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To find new year's eve abit depressing

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 15:48

I am probably alone in this. I don't blame anyone for having an amazing night out or for having a party at new year's. I don't mind that. It's great if you can! It's just new year's right from being a kid has seemed boring and depressing for me lol. My parents did drink and have a few people over as a child. It was fun playing with my cousin's. But I do remember trying to hide at midnight so Drunk adults didn't kiss me haha. I sometimes remember feeling super tired and wanting to go to sleep. As an adult I've not done the parties since 19/20. Due to work and then having my babies.

Also I don't know why but it gives me this feeling of the end in a negative way. The whole goodbye 2019. New starts. Yes people have bad years. But there's plenty of good things I don't want to shut the door on this year. If that makes sense. Then new year's Day just feels quiet and boring. Plus my partner's back at work on the 2nd of January. So it feels like it's also the end of our family time. It also is like a goodbye to christmas. Christmas went so fast this year. It was lovely and we've been in a state of late nights, junk food and lots of Tele. I have loved it. I don't want it to end lol.

I'm not a misery. I'm not bothered that people have fun. I just can't get into new year's and never have been able to x

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Cryalot2 · 30/12/2019 23:14

I used to in my youth enjoy, but not now.
I assumed most people loved it and partied .

BriefDisaster · 30/12/2019 23:17

I totally agree it's a horrible time of year. I have bad memories of hogmany growing up - being forced to stay up until midnight and beyond, being around loads of drunk people, getting stuck with my cousins who would just ignore me and never let me join in then being called a weirdo by the adults for not joining in with the other kids.

I still can't stand the thought of it. As soon as I was old enough to stop participating I did.

I am in bed long before midnight now, I will do nice things with DH and the kids in the early evening then we will all go to bed nice and early then go to my parents for a quiet dinner the next day.

Devonishome1 · 30/12/2019 23:18

I hate it. I also hate it when you have to say “happy new year” to everyone., or when someone says “happy new year” to you. It seems weird and false.

AgentCooper · 30/12/2019 23:25

YANBU. It always seems to make me feel down and a bit panicky. Or a lot panicky.

Hogmanay tv in Scotland is so grim too. Tomorrow night me and DH will be having some nice food, probably watching a scary film and turning in at half ten as usual. I probably will be awake for the bells as midnight-ish is usually when DS has his first wake up of the night!

derxa · 30/12/2019 23:29

Hogmanay tv in Scotland is so grim too. It's not New Year without Jackie Bird. Grin We go to an annual bonfire in the middle of our wee town.

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 30/12/2019 23:30

Odd one out here, as I usually enjoy Hogmanay! I've had some good ones (got engaged one year, dd1 born another!), Some bad ones, and some that were ok, but generally spent with good friends when younger and now I have family round that I don't see much through the year. They bring their kids, the kids all get on and have a good time. It's also dds birthday, so we celebrate both. My family are great fun and we have a few drinks, some party good and play games that usually result in me laughing so much I have sore stomach muscles in the morning. I don't get sentimental or nostalgic, I just appreciate the people who are here in my life here and now and feel blessed that even if it's not been a great year we can still have a laugh.

Smilebehappy123 · 30/12/2019 23:34

It's my birthday you miserable people ha ha

eggandonion · 30/12/2019 23:49

Do you like having birthday on NYE? My ds hates it!
Happy birthday to all NYE people!

Stefoscope · 30/12/2019 23:50

I've never been one for going to parties or out drinking on New Year's Eve. But as a kid my grandparents would always come for New Years lunch, so it always felt a bit like a second Christmas day, we still go and visit my Mum for lunch and exchange Christmas presents, so it feels a bit special. My dad always enjoyed watching the new years day concert at Vienna, so I always listen to the Radetzky March and think of him.

looselegs · 30/12/2019 23:56

I hate new year- always have done although I've only actually realised it over the last couple of years. I don't know why- I've never had anything bad happen at new year- but I just get a bit low and emotional. I'm fine the next morning! Tomorrow I'll be in bed way before 12!

uncomfortablydumb53 · 31/12/2019 00:19

I've felt exactly like this for decades
New Years Eve is also my Birthday
I never celebrate either

Aroundnabout1 · 31/12/2019 00:38

Yes, yes, yes, the OP summed NYE up perfectly. It's a bit shit.

Womenwotlunch · 31/12/2019 00:53

I haven’t been out on NYE for over twenty years. That’s the way I like it

The80sweregreat · 31/12/2019 09:41

It's not been a very good year at all in the 80s household and I know lots of other people who have also had a bad year a lot lot worse than ours.
I'm not completely optimistic about the new one : too much emphasis on being different or better when I think it could be more of the same.
Have to carry on though.

RuthW · 31/12/2019 09:50

I always found it depressing. Now I have a partner who has his birthday today so we celebrate that and not new year.

AgentCooper · 31/12/2019 09:57

@derxa Jackie’s alright but Only An Excuse? Shudder.

And this year on STV we’ve got Sean Beatty’s Very Scottish Hogmanay. Sponsored by Loganair, as if it needed a bit more Scottish 😂

derxa · 31/12/2019 17:29

And this year on STV we’ve got Sean Beatty’s Very Scottish Hogmanay. Sponsored by Loganair, as if it needed a bit more Scottish Grin
Will he be doing the Scottish Children's Lottery? DS who's English always adds 'Scotland's' onto everything e.g. Scotland's dogs or Scotland's trees. Sarcastic git

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Londongirl86 · 31/12/2019 18:02

How is everyone? Im feeling gloomy and preparing myself for our last day together tomorrow before Christmas is over. Also feel abit queasy for some reason. Probably hormones. So sipping water and watching Tele.

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bettybattenburg · 31/12/2019 18:06

We've had fireworks already, cue one terrified dog that I'm looking after Angry

Feelinggoodashell · 31/12/2019 18:10

I feel so down. My marriage ended telling years ago so I guess times like this just make me feel lonely.
But I’m eating dark chocolate Lindt balls and watching “Gordon, Gino and Fred” before I sort dinner for one and watch when Harry met sally!

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Londongirl86 · 31/12/2019 18:13

Poor dog!

Ah yummy. Enjoy your nibbles. I think plenty of us are just at home feeling meh. Goodbye 2019 I guess.

I'm watching Hollyoaks. How's that for a sad evening lol

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lilgreen · 31/12/2019 18:21

I’m sipping fizzy water and lime, preparing a few nibbles. Got to pick DD up from work at 10.15, then will have a little pop of a bottle of fizz. Low key but with the ones I love and that is all that matters to me.

Ilovellamas · 31/12/2019 18:36

Same shite, different year.

Can’t be arsed with any of it.

PixieDustt · 31/12/2019 18:38

No I can never really be bothered with it never have.
I always feel sad for my mum though as my great Nan died on New Year's Eve and it hurts knowing that she dreads the day that so many worldwide celebrate Sad

kinsss · 31/12/2019 18:39

@lilgreen

Lovely sentiment, and I agree so much with you.