved ones who didn't make it and I guess wondering again what it's really all about.
Will treat myself to a rare tablet at bedtime so I can sleep through. Although no fireworks in my area due to bushfire risk.
I'll be thinking of everyone impacted by the fires too. It's a terrible time for some in this country.

I actually really like it! It’s something to look forward to after Christmas and a good excuse to get together with friends.

You don’t have to link arms and sing Auld Lang Syne! We just have friends round and have a laugh and a few drinks like we would on any other get together.

Yes, eventually we have to go back to work but it’ll soon be the weekend again! The days will, slowly but surely, start to pull out and we have spring to look forward to!

Thanks @kinsss love Marian Keyes

@keepingbees so true. Your brain works like mine. It does feel like a reminder another years been taken of your life. It does feel like leaving the dead behind (like you didn't make it this far) I only fear it will get worse the older we get too.

@2beautifulbabs agree. Us mummy's need our beds lol

@spied well done for recovering! That's amazing. This is the thing. It's all about the drink. It's not a family occasion as such is it? Just drink. You can see why it doesn't appeal to many people. People don't drink due too addiction, religion, having kids, not enjoying alcohol. Without the alcohol new year's isn't really a party. Don't feel ashamed of what you've done in the past. Happens to plenty of people. Doesn't make you a bad person. Life isn't always easy. What counts and s what you are doing right now

And I'm also quite pleased we're all getting older, I've felt more comfortable in my own skin as I've got older and I've enjoyed my kids more as we move away from toddlerhood.

We went on a family bike ride today where we all cycled and talked to each other! That was amazing and so far from the days where I was dealing with tantrums because their spoon was the wrong colour!

Hate it. Always have. The enforced joljty has always pissed me off. Did as a kid being dragged around relatives and made to sing Auld Lang Syne. Did as a late teen serving pissed up arseholes in a pub. And has done ever since as an adult, when I get woken up at 12.05 by Happy New Year messages from people who I barely speak to

@Mummaofmytribe yep I get you. Loosing your son isn't something that will get easier in time. The pain might ease some days but I can imagine it just instantly changes you. That's life in the wrong order and a parent should never witness their child leave before them. I'd never get over it and would struggle so much. I've seen all the news about the bush fires. How scary! Keep safe. You sound incredibly brave and I'm glad you have had some blessing since loosing your son. Take care xx

Not being unreasonable. I do like to stay up and watch the fireworks. I think I'd feel a bit miserable if I just went to bed and ignored it all. I'm staying in and having a few drinks.

@mabbers aww that sounds nice. Mine are 2 and 4. I love them being young. I don't like the idea of no toddlers at home. But I must admit I sometimes think when are 5 and 8 things will get easier. When they can communicate better. When they catch less bugs and can go to sleep at night in their beds without me laying upstairs for an hour. I bet everything gets easier when you can do things knowing they have safety awareness too. We went on holiday this year. loved it!!! But it was hard to enjoy the beach with a toddler running towards the sea lol

@kinsss thank you for sharing !

I hate it. I feels like the end of Christmas, which is it is, but it's sad.
My oh goes back to work Thursday, the kids go back Monday. I just wish we could all stay home together in our little bubble for a while longer.

Yes I hate it. It just reminds me that it's another 6 months until I get a holiday or time off work. I also hate the thought of starting the year all over again. This year was shit, next year doesn't look like its getting any better, and there is nothing I can do about it. I'm sitting here sobbing in the bath typing this.

I've long, long hated it for all the reasons above but I get my inner Wiccan on (yes, I know Samhain is our traditional nye), and draw a long, hot bath, infuse it with dried white sage and fresh shamrock, light an incense stick, put on some relaxing music and climb into it with a glass of something strong.
I don't get out until I've processed what has come to pass this year, what im grateful for and what I'm ready to take on going forward.

Then I'll probably watch some Hootenanny.

I normally would agree with you but 14 years ago we got a wonderful addition to our family. Our son was born New Year's Eve and we have love that day immensely ever since. We just do what he wants it's all about him.

@SnorkMaiden81 can I ask is dried white sage in the bath cleansing like it is when smudging?