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To find new year's eve abit depressing

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 15:48

I am probably alone in this. I don't blame anyone for having an amazing night out or for having a party at new year's. I don't mind that. It's great if you can! It's just new year's right from being a kid has seemed boring and depressing for me lol. My parents did drink and have a few people over as a child. It was fun playing with my cousin's. But I do remember trying to hide at midnight so Drunk adults didn't kiss me haha. I sometimes remember feeling super tired and wanting to go to sleep. As an adult I've not done the parties since 19/20. Due to work and then having my babies.

Also I don't know why but it gives me this feeling of the end in a negative way. The whole goodbye 2019. New starts. Yes people have bad years. But there's plenty of good things I don't want to shut the door on this year. If that makes sense. Then new year's Day just feels quiet and boring. Plus my partner's back at work on the 2nd of January. So it feels like it's also the end of our family time. It also is like a goodbye to christmas. Christmas went so fast this year. It was lovely and we've been in a state of late nights, junk food and lots of Tele. I have loved it. I don't want it to end lol.

I'm not a misery. I'm not bothered that people have fun. I just can't get into new year's and never have been able to x

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mindproject · 30/12/2019 17:04

We stay up to watch Jools Holland, eat some crisps, say Happy New Year, then go to bed. Sometimes a friend comes round to eat crisps with us. It is very boring. I haven't been out for 12 years as going out is even more boring.

m0therofdragons · 30/12/2019 17:06

We have Christmas with family and nye with friends. I was never bothered but recently we have had friends over with their kids - food, drink (not getting hammered), and games with friends. I'm looking forward to it.

lilgreen · 30/12/2019 17:07

Yeah, teens at NYE. Last year I was picking my 18 yr old up from a party and holding her hair out of the way while she threw up! Enjoy nye before that arrives!

blue25 · 30/12/2019 17:09

It’s made up and meaningless

Really? I don’t think new year is made up though is it??

We always enjoy it with friends and have a good laugh. I don’t see why people make everything into an issue.

Feelinggoodashell · 30/12/2019 17:10

When I was married my husband always insisted on big new year plans which I hated. Now I’m single I watch when Harry met sally, have a take away and get an early night. I wouldn’t want to spend it any other way!

lilgreen · 30/12/2019 17:11

What is NYE? The end of a man made calendar year. Made up? Yep.

PinkiOcelot · 30/12/2019 17:12

I hate NYE. I find it totally depressing. I’ll be in bed well before 12.

fairislecable · 30/12/2019 17:20

I too hate NYE the forced jollity the happy, happy, happy stuff, when the new year could be awful.

I love the stasis time between Christmas and 31 December as it gives us all the opportunity to step off the treadmill of daily life.

So large gin and tonic nice nibbles and bed by 11:00

Newmetoday · 30/12/2019 17:23

I miss new year in Scotland. It’s brilliant up there. In England it’s boring. Everyone is miserable about it. This thread confirms my view

Newmetoday · 30/12/2019 17:26

it’s made up and meaningless

I’m amazed people aren’t saying it’s an americanism.

Dieu · 30/12/2019 17:27

I'm totally with you, OP! I am the biggest fan of Christmas, but an absolute New Year grinch. It's so depressing.

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 17:38

It's made up as in what's so special about January 1st. It's cold, boring and everyone's skint. Why do people walk around saying every year, I'm glad to see the back of this year. Like January 1st truly changes rubbish things. It's more important to go through life rememebering the good parts. Like Christmas day, holidays, summer BBQs, random days with your kids, success at work, children's acheivements, nice walks, concerts or shows, birthdays, enjoying hobbies, pub lunches, weekends away, gardening, summer, autumn, Halloween, Easter holidays.

It just feels like new year is focused on the depressing stuff. Like I must change my ways. I must diet. I must join a gym. I must stop letting men ruin my life. I must stop drinking. I must stop caring. Then by Feb it's forgotten.

I just don't personally like to shut the door on the year. My partner and children were that year and by the end of the next one they will be so much bigger. I dunno. I just find it depressing. But as stated already it's great if you like a party and getting drunk. It's s good job some people look forward to it. But I'm glad I'm not alone with the feelings of overated.

Films
Bottle of wine
Food
In bed before 12 all sounds great lol x

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CarolinaPink · 30/12/2019 17:39

Glad it's not just me! 😂

SassenachWitch · 30/12/2019 17:40

I hate New Year’s Eve, but DP loves it. If it were up to me I’d have a normal lazy night, chilling on the sofa with snacks. Instead I’m forced to either throw a party in my house or dragged to some crappy social club.

Apparently I’m boring 🤔

bettybattenburg · 30/12/2019 17:42

It's probably my least favourite day of the year so YANBU.

U2HasTheEdge · 30/12/2019 17:50

YANBU

It depresses me too. It means I am back to work soon, back to the normal routine of life and it is dull crappy January and still months of grey to look 'forward' to.

I just feel really dark and sad.

KnitFastDieWarm · 30/12/2019 17:50

Used to hate it and thought it was pointless depressing nonsense. Then in 2008 I started celebrating it with Scottish DP (now DH) and all our friends, and I absolutely love it. We always have a relaxed house party, good company, great music, a chance to catchup with people back home for the festive season who live all over the world and who I don’t see all year, plenty of nice beers. At midnight we all traipse outside, drinks in hand, to watch the fireworks over Edinburgh castle from the garden. It’s a lovely ritual for me.

TantricTwist · 30/12/2019 17:57

I was all set to go to bed last year at 9pm lol, but DD dragged me into the shower to go with her to my friends NYE party where some of her friends would be and I ended up having the best time.

This year I'm planning on going to bed early again so DD and DS have already made their own plans.

I always preferred NYE to Christmas and now its the other way round.

RebelWithVerySharpClaws · 30/12/2019 18:02

I fucking hate it, with a vengeance. Growing up, my little family was desperately poor and dysfunctional, never had guests or went anywhere. That sad kind of FOMO feeling has never left, no matter what party. We go to bed at 10.30 now and ignore the fucker.

Cattenberg · 30/12/2019 18:08

I don’t usually mind NYE, but I’m not looking forward to this one. Some of my friends are struggling financially and I’m going to join them in living frugally next year, because the economy is looking a bit shit.

2020 looks as though it ought to be a cool year, and I used to like the idea of living in the twenties. I’m not hopeful, but you never know. Life does throw us nice surprises from time to time.

Likethebattle · 30/12/2019 18:10

I phas bed Hogmanay as a child. We’d all mule round to my aunts house, the adults would get drunk and we’d be allowed to stay up late. It’s a big thing in Scotland and not made up for us. (Also 2nd is a bank holiday here so I am still off).

I hate the darkness afterwards it makes me anxious until the spring comes back. Also Auld Lang Syne-you DO NOT cross your arms at the very start that happens at the first chorus! Thank you.

HeIenaDove · 30/12/2019 18:21

I love Christmas but always get really down afterwards. Could feel it starting last night. Have always found NY depressing right from my childhood/teenage years because it meant i was going back to school which i hated as it was the place where i was being bullied.

I think its depressing now because for a lot of people things wont get better but worse.

GreyGardens88 · 30/12/2019 18:25

Yes, always back to work for me on the 2nd, so the chimes at midnight almost feel like an alarm for me to get my head in work mode again. I would rather work in between xmas and new year so that I can enjoy new year more as a standalone celebration, oh well

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londongirl86 · 30/12/2019 18:32

It seems alot of us feel like it's a bell ringing reminding us it's time to go back to reality. It's such a huge buildup from November isn't it. All the present buying, decorations, food plans. Building up the magic for the kids. Advent calenders, going to see lights etc. Then they break up. Is a few days of waiting around excited. Then it's the 25th. Boxing day Is half nice. As you get to enjoy the kids playing with new stuff etc. But i still think it was Christmas Eve and suddenly we are on the other side. I'd rather skip the next couple of months and head into spring now. Skip norovirus season. Skip the icy mornings. Skip the dark nights.

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EssentialHummus · 30/12/2019 18:38

I used to dislike it, then I met Russian DH. It’s a massive thing for Russians - they watch the same film every year, make elaborate toasts to one another, watch Putin’s address, ring relatives and then sit down for an elaborate meal at midnight, half-cut. Then open gifts around the new year tree. You know what? I actually enjoy it. I’ve gone from anthropological detachment to bemusement to genuine warm for the occasion.

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