To think it's weird that she used the family bathroom?

[FairfaxAikman]

Friend of mine visited the house yesterday.

She's been here before and knows we have a downstairs guest loo but yesterday when she asked to use the loo she went upstairs to the main bathroom (which was in a bit of a mess as wasn't expecting anyone to see it)
To do so she had to navigate two baby gates, so it's not like it's the easier option.

AIBU to think it's weird?

That is weird. Is the door stiff? Maybe she thought someone was in the WC?

Possibly needed to poo or fart really loudly and didn't want you to hear?

That's usually the only reason I'd go to a further loo

She probably needed a poo and didn't want to do it in ear/noseshot of everyone downstairs.

Do you have a bin in both?

I was thinking poo too!

She just needed privacy, not strange at all. Downstairs loos are rarely private enough

I hate using downstairs loos, three family members have them and whenever we visit their houses, I'll always opt for upstairs.

I'd be thinking poo as well..I'd hate to crap in someone else's downstairs toilet.

I'm not sure it would register with me really. I always make sure both bathrooms are in a decent state before visitors for this reason!

I never use the downstairs loo in MIL’s, it’s right off the kitchen and very small and cramped. I don’t think it’s odd at all to opt for the more private one.

Plus our downstairs loo is quite small so I wouldn't like to change a tampon/sanitary towel in it, etc.

I hate using downstairs loos in other people’s houses. Everyone there seems really nearby

Is your downstairs bathroom an under the stairs type thing, or adjoining to the living room with rather thin walls?

A number of perfectly normal reasons spring to mind.

Its that time of the month - she doesn't want everyone to hear her rustling, or you have neglected to put a bin in the downstairs loo.

Perhaps she needed a poo and didn't want to stink out the area, especially if it leads from the hallway or kitchen.

Perhaps she needed a bit more space to sort out some misbehaving clothing.

It's not weird per se

If your family bathroom is more private and further away from everyone then I can see why she might prefer that one. Not weird at all.

Plenty of people prefer not to be taking a shit with the rest of the household too close by.

What is odd, as in really very very odd - is you starting this thread on the matter

I agree - she needed a poo and was worried she'd be overheard

I never use our downstairs loo or the downstairs loo in my mums house unless I have to because they’re very small and cramped and everyone feels too near by.

She probably needed a poo/to change a pad and didn’t want people to hear

I've done this in people's houses when I've been gripped by an urgent bowel movement and didn't want to do it in the toilet adjoining the kitchen where everyone was eating. A lot of downstairs loos offer very little privacy.

We have a downstairs loo and upstairs bathroom. I direct everyone to the upstairs bathroom because I'd rather not have to hear what they're up to.

I don’t think it’s odd tbh. I don’t even use the downstairs loo in my own house. Just prefer upstairs bathroom.

It's pretty obvious she just wanted to be further from the other people in the house while she was doing whatever she went there to do. Seems pretty normal.

What is odd, as in really very very odd - is you starting this thread on the matter

This. Not sure anyone wants a friend that if you need to shit and use the upstairs loo they come onto mumsnet, start a thread about uou and call you odd

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course.

Not sure anyone wants a friend that if you need to shit and use the upstairs loo they come onto mumsnet, start a thread about uou and call you odd

good point Bluntness