To think it's weird that she used the family bathroom?

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Friend of mine visited the house yesterday.

She's been here before and knows we have a downstairs guest loo but yesterday when she asked to use the loo she went upstairs to the main bathroom (which was in a bit of a mess as wasn't expecting anyone to see it)
To do so she had to navigate two baby gates, so it's not like it's the easier option.

AIBU to think it's weird?

Until I joined MN I didnt realise some people would only poo in their own toilet. If you need to poo just poo!

I had an almighty fart in my downstairs loo the other day - a real ceiling-rattler. And then remembered that my relatives were all sitting politely in the next room and the door to the loo isn’t nearly as soundproof as I’d like. In hindsight I’d have used the bathroom upstairs.

Yeah I'd assume she might have had an upset stomach or something

OP if you're having guest and embarrassed by mess give it a tidy.
Your Dfriend may start a thread "we were at a friends, I used the main bathroom for privacy it was manky my arse was so offended" at no point did she think both bathroom could be used with extra visitors.

Probably wanted to look at what shampoo you use,shower gel etc, have a bit of a nosy. I would.

@luckylavender I'm sorry that you detest it. It is not an attitude that I choose. It's just how I am. I can't change it.

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course.

Shock horror. Person uses toilet for its intended purpose.

Literally having a poo right now !! In an upstairs bathroom!!!

I agree with whoever said she needed a more private poo. I’m sure someone must have.

At work there is a loo just outside the office and another at the end of a long corridor of empty store rooms. This is known as the poo loo. Everybody knows where you're going but nobody cares any more. People want privacy to poo.

@Batshittery - you could change it if you wanted. Easier to change than bodily functions.

I think it's wierd too, but according to MN it's not.

We live in a 3 storey house with 3 bathrooms. The one downstairs had a loo & shower. The one on the first floor has a loo & bath. I have 5 kids and their bedrooms are on the 1st floor, so it's 'their' bathroom. I do clean it once a day but they leave loo roll trailing on the floor, towels on the floor, soap slim all over the sink, skid marks in the loo and it's just generally a mess. DH & I sleep on the second floor and have an en-suit bathroom with a loo, bath and shower.

I expect guests to use to loo downstairs. If I hear/see them going up to the 'kids' bathroom instead it fills me with dread!! 😂

Maybe she wanted to have a poo in peace

Our downstairs loo is out by the front door. There's a door between it and the living room - you hear more going on in the main bathroom as it's at the top of the stairs, which open onto the living room.
Downstairs is a proper sized loo with a window, not squashed and dark under stairs.

I have IBS and quite often have to have quite a few visits to the loo. If the delicate flowers on here realised how many posters might be mumsnetting while on the loo, they’d be dunking their tablets and phones in bleach. 😁

This thread has made me giggle. First world problems...and your poor friend, if she sees this.....

The layout sounds similar to ours, and I've had friends nip upstairs to the loo because they don't realise there is a loo back by the front door. I don't mind, because the downstairs loo is bloody freezing in winter and I won't use it myself.

Maybe she has emetophobia/anxiety/OCD and didn't want to use the downstairs loo which may have been poo'd in by other people?? This is actually a reason I use the upstairs loo at big family gatherings because the thought of inhaling other people's poo during norovirus season is a bit too icky to deal with. Though admittedly I only do this at our in-laws house which we're very familiar with so it's not odd for someone to pop upstairs.

A lot of anxiety issues are incredibly well hidden so you can't tell for certain even if you've known a friend all our life. None of my friends irl even suspect that I have emetophobia!

How neurotic to even notice where a visitor went to the toilet.

MN opens my eyes to people I never knew existed.

For those saying they wouldn't have noticed, maybe not if it was a packed house but it was literally me, DH, DS her and her partner

It’s not a horrific insult on your friend’s name if you dare perform a basic body function in their house

Apparently it is in mumsnet world .
Obviously she needed a poo or a fart or something else requiring more privacy.

Why does it matter which loo she used ? If you now tell her you'd rather she didn't use your main bathroom she'll probably be highly embarrassed and not come round to yours again in case she needs the loo.

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course.

Why?! Kind what the loo is there for tbh. Mind I have to say, I do get a bit embarassed in public loos if I need a crap..

Batshittery - nice name too..lol

I once used the upstairs loo in a friend of DH’s house. The reason being, i’d only ever lived in flats & simply forgot there were 2 loos, especially one downstairs. The friend’s wife was not amused & has not spoken to us since 🤣🤣. This was approximately 15 years ago.

Of course no great loss but I think she was embarrassed as it was not clean. I did apologise but she thought I was fibbing about forgetting.

It was a sprout fart.

It’s the only polite thing to do isolate yourself from other nearby humans!